Text: Pan Zhihong
This time, I really want a divorce.
My husband’s family bullies me too much. I have tolerated all kinds of rejections in the past. This time my mother-in-law's house was demolished and replaced with a new one, and they only wrote my husband's name behind my back. Can I still live like this?
My name is Huang Cuicui, I am 34 years old, the mother of a 4-year-old child, and a kindergarten teacher.
My husband Guo Changlin and I met by chance.
Once after school, the children in the small class were picked up by their parents one after another. There was only one child named Wang Xiaopeng, but no one came to pick him up. He was so anxious that he cried.
I called the child’s mother and she said that she had something to do and asked her uncle to pick her up and she would be there in a moment.
I kept comforting Wang Xiaopeng, holding him in my arms, singing and telling stories, and tried my best to finally comfort him.
After a long time, I finally heard the guard shouting: Wang Xiaopeng’s family has come to pick him up.
I quickly took his little hand and ran to the door.
A tall and handsome boy is standing outside the gate.
"Uncle", as soon as the door opened, Wang Xiaopeng rushed towards this person excitedly. The big boy opened his arms, picked him up and raised him above his head. Wang Xiaopeng giggled.
Are you really his uncle? I asked further.
is guaranteed to be replaced if it is fake. He smiled, showing two rows of white teeth.
Then he said embarrassedly, thank you teacher, I was late for something, thank you for your trouble.
Wang Xiaopeng said in a sweet voice, our teacher Huang is so good, she sings to me and tells me stories
Right? No wonder our Xiaopeng likes going to kindergarten so much.
Xiaopeng's uncle turned around and said to me, my sister has been busy recently and entrusted me to pick up Xiaopeng during this period
In this way, let's add WeChat and contact her if anything happens.
Just like that, we got to know each other.
Looking at his back wearing a helmet and riding a motorcycle away, I felt an inexplicable joy in my heart.
Through chatting, I learned that he worked in a real estate agency and was still a small leader.
My family is from a rural area. My younger brother was still in college at the time. I came to this kindergarten after graduating from normal school.
Before that, because I had reached the age of marriage, my parents began to look for a partner for me in the county.
Although I have seen several of them, I don’t like any of them. First of all, their appearance is not up to par.
One day, Guo Changlin sent me a WeChat message: Can you come out for dinner tonight?
You take such good care of Xiaopeng. I want to thank you in person. Don’t refuse. Then he made a smiley face.
Just like that, Guo Changlin and I had our first date.
It turns out that he lost his father when he was a child, and his mother single-handedly raised the two brothers and sisters into adulthood.
He said he wanted to find a kind-hearted girl to be filial to her mother.
I was touched by his filial piety. He is so kind and loves children so much. He must be a good husband.
In less than half a year, we decided to get married, and on New Year's Day, we held a simple wedding.
After we got married, we lived with his mother. He said that my salary card and hers should be given to his mother and asked her to keep it for us.
also said that her mother has saved her whole life. The money will be kept for us first and will be ours in the future.
My monthly pocket money requires my husband to give me a bonus.
Since my mother-in-law and husband were in charge of eating, drinking, and drinking, I was too lazy to take care of it, so I acquiesced to her mother-in-law's approach.
But what happened next made me furious.
Once I was buying thermal underwear online, and I specifically asked my mother-in-law if I wanted to buy her one too?
My mother-in-law asked me what to do with that spare money? She has clothes to wear. I just bought one for myself.
As a result, when I went to look for this dress three days later, I couldn't find it. Later, I discovered that it was actually worn on my mother-in-law.
I was very angry and asked my mother-in-law why she didn’t say anything to me when she went to my room to get clothes.
After hearing this, my husband said: Isn’t it just one piece of clothing? What happened if my mother wore it? I said: It doesn’t matter if you wear my clothes, at least say hello to me!
Guo Changlin glared and said: What if the family doesn’t say hello? Why are you so serious?
I was so angry and my blood pressure was about to rise, and I was already wearing it. What else could I do? I had to buy another one.
One Sunday, my aunt came to my house to play with her children.
The child ran straight to my bedroom and jumped up on my newly purchased spring bed. He jumped all morning, making my bed a mess and almost causing it to collapse.
It’s hard for me to say anything in front of my eldest sister. The second time they came, I locked the bedroom door. I don’t know what my eldest sister said, but Guo Changlin said to me with a dark face: What do you mean by locking the door? What do you want my sister to think?
I said: Why didn’t you ask me what I thought? She treats our house as a playground. Don’t I have the right to lock the door of my own home?
While we were arguing, my mother-in-law took over and said, you really treat yourself like a green onion. You come from a rural area. When will it be your turn to have the final say in this family?
I almost jumped up with anger, and just when I was about to get angry, Guo Changlin took my hand and said, my mother is old, don't make her unhappy, don't make her angry anymore.
I was really blind to find such a hypocrite, who kept saying he wanted to be good to me, but since I got married, she always stood by her mother's side whenever anything happened.
We had a cold war with for a week without talking.
Just when I was considering whether to continue living, I suddenly found out that I was pregnant. This new life was innocent, so how could I be willing to abort it.
I told my mother about my idea of divorce, and she said don’t be impulsive. Maybe it would be nice if they have grandchildren.
