Marriage does not necessarily make women's lives better, and being single does not necessarily make women's lives worse. If you have the ability to support yourself, marriage or not may not be so important.
Whether a person is doing well or not, still has to rely on himself. It's useless to rely on your partner or family, because you can't guarantee that they will always treat you well, nor that they will really care about you.
Only when you are strong and capable can you live the life you want without being restricted by others.
Love and marriage are not all of our lives. If they can't make us live better and more at ease, why bother to pursue them?
01. Sister Gong
After remarrying, I understand: After a middle-aged woman is single, it is rare to encounter love and blossom.
Because the rich are pleasing to the eye, he will pick younger women; the less pleasing to the eye, it is also a pit, and it will be more sad after jumping in and crawling out.
The reason for the divorce from his ex-husband is actually not that complicated. He has money, a good family, and a decent appearance.
Of course, I am not bad. Having his own business, his appearance is not one in a hundred, but it is above average.
Our combination at the beginning can be said to match all aspects, and it is enviable and praised. However, we finally got divorced.
He made a mistake that many men would make-cheating.
He has money and looks good, but at the same time it gives him the confidence to cheat. We were married less than ten years before he had a lover outside.
That woman is younger than me and more beautiful than me, and will please him. I tried to restore the relationship between us, and because of this, I have talked to him many times, but the result only made me feel more chilling.
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not only that,Because of his derailment, "friends" and neighbors who used to be envious or good to me, after learning the truth of the matter, changed their faces to me.
doesn't mean to show me in person, but I always point and point behind me, and occasionally the eyes when I look at me are inexplicable. Not long after
, I took the initiative to file for a divorce with my ex-husband. I don't want to be treated like this again, and I don't want to waste time with him again. After the divorce, I quickly left his house with my children and moved to my newly bought residence.
Since then, I haven't fallen in love or remarried for a long time. Until I was in my fifties, I met a man who was not rich but looked pleasing to the eye. Only after remarrying him, I found that I had "chosen wrong" again.
He did not cheat, nor did he have too much yearning for the outside world, but he was not self-motivated, nor did he really like me. He was with me for my money.
Moreover, in addition to letting me buy this and that for him, and treating me as an ATM, I also asked me to help his brothers and sisters, and treat me as a "catcher"! Because of this, I divorced him after only two years of marriage.
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Many times, women's wind and rain are brought by men, and the only thing left for marriage is children. It is so easy to be single. How could I repeat the same mistakes?
So, in order to get myself out of the quagmire as soon as possible, I decisively divorced him and took away everything that belonged to me. I regained my single life.
However, after living by myself, I feel more comfortable and happier. Maybe it's me after the divorce. I have a house, a car, and a pension.
has the ability to live on your own, you can buy what you want, and do whatever you want, without looking at people's faces or relying on others for giving. That being the case, why do you still have to spend time with a man? Isn't it better for me to live by myself?
After thinking about these things, I stopped thinking about remarrying or finding a wife. Usually take a walk, go shopping, travel with the neighbors or old sisters around,Go for a square dance or something at night.
My daughter and son will come to see me from time to time and have a meal with me... I don't regret my decision, I think this kind of life is what I want.
The true destination of a woman is not marriage or family, but the self who has an independent life. There is no need to rely on others, and no need to worry about unnecessary things.
As the saying goes: It is better to rely on yourself than on others. Only when a person is strong and capable can he be fearless, have the confidence to live for himself, and have the capital to pursue a better life.
Outer poverty is not terrible, but inner poverty is terrible. It doesn't matter if we don't have money for the time being, as long as we are willing to make progress and strive for our goals, life will not be too bad.
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