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Time always flies by, and it will be 2023 in a flash.
No matter how this year went, it has become history, just as Xie Zhen, the "commoner poet" of the Ming Dynasty, wrote in his poem:
"A year of sorrow and joy passes tonight, and the wind and frost on the temples will be new tomorrow."
The habit of allowing oneself to selectively "amnesia" is sometimes regarded as a kind of wisdom.
After all, tomorrow and the future are more important.
In the past 12 months, I used the antigen self-test to be positive and . After that, I experienced symptoms such as fever, cough, loss of taste, and general weakness. It's not serious, it will pass after a while.
However, this is the first time that I feel in my heart that I am so close to the epidemic.
Frankly speaking, I was a little panicked after my parents both became positive. After all, they both had underlying diseases and recovered slowly.
In particular, the opinions on the Internet about "yang" are also mixed.
Some people say that important things can often make people learn to change. Although it is not "making amends", it is always "learning from the mistakes made".
Now, it is already 2023. The year's plan starts in spring. It is always beneficial to plan some things early.
Below are some of the author's insights after "Yang", or a new understanding of the "view of life". mutual encouragement!
No. 1: Work hard to make money
html Summary of the 30th year at the end of the year: half-life is too shameless, and the love of money is not obvious.
At the beginning of last year, the company was in a slump and was about to lay off employees. The boss burst into tears at the mobilization meeting without saying a word, so I impulsively volunteered to resign. I never found a suitable job again.
So this year, I lived my life as a "lonely warrior", shouldering my family's medical expenses, my mortgage and car loans, and as a result, I was heavily in debt.
2 At the end of the year and New Year's Eve, the "zipper human wall" was staged on the Bund in Shanghai again. At that time, I wondered, weren't these people afraid of being infected? No one cares about it?
Thinking about it until late at night, I suddenly realized: the policy of "economic priority" has been written into the law...
No matter what era or background, making money is always the most important thing.
Although filial piety has nothing to do with material desires, it is always easier and more respectable to have money. Poor and lowly couples are also miserable!
Therefore, from now on, be a secular person who loves money, loves things, and is upright.
Second: Health is priceless
It is not too late to start thinking about making money when you are 30 years old; even if you are 60 years old, as long as you are willing to work hard, it is not too late.
However, every time you want to be healthy only after you are sick, it is too late.
Because, there will always be a time when you will not be so lucky. Situation: illness comes like a mountain, and illness goes away like a thread.
Therefore, physical health comes from daily maintenance, and good living habits are the foundation. Using the money you earn to buy safe in the hospital is the stupidest thing in the world.
One day you will find that money is a good thing, but there are always things that money cannot buy.
No one knows what the future will look like, but we all know that your immunity and resistance will be your lifelong wealth.
Third: Cultivation of both things and self
Living in such a realistic world, simple romance is too ridiculous, and your "poetry and distance" are not enough to support your future.
But if you live too greedy and are completely caught up in the struggle for fame and wealth, it will be too cold and too mean.
After all, in addition to length, life also has temperature and thickness.
Therefore, people must learn to practice dual cultivation, so that they can have a clear breeze and bright moon in their hearts, and they can also hold the warmth and coldness of the world in their hands.
is like an ancient poet, seeking to become an official while climbing three mountains and visiting the five mountains.
At this point, no one can do better than Bai Juyi . Interested friends can go and find out.
When your ability in reality is enough to support you to travel thousands of miles across mountains and rivers and ride wild horses, you will find that the world is quite lovely.
Fourth: Don’t compare with anyone
For most people, happiness is the “comparative level”. If I have more than you, I will live a more fulfilling life.
No doubt, the author did the same before.
I always think that if I can settle down in a big city, I will be able to return to my hometown proudly and look good in the future.
At least among my peers, no one can do this.
So I am very ashamed. I used to only live in a small world intertwined based on the "life circle", and I was short-sighted.
But after becoming “yang”, I gained a new understanding.
The simplest thing is that before I left my job, my colleagues were my competition, and the unspoken rules in the workplace made me tired of fighting. Now that I have returned to my hometown to find a job, those people no longer have much interaction with me, and I have no intention of competing with them about whose performance is better.
A person's happiness is not because he has more, but because he cares less.
Most of it is a burden, another kind of loss; less is not a deficiency, it is a broader possession.
Even if we have to fight, we should fight against time and fate, not against people.
When you can live a happy life without referring to anyone, then you have true enlightenment.
So those seven aunts, eight aunts, four uncles and grandfathers, they can say whatever they like. Only you know whether you are living well or not.
If you are not a fish, how can you know what fish likes!
Fifth: Ordinary is more beautiful
Probably because I am the eldest sister in the family, I have been very inspirational since I was a child and have always wanted to be a master.
In other words, I am originally a girl with a "giving" personality. Rather than letting my relatives and friends suffer and suffer, I would rather bear everything myself.
Of course, this is tiring.
Before this, the only thing I could do was to work myself to the point of being powerless, so that I could take care of everyone's emotions.
Now I don’t think so.
I am even willing to be ordinary. Like my ancestors, I work on one-third of an acre of land. Without the cold wind from high places, I feel a little more peaceful inside.
I will live in a corner and work hard to make money within my ability, because my life needs to be protected. But I will no longer try to go to higher places, such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, where there is no peaceful life for me.
I will no longer feel ashamed of being ordinary, because what I gave up was only glitz, not struggle.
One day, I will gain more because of my inner indifference.
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