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In society, no one is alone. To gain a firm foothold in this society, it is not enough to rely on one's own strength alone.
One of the inevitable conditions for success is to unite and help each other as a support. Mutual help is also a good virtue. Everyone knows how to contribute, and society will definitely be harmonious and positive.
. People always have seven emotions and six desires. These emotions and desires are two-way, and sometimes they will guide people to be upward and good. On the other hand, they will make people evil and selfish.
There was a saying in the old society that said, "If a person does not do his own thing, he will punish him and destroy him." This sentence exposes the selfish and greedy side of people's hearts.
But then again, is it really a sin if people are more selfish?
is not necessarily the case. As long as your selfishness does not harm the interests of others, then why not be more selfish?
Friends should help each other, not to mention the connection between relatives. The connection between blood makes the emotions between relatives simple and natural.
doesn’t even need to get along much. Greetings during festivals seem to have a deep relationship with relatives, but in fact they are not the case. After all, there is a gap between people.
Some people will regard their relatives as their borrowers, especially for those who want to borrow money to live without money.
Relatives were the first to think of, and people like this often have difficulty in repaying them.
Because the other party is your relative, he has a lot of blood connections with you, and interpersonal relationships overlap with you, so it is actually not easy to refuse.
People often say that "one moves the whole body", how to refuse relatives to borrow money is an art.
episodes make the other party unable to understand, and if the other party is too heavy, the other party thinks you look down on him. It is very likely that you will say bad things in front of a common relative to harm your face.
Poet Wang Guozhen said: Rejecting others must be polite, because no one likes to be rejected.
No matter what the relatives come to borrow money for, if you say "not accepting", it will often make the other party feel that you are unkind.
Observation found that when relatives come to borrow money, people with low emotional intelligence will directly say "not to borrow", and people with high emotional intelligence will refuse like this.
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Since you are a relative, you have to take into account your affection. It is best not to do anything between relatives.
When a relative who you don’t want to lend money to you, it will often be a very embarrassing situation, and it is unreasonable to directly refuse. After all, others come to you and say that you have no money and it seems too perfunctory.
, especially for relatives whose relationships are not bad, it can be said that it is not right to borrow, nor is it not right to borrow. In this case, you must have a statement, saying that you want to help him very much. This is to keep your mercy, and you must also show sincerity.
cannot be empty talk, so that he can know that the money in your hands is also limited, but you are willing to give some to help him. First, it shows your attitude, and second, it will not lend a lot.
is useful for a person who wants to borrow money, no matter how much or how much it is. When you show your attitude and give it a part of it, from your own perspective, it is already the most righteous.
If the other party is dissatisfied, it is suspected of being dissatisfied, and even if he is dissatisfied, it is his problem.
But remember not to be hypocritical or too artificial. Consider the other party's dignity and help him with more ideas.
I also owe money
Rejecting others to borrow money, in the eyes of some people, it is just a matter of one sentence. They can borrow if they can, and they cannot borrow if they cannot, and they will not borrow if they do not.
But in reality, it is very difficult to truly "turn straight".
As relatives, they have contacts every year and holiday. Few people can ignore those feelings. Refusing to borrow money is not just saying "I won't lend it to you". We must learn to find some reasons for ourselves.
From the reality, every family has more or less debts, and many families are carrying mortgages and car loans.
In fact, this is a long-lasting lifestyle. Loans and debts can enable people to enjoy superior material conditions in advance in their lives. As long as they repay on time, they can enhance their sense of happiness.
Loaning is a good reason to refuse to borrow money. Tell him that you owe money yourself, how can you lend it to him?
But this is another very specific thing. You can’t say that you have a mortgage and car loan, but you have to explain the “severity” of your debt, giving people the feeling that your family is also difficult.
Because you owe money, but your life is not that bad. You should focus on the key points of your own owed money.
"Financial power" is not in your own hands
There is a very common phenomenon in modern marriage - the fiscal power is in one person's hands.
A happy marriage actually doesn’t care whoever manages the money, but the family’s deposits are in the name of a certain person, which is a common phenomenon.
In many marriages, the woman holds "financial power" and the man "paid" his salary, so this becomes a reason to refuse others to borrow money, and the other party is not good to go over to you to find your family.
The financial power is in the hands of my wife. This is actually understood by the world, and it is not something that is difficult to accept or strange.
When you say that the financial power is in the hands of your wife, saying this is equivalent to saying that you are "pendiculous". If you have it, it is just a few pocket money, and of course you have no money to lend it out.
It is easier to reject strangers, although it is relatives, for example, the relatives of the man do not actually have any blood ties to the woman, but are just relatives of status.
pushes the burden to a woman, and she will find a reason to refuse, which is equivalent to crossing your relationship, but this should be discussed with your partner. The so-called husband and wife can also be used in this kind of thing.
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Relatives help each other is a kind of love, and not helping is also a duty.
Most people hope to keep their mercy, but they don’t want to borrow money to go out.
After all, lending money to certain relatives is equivalent to beating a dog with meat buns. If you go there, no one wants to suffer such a big loss.
If you don’t want to be a “subter”, you must learn to be more tactful and find some appropriate reasons.
Borrowing money means relationships between human relationships. When others have helped you with all their strength, you should also show sincerity when others are in trouble and not be perfunctory.
Don’t think that borrowing money is a loss. For some relatives with good character, borrowing money is also a kind of favor investment and will be of great benefit to future development.
But if the other party just treats you as an "ATM" and "subord", then you have to find a way to refuse, and keep silent and not give him the chance to ask you for money next time.
