The other party was at fault, and he even criticized her, saying that the reason why we broke up and had a falling out was because I was ignorant. I couldn’t swallow this tone of voice. What should I do?
In fact, when I see this question, I want to say that there is nothing to swallow, and you should thank the other party for not marrying. can clearly see the other person's true face before marriage and avoid jumping into the fire pit. Isn't this much better than discovering the other person's true face after getting married and getting divorced?
Liuliu wrote in "Wang Gui and Anna": "Marriage is actually a shackles, whether you like it or not. Once you are put on it, you will take the initiative to disarm and give up your freedom because of the existing commitment."
A marriage certificate is not only a guarantee of the relationship between husband and wife, but also a bondage for you. Once you enter into a marriage, get the marriage certificate, and find out that the other person is not your lover, it will not be that easy to regret it.
Let’s not talk about divorce, which is becoming more and more difficult. Even if you get divorced and become single again, you will be married for the second time. You will still have to pimp with him over matters such as property and child custody. It is not cost-effective to continue to waste time.
Just as Warren Buffett said: "The most important decision in your life is who to marry? If you are wrong in choosing a partner, you will lose a lot. And the losses are not just monetary."
And if you can see through the other person's true face before getting married, stop the loss in time, and avoid entering the wrong marriage, it is really the luckiest thing. At this time, you have not yet committed to marriage, are not bound by the red book of your marriage certificate, and have no children that require you to look forward and backward. The cost of stopping losses in time is minimal.
"That's right. I have to thank him for not marrying. Why are I so angry? Fortunately, I saw it through before getting married. Otherwise, I would still have to worry about the divorce."
After thinking about this clearly, Dong Yadan's anger subsided a lot, and then he shared what happened with everyone.
01.
The man who Dong Yadan accused of making mistakes was none other than Dong Yadan's boyfriend, no, to be precise, it was his ex-boyfriend Sun Daxin. After all, Dong Yadan had clearly announced that they had broken up, but the other party did not give up and was still pestering her.
Originally, the two had been together for more than a year, and their relationship was quite stable. In addition, they were both older. The man was 30 this year, and Dong Yadan was 28. Their parents were trying hard to get married. It was indeed very possible for the two of them to blossom and get married.
"I have been thinking about getting married for a long time. I plan to get married by the end of next year at the latest. I even plan to take him back to his hometown to meet his parents during the Chinese New Year this year."
In terms of family background, the two are well matched, one is a Phoenix man and the other is a Phoenix woman. Both parents are migrant workers with average family backgrounds. They try their best to support their children and provide them with education.
In terms of personal ability, the two people are similar. Sun Daxin's income is higher than Dong Yadan, with an annual salary of nearly 400,000, and Dong Yadan also has 300,000.
Dong Yadan even thought about it. Considering the family background of both parties, it is not easy for their parents to support them, so they should rely on their own efforts to get married, so as not to add a huge financial burden to both parents.
02.
Unexpectedly, something happened some time ago, and Dong Yadan unexpectedly discovered that the man he fell in love with was so selfish. It turned out that in his eyes, he was just a free nanny, and he was married off.
What happened is this. Due to the adjustment of epidemic prevention and control policies, many people around Dong Yadan became positive, including herself.
"When I was positive, I didn't expect anything from him. I had a fever of 39.8 that night and was in pain all over my body. There was no antipyretic medicine at home. I sent him a message, hoping that he would get some medicine and send it to me. However, he had nothing and didn't even reply to the message. I was so feverish that I lay in bed feeling dizzy and crying in pain. No one cared about me."
In the past three days, Dong Yadan had repeated fevers, which she managed by herself. She asked for antipyretic medicine in the community group and received it from upstairs. She boiled water, cooked porridge for herself, and got up to get takeout. During this period, Sun Daxin He didn't show up once from beginning to end.
It wasn't until Dong Yadan turned negative and posted on WeChat that Sun Daxin sent her a message asking how she was doing and if she was feeling uncomfortable.
"It's not that I don't want to go, it's that my mother doesn't let me go." You know, my mother is not in good health. If I get infected by you and then pass it on to my mother, the consequences will be disastrous. I can't ignore my mother! Besides, this isn’t a serious illness. You’re young, so why don’t you just handle it anyway? "
03.
Afterwards, Sun Daxin sent gifts and invited guests to dinner, hoping to make Dong Yadan no longer angry. Although Dong Yadan did not decide to break up because of this, when he thought of the miserable situation of lying alone in bed and feeling helpless when he was sick, he felt angry and had feelings for them. Questions arose.
At this time, Sun Daxin's mother and son were having trouble. Sun Daxin's mother still didn't escape, and she also got Yang and developed a high fever.
“After I learned that his mother was positive, I originally thought of asking him if he had any medicine as much as I could. I would give his mother a copy of the antipyretic medicine I just bought and some fruits. Anyway, when I was sick, I couldn’t eat anything, so I just wanted to eat some fruits. Unexpectedly, mother and son went too far and asked me to take care of their mother. "
When Sun Daxin made this request, he was confident. First, he said that Dong Yadan had already passed the test and would not be positive again in the short term. There was no danger in taking care of his mother. He also said that Dong Yadan was about to marry him and would soon be his wife. It was Dong Yadan's obligation to take care of his future mother-in-law.
"What? Is it my duty to take care of my mother-in-law? Did you make a mistake? As children, if our parents are sick, we have the obligation to take care of our parents. That is because our parents gave birth to us and raised us. But, does your mother have the kindness to give birth to me? Why should I take care of him? Don't say that I haven't married you yet. Even if I do, I have no obligation to take care of your mother, okay? "
The two people had a heated argument. Seeing Dong Yadan's refusal, Sun Daxin angrily scolded Dong Yadan for being ignorant, selfish, unfilial, and not a good girl. He even threatened to break up with Dong Yadan: "My mother is pregnant, and a woman who refuses to serve is not worthy of entering my house. "
04.
" Funny, he thinks his family is some kind of wealthy family, some kind of noble family, do I have to join? I agreed to break up, turned around and left. Just when I was about to block him, he went back on his word and came to say nice things to me again. However, he kept doing the same thing over and over again, brainwashing me into being his wife. "
At this point, Dong Yadan finally saw Sun Daxin's true face clearly, and she also understood Sun Daxin's purpose of marrying her. For Sun Daxin, who is already 30 years old, if there are better choices, such as girls whose family background is better than his own, it is impossible for him to like her, and she is just his last choice.
Moreover, once she marries herself, To Sun Daxin, I am afraid that Sun Daxin will definitely take his mother to live with him, and then he will confidently give her the responsibility of taking care of her mother, and want her to become the free nanny of the family.
"You are right, I have to thank him for not marrying. Fortunately, I saw through his true colors before getting married and knew what kind of person he was. Otherwise, I would have really jumped into the pit of fire. "
I have heard this saying: "A good marriage will take you to the other side; a bad marriage will drag you into a sea of misery. ”
Whether you are a man or a woman, you should keep your eyes open when choosing a mate, and don’t trap yourself.
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