To put it simply, those who can make people understand are those who speak well.
To put it more specifically, "speaking well" means: although the speech is not much, the words spoken are deep in people's hearts. In this kind of speech, every sentence focuses on the key points and every word touches people.
"There are three ways to say something, and it is best to say it skillfully." This is an experience on the art of speaking. How to judge which words are good and which are not? This is the crux of the matter.
"Speaking well" can not only reflect a person's personal accomplishment, but also reflect a person's moral character.
1. Your speech should reflect your own cultural literacy and level.
In fact, although the level of speaking is directly related to the level of cultural knowledge, it depends more on one's upbringing and kindness. We must "have something in our belly and keep our word."
2. Your speech should reflect your concern for the listener.
The meaning of the sentence "It is difficult to agree with others" means that it is really difficult to speak "well". "A good word will warm you in winter, but a bad word will make June cold." When you say something, it reflects your inner world and your human concern for the listener.
It is not that people with higher education will not use harsh words to hurt others. There are many people who are rude in their dealings with others and have elegant speech skills.
's hypocritical inner world is covered up by the coat of kindness. Even the eloquent sermons all reveal traces of duplicity; people who love charity are mostly kind-hearted people. Even if they are clumsy and clumsy, their words do not lack substantive meaning. On the contrary, doing better than speaking proves from the side that telling the truth is another level at a higher level. There is a huge difference between the false responses of a glib person and the heartfelt words of a sincere person.
's speech that cares about the listener will make even the most inarticulate person not feel left out; even people with insufficient education can participate in the topic appropriately. People who care about their listeners can tell a few jokes at the right time to liven up the atmosphere during quiet moments; when they are embarrassed, they can tactfully smooth things over and resolve the embarrassment.
3. Be optimistic about the timing of your speech.
"Those who are good at fighting do not get angry, those who are good at winning do not fight, those who are good at thinking do not speak, and those who are good at meekness do not argue."
First, don’t rush to speak, as this will always harm you. Because others will think you are impatient and unstable.
Second, don’t speak without thinking. You can’t just talk with your mouth, but think carefully before speaking.
The third is not to "speak human words when you meet people, and tell nonsense when you meet ghosts". You cannot say one sentence to many people, and you must beware of villains. Don't imitate people who are outspoken, because these people speak regardless of the consequences and say whatever is on their mind. Don't talk too much when you meet this kind of people, they don't have a gate to their mouths.
4. Speeches must be prepared in advance.
Speech is actually similar to writing. You need to prepare a good draft in your mind. It needs to have a "clear and prominent theme, strong logic and philosophy.
First, the wording and sentences should be easy to understand and down to earth.
Second, the levels should be clear and clear, and the structural connections should be complete.
Third, you can neither be divorced from reality nor make empty slogans.
5. Speak to the other person's heart.
There is a Russian proverb that says, "Words are not honey, but they can stick to everything." In the workplace, it is particularly important to "speak to the other person's heart." tml2
First, you need to add some warmth to your language when you speak, especially when facing elders and important people, you must be able to say words that move people. Because the more a person experiences, the more he will feel: What really moves people is not the deliberate sensationalism, but the true expression of true feelings from the heart.
Second, you must put your interests in place when speaking, so that you can seduce the other party. Especially in the workplace, the most fundamental purpose of everyone working is to make money and support their families. So although the emotional card is very important, the profit card is always the surefire weapon.
Third, when speaking, you should say more "pleasing" words and words that reassure others.Especially in the workplace, if you don’t make people feel at ease, why should leaders and employees appreciate you? If you don’t make people feel reassured, why should I entrust you with important and critical tasks and support you? If you don't have access to such tasks and have no achievements, how can you talk about promotion or promotion?
Fourth, you must know how to observe words and emotions when speaking. When faced with doubts from leaders, you must know how to show your ability in a timely manner to show loyalty. Don't always think about opportunism and showing off. The right way is to act steadily and gain trust and support. Of course, everyone's psychological changes are not easy to detect, but as long as you pay attention subconsciously, you will be able to detect words and emotions. Once you master the ability to detect words and emotions, you will be able to follow the other person's preferences and find out what the other person really cares about.
In short: the skill of speaking words into people's hearts cannot be achieved overnight. In actual operation, you still need to understand everything. Otherwise, you will still be the person who knows a lot of truths but still has not made progress.
attaches a tip for your reference:
1. Speak slowly about urgent matters, speak clearly about big matters, and speak humorously about small matters.
2. Be careful when saying things you are not sure about. Don't talk nonsense about things that have not happened. Don't talk nonsense about things you can't do. Don't talk about things that hurt others.
3. Talk about happy things according to the occasion, but don’t talk about sad things to everyone.
4. Speak carefully about other people's affairs, and listen to your own heart when it comes to your own affairs.
5. Let’s talk about the present things after they are done, and let’s talk about the future things in the future.
