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My boyfriend is 28 years old this year, in Jiangsu; I am 27 years old this year, in Guangdong. We met in college, but we didn’t have much intersection at that time, just because we met several times during some events. I studied medicine, so after graduation I applied for a job in the hospital in my hometown, and my work was relatively stable. After graduation, he returned to his hometown in Jiangsu and found a pretty good job, with a promising career. After an unintentional contact, we felt that we could chat with each other, so we gradually established a romantic relationship and have been in love for a year now.
Although it is a long-distance relationship, we are very happy. Many times he really understands me. Usually we would contact us on WeChat and would chat with us after work. We didn’t feel that it was very hard at first. He will come to see me during holidays as long as time allows, about five or six times. Because I'm busy with work, I've only been to his side once.
Long-distance relationship has been around for a long time, and we think it is not a solution, so we started to discuss what to do in the future. My boyfriend hopes that I will quit my job and go to Jiangsu to develop and be with him, but my family and friends don’t want me to marry far away. From the perspective of my boyfriend, his work has a more promising future; from the perspective of my family, my work is quite stable. It is too risky to run so far away from home, a girl. My family even suggested that I break up with my boyfriend, but I really love him. I don’t know what I would do if I break up...
Troubleshooting worries and solve doubts
Hello, many people will face problems in other places in their relationships. It is indeed difficult to have a perfect solution when solving it. Often one party has to make sacrifices and concessions. If two people live happily in the future, they will feel that this sacrifice is worth it; but if they live happily in the future, or even divorce, many people will fall into regret.
Some people say that ten people marry far away and regret nine. The important reason is that marrying far away often means leaving familiar relatives, friends, work, and environment. Leaving all this means that you are prone to lose yourself, which is a risky behavior. I think this is also why your family and friends oppose your marriage from afar. Even if you marry locally, there are still risks, but relatively speaking, there are not so many things you need to give up and the risks are not that great. After all, you have a stable job in the hospital, and it is convenient for you to take care of your parents in the future. Once you go to your boyfriend's city, it may be difficult for you to spend too much time with your parents.
You love your boyfriend very much, so how does your boyfriend treat you? Do you love you very much? If he loves you very much, can he come to Guangdong to develop? Men need space. After women go to the city where men are, they will subconsciously approach the man, which may make men feel limited; while women need warmth. When men go to the city where women are, they will make women feel happy. So when you go to the other party’s city, the mentality of men and women will be very different.
If you decide to go to Jiangsu, you must think about what you do after you get there, such as applying for a hospital there, etc. You can wait until you are sure to be hired before going there, which is more secure for you. In order to pursue love, going to the city where your boyfriend is located to develop is not a problem in itself, but what you need to do is to be able to take into account your career development. Once your new career is determined, you will have your own life, new interpersonal relationships, new interests and pursuits in another place.
Therefore, whether you want to quit your stable job and go to your boyfriend's side must follow your heart. What you need to pay special attention to is: make full preparations before making a choice.