For the sake of my children, I decided not to care about them anymore.
When Guo Changlin learned that he was a father, he happily hugged me and spun me around.
But the mother-in-law said with a face, I am not in good health, and I will ask your mother to take care of you during the confinement period.
The child was born, a girl, and her mother-in-law looked even more disgusted. I don't want to take a second look.
When my mother was taking care of her confinement at my house, my mother-in-law never helped. My mother had to take care of the children, cook, and clean. Too tired to stand upright.
Guo Changlin changed his job at that time and was often away from home on business trips. He didn’t even know how much he was going too far.
My mother-in-law sometimes thinks that the food cooked by her mother is not delicious, and sometimes she thinks that her mother is too wasteful.
My mother was so angry that she no longer wanted to stay at my house after the full moon, not to mention there were a lot of things going on at home.
Fearing that I would not be able to eat well or sleep well at my in-laws’ house, my mother decided to take us mother and daughter back to our hometown. I took a long leave, and we did not return to my in-laws’ house until the child was almost able to walk. During the period of
, Guo Changlin often visited the child, and every time he held the child, he couldn't get enough kisses. But because I was busy with work, I left in a hurry every time.
Once I took my daughter home without saying hello in advance.
As soon as I opened the door, I found my aunt and mother-in-law muttering something in the room.
When she saw me coming back, my mother-in-law said unhappily, why are you back at this time? Without telling me in advance, your sister said she would stay at our house tonight.
I was about to sit down, but my mother-in-law said: We are having a family meeting, you'd better avoid it.
I had no choice but to take my child for a walk outside. We didn’t go back until the child said he was hungry.
Later I learned that an old house owned by my husband’s family had been demolished and replaced with a new house. They agreed to write only Guo Changlin's name in the house book, not mine.
I suddenly felt sad.
I usually look at my mother-in-law’s face when I buy anything worth a penny, and she says I am a prodigal woman.
Sometimes when I buy something online, I don’t dare to have it delivered to my home by courier.
I can only send it to the workplace by express delivery, first remove the packaging, and then put it in the bag and take it back. If my mother-in-law sees me, she will reprimand me for not being able to live a good life.
I use fully automatic washing machine to wash clothes. My mother-in-law said that I was wasting water and she told me to wash them by hand. I took a long bath in the bathroom, and my mother-in-law also said that I was wasting water.
Now that such a big thing is happening, they are making decisions behind my back. They really treat me like an outsider.
In the evening when Guo Changlin got off work, I had a showdown with him. I want a divorce, my daughter will be mine, and she will take my surname from now on.
Guo Changlin said puzzledly, how serious is it to get divorced?
After hearing this, my mother-in-law said, "Why should we, the descendants of the Guo family, change your family's surname?" You can go and leave the child behind.
I said: Mom, you haven’t wanted to take another look at your child since he was born. How many times have you held him? Do you have a relationship with your child? You are getting older, and if I tire you out again, Guo Changlin will really become known as an unfilial son.
When I returned to my room, I told Guo Changlin, you will pay the monthly alimony after the divorce and return all my salary to me. I have a list here.
Guo Changlin also said plausibly, "I've told you, it's not easy for my mother to raise us sisters. I just want to honor her. Why can't you honor her with me?" Do you have to tear our family apart to feel at ease?
I didn’t say a word.
I am not filial to her, can I get up every morning and make breakfast? I can buy her clothes in spring, summer, autumn and winter. Can I let my mother take care of me during confinement?
If Guo Changlin had a conscience, could he say such a thing? Is he blind?
We didn't say a word all night.
The next day he went to work, and my mother-in-law went to my aunt's house. I packed up all my and my daughter's things and returned to my parents' house. Before I left, I wrote a letter and placed it on my bedside. Say your final goodbyes.
There has been no news from Guo Changlin for several days. I am sure that we are really doomed this time.
A week later, Guo Changlin came to see me. I thought he was going to go through divorce procedures with me.
He held my hand and said to me: Wife, I was wrong. I agree to all your conditions, as long as you really don’t divorce me.
First of all, we live separately from my mother and hire a nanny for her when necessary.
Secondly, add your name on the property certificate of the new house.
The most important thing is that from now on, our money is yours, and you can buy whatever you want.
Now you can feel at ease.
After you left, I read your letter and thought a lot about it. After you got married, you paid so much for this family, but I accommodated my mother in every way and didn't take your feelings into consideration at all. I don't treat you as one of my own, which makes you feel wronged.
Later I found out that when we were getting married, my mother-in-law disliked me for being from a rural area and having a younger brother who didn’t have a family. She was afraid that I would be a drag on their family in the future. It was Guo Changlin who went on a hunger strike to confront her, so my mother-in-law reluctantly agreed to the marriage.
During our divorce, my mother-in-law asked others to introduce him to several blind dates, but he rejected them all.
At the critical moment, the pig teammate was finally able to lift it clearly.
My tears immediately rolled down like broken beads. As I cried, I beat him with my hands: What did you do to make us almost divorce?
He held me tightly in his arms and gently wiped away my tears. Suddenly, like magic, he took out a bunch of keys from his pocket and said to me: Mistress, let's go home.
