Dear mother:
My dear mother, Mrs. Hu Chen, gave birth to six of us brothers and sisters. She worked hard day and night for this family, but she finally died of no illness, without taking any medicine or taking a single shot. Needle, passed away peacefully, just like sleeping, sleeping forever at 8:13 on December 14, 2022 AD, and left us forever at 8:13 am on November 21, 2022 according to the lunar calendar, at the age of 94, and passed away quietly like a crane.
Today, your children kneel down in front of your soul and are filled with grief. Today is your sixth birthday. You have been away from us for 42 days. As the second son, I have a lot of thoughts about you. I miss you endlessly:
Looking back on the past, there are many glorious years. My mother was born on May 6, 1929 AD, which is Monday, March 27, 1929 in the lunar calendar. She was born in Binhai County, Jiangsu Province. She was the second child in the family and the eldest girl. She had an elder brother, two younger brothers and a younger sister. It was not easy to survive in those difficult times. There are five brothers and sisters in total. They were born as ladies in a wealthy family. They are well-educated and courteous, and their feet were bound since childhood. After marriage, they usually stay at home to support their husbands and raise their children. Only during the most difficult and difficult times, when I was a child, I remembered that my mother did business for a period of time in order to reduce the burden on my father, selling oil, vermicelli, and rice noodles. My mother always abided by women's ethics and faithfully performed her duties of honoring her parents-in-law, having children, and caring for her husband and raising her children.
Before liberation, our ancestors were well-known large families in the surrounding villages and towns. When my mother married into the Hu family, it was probably 1948, and the People's Republic of China was founded in 1949. My eldest brother was born in 1949, followed by land reform in the following years, and three years of natural disasters. Thanks to the hard work of my father and mother, our family did not suffer much and raised six brothers and sisters.
After the reform and opening up, our family built the best brick house in the local countryside at that time, which was the envy of many people at that time.
You have suffered a lot for our brothers and sisters. After that, I worried about the marriage of my children and the upbringing of my grandchildren. My father is a man who only cares about external affairs and does not care about family affairs. He has a bad temper. Mother, you support this family with your weak shoulders. You use your arms to do housework all day long, bringing warmth, peace and joy to the whole family. Every bowl of soup, every dish, every meal you made for us, every kind word you said to us, every gentle look you gave us, made us deeply feel the great maternal love and the warmth of family. But just in the days when we are independent, when our grandchildren, grandsons, and granddaughters are all able to stand on their own, you have a little bit of Alzheimer's syndrome at the age of 89. Sometimes I don’t recognize people and forget things.
My father passed away from us due to illness on May 16, 2001 according to the lunar calendar, at the age of 73.
Since your father left, you have lived with my third brother and me from the countryside to the city of Funing , occasionally returning to your hometown in the countryside to visit.
I went to Zhejiang for business in 2006. After that, after our family left Jiangsu for Zhejiang in 2010, every year we would take you from Jiangsu to Yiwu, Zhejiang to honor you and take you to visit the West Lake, Wuzhen, Wenzhou, hot springs, and other places around. Because you, the old man, are a person who likes to walk around, visit various houses, think ahead and be relatively fashionable.
I remember when you were 89 years old, I came back from get off work one day to chat with you, and suddenly I felt a little uncomfortable with you. I know your second son, but sometimes I don’t know your second daughter-in-law. In front of an unknown person, I can’t hear what you are saying. Your second daughter-in-law had diabetes before this, but she brings tea and water every day, cooks meals, chats with you, walks, goes shopping, and watches movies. Every time you come to yi Wu lasts for at least half a year and as long as about ten months. Then you clamored to go back to your hometown for a visit. We sent you to my third brother's house in Funing. Because your eldest brother is in the countryside, he is older, and there is no convenience in the city. You will live in my third brother's house for a while, and then return to your hometown in the countryside to live for a while. My eldest sister, the second brother, Sister, my little sister will live in each of your homes for a period of time. The six of us brothers and sisters are basically obedient to you. In short, as long as you are happy, the six of us brothers and sisters will do whatever you want. Everything will be under your command. We will try our best to satisfy you and do our best to let you enjoy your old age in peace and enjoy the wonderful time of peace and happiness in the world.
