People are old, their actions are slow, and their thinking is out of date. They seem to be unpopular wherever they go, and they are disliked wherever they go. Even the children who he raised with his own hands looked at him with a bit more disgust.
Have you ever felt like this?
Narrator: Aunt Ma, 76 years old
Coming to my son’s house to celebrate the New Year this time is probably the decision I regret most in my life. In the future, I may kill someone to celebrate the New Year, or I may celebrate the New Year in a nursing home. I will definitely not lose face like this again.
I have a son and a daughter. My daughter is married in another place, and my son is in another city in our province, not too far away. It's more than an hour's drive away, and if you really want to, you can come back every weekend. But my son and daughter-in-law said they were busy with work and couldn't come a few times a year. This was the case when my wife was here before.
My wife left five years ago. I was suddenly confused. I retired as a teacher. At that time, my husband was a mechanic in the factory. It is said that my ability to take care of myself is not very good, so I may be focusing on teaching. Whether it's housework or cooking, it's all done by men. My man is very honest and down-to-earth, with a good character, but I don’t know why a good man leaves so early.
When my wife passed away, I had no choice but to go to a nursing home. I couldn’t even cook. In fact, my health is not bad, but my ability to take care of myself is poor. I rented out my family house for 2,500, and rented a garage for another 300 to store things. The cost of the nursing home is 4,800 per month. The conditions are pretty good and the environment is good. My monthly retirement salary is more than 6,000, so I can still save a little more every month.
In the past few years, I went to my daughter’s house out of town to celebrate the Chinese New Year. My son-in-law drove 12 hours to pick me up a few days before the Chinese New Year. He himself is not in good health this year, so I can’t talk about it, and I don’t want to trouble them.
Maybe my daughter told my son, so he called me and asked me to stay with them. Just go, half of the elderly people in the nursing home will be taken back by their children to celebrate the New Year.
On the other hand, after I actually came to my son’s house, I regretted it. The place they gave me was a utility room, which was used to store things. There was just a small bed, so there wasn't much space, and there were no windows.
There is nothing else, they don’t pay much attention to me, they just go and do whatever they want, and sometimes they don’t even guarantee their meals. There will be a dinner party where I can grab some hot food or eat noodles at the gate of the community.
For New Year’s Eve dinner, they were going to my daughter-in-law’s parents’ house for dinner, and they invited me to go with them. However, my daughter-in-law accidentally said something like “I’m going to bring your mother with me,” so I decided not to go and just eat something by myself.
As a result, they did not refuse or persuade me to go. They prepared instant noodles and cakes for me and left. My New Year's Eve dinner turned out to be instant noodles. When my roommates in the nursing home called me and said that they were still enjoying the New Year's Eve dinner provided by the nursing home, I felt that I would never come to my son's house again. It's better to stay in a nursing home and be lively and comfortable.
During the first few days of the first month, they were either visiting relatives or going on short trips. Anyway, I had my last meal but not the next. Fortunately, my daughter ordered takeout for me after I complained a few times.
My daughter seems to have talked about my daughter-in-law, which made my daughter-in-law look at me more coldly and indifferent.
Do you think you are really looked down upon when you are older? !
is written at the back:
Parents love their children more often than children repay their parents' love.
When I was young, I was always thinking about my children, but I never thought that after my children got married and started a business, my parents would gradually get older and they should have been cared for and taken care of by their children, but instead they were disliked by them.
When people get old, loneliness is inevitable, especially when your wife takes the first step.
Instead of always thinking about relying on their children, it is better for the elderly to learn to find some hobbies for themselves, enrich their lives in their later years, and make a few like-minded friends.In fact, this aunt said that it is understandable that she would like to spend the New Year in a nursing home in the future. It would be more relaxing to be with people of the same age.
Finally, as a parent, you should be more understanding and tolerant in everything, and think more about your children's family and future. This is the important foundation for the whole family to live in harmony. Because of harmony and harmony, everything will go smoothly if the family is harmonious!