As the saying goes: You raised us when we were young, and we raised you when you are old. But now, you have drifted away. Mom, as my son kneels before your spirit, he still feels that the rewards we give you are still too little, too little. There are still some shortcomings. I am grateful to God for allowing me to be your son in this life. If there is an afterlife, I will still be your son.
Hangzhou West Lake
Wuzhen
My mother's life spanned from the end of the Republic of China to the early days of the founding of the People's Republic of China, until now, China has undergone tremendous changes and lived a happy life. There were also ups and downs and hardships in your life. It is a life of hard work, frugality, kindness and love. It is an ordinary and unpretentious life. It is a life of obscurity and hard work without complaint. You do not have earth-shattering feats, nor do you have great achievements that will last forever, but many of your things will always inspire your descendants, and your voice and smile will always live in our hearts.
My third brother and I are what we are today, all because of your wise decision back then. In the early days of reform and opening up, many people did not dare to step outside the pond. When we were still cutting the tail of capitalism, our brothers had already moved from rural areas to cities.
You tried your best to ask relatives to let me go to the county to study as a dentist, and then asked me to bring my third brother out. Since my third brother didn't know much about literacy, I bought him a dictionary and taught him how to read. In this way, my third brother followed me to learn dentistry. After four or five years of study, my third brother finally opened a dental clinic himself. More than 30 years later, my third brother is still running a dental clinic in our county. The days are getting better day by day, and today's business is booming. The family's life was very pleasant, and now, his son is allowed to study dentistry with him.
I worked in dentistry from the age of 20 to 40. In 2003, I gave up medicine and went into business. I moved from Jiangsu to Shanghai and then to Yiwu, Zhejiang. I have been doing real estate sales for 16 years. It was a good time for real estate at that time. It was a good policy of the party and a period of national dividends. Now your two granddaughters are married and have their own children. The eldest granddaughter has three children and the second granddaughter has two. They and we have all settled in Yiwu.
Ten families traveled to Wenzhou and other places
I took you to Yiwu in early April 2021. Your two granddaughters and two granddaughters and sons-in-law are very filial to you. Your play with your great-grandson and your great-granddaughter was hilarious and remains fresh in my memory. In October 2021, due to the illness of your mother-in-law, your second daughter-in-law sent you to your third brother's house. She originally wanted to take you to Yiwu to honor you when the spring blossoms in 2022. Who knows, something unexpected happened at home, but now you have left us. Your son and daughter-in-law have no chance to honor you anymore. Mom, I miss you!
Everything that my third brother and I have today is because of you. You have forward vision, you have a ladylike demeanor, you have a very kind heart, and you have a discerning eye that many people don't have. You have a tolerant heart, and you never have any conflicts with the neighbors around you. You are always kind, accommodating, courteous and so on.
When I became a father, I deeply felt how much effort you put into raising our six brothers and sisters with your body.
Mom! When you left, December 16th was the first snowfall in our hometown this winter. God sent you snow to see you off before you were buried. The snowflakes in the sky were paper money, and the snowflakes were like mourning clothes floating on us. We bid you farewell and let you rest in peace! You will definitely bless our six families in heaven; Mom! You are gone, leaving us with endless thoughts and sorrow. Knowing that it is hard to violate destiny, I still want to say one more time: Mom, have a good journey!
Today is your sixth day, the third day of the first lunar month of in 2023 . I have often dreamed of your kind face recently. I woke up crying many times. Mom, I miss you!
2023 Spring Festival is a special holiday for me. During the festive season, I miss my family more and other families are reunited, but I am homeless and have no home to look forward to because you have left your son. From now on, my son has no mother. Mom, my dear mother, I wish you a good life!
Heaven and earth are affectionate, turning snow into tears; heaven and earth are kind, so they show auspiciousness, mother, you are well on your way.
Second son, second daughter-in-law
The book of tears was written at 2:30 am on the third day of the first lunar month of 2023
Gregorian calendar 2023-01-24 minutes
Lunar calendar 2023 third day of the first lunar month
