Text/Xia Mo
01, Preface
Life is like a banquet. After the lively banquet, there will always be a day when the banquet ends, and before you know it, it is a new starting point for retirement.
When the traces of time are getting heavier on my body, I can’t help but sigh, time flies by so fast.
Retirement does not mean giving up everything.
After retirement, the most comfortable state is not to be an idler, but to re-position yourself.
Give up the idle life, find your new life direction, find the mentality of returning to life and living in the present, and you will not let yourself be tired and nervous in loneliness.
Before retiring, you not only need to prepare money, but the key is to find a suitable level that allows you to live comfortably.
Before retirement, stupid people only prepare money for themselves, but smart people will seize these three points to make their old age more decent and happy.
02. Keep your mind at ease and enjoy your old age with your wife.
Pavlov said: "Sorrow, worry and pessimism can make people sick; a positive, happy and strong will and optimistic mood can defeat diseases and make people strong and live longer."
In old age, an optimistic attitude and enthusiasm for life can better promote physical and emotional health.
Once upon a time, my wife and I were in the same boat, and it was too hard. Before we had time to thank her properly, both of us were already gray-haired. After retirement, learn to return to your family.
After retirement, spend more time caring for your loved ones. The passion for your wife will gradually deepen with the increase of companionship. Calm your mind, slow down and accompany your loved one, so that your marriage can breed more beauty.
When I was young, I always dreamed of getting a love as powerful as Romeo and Juliet.
However, after retirement, I will be even more envious of the writer Bing Xin and her husband Wu Wenzao, who have stayed together for fifty-six years and shared weal and woe.
As people get older, cherish the time spent with your loved ones, let yourself slow down, watch the ebb and flow of the tide with your loved ones, and take care of yourself as you age.
In your later years, go hand in hand with your lover, support each other, care for each other, live a soft and sweet life, and you will feel more happiness and sweetness in your later years.
03. Maintain good connections and not live alone.
After retirement, the circle becomes particularly important.
Emerson said: "We think about how to maintain health, how to accumulate wealth, how to strengthen the roof, and how to prepare clothes; but smart people think about how to choose the most precious thing - friends."
A truly far-sighted person will build a circle of friends that he likes before retiring.
With friends, life will have a flavor, and with excitement, you will not let yourself live in loneliness all the time.
Xiao Min's mother Wang Sumin in " Xiao Min's Home " will actively prepare three meals a day for her daughter at home. She seems busy, but she is not happy.
She feels more and more lonely because after her children go to work, she has no social circle of her own.
Later, in order to change this living situation, she actively applied to her daughter to live in a nursing home, hoping to regain control of her life.
Not long after Wang Sumin went to the nursing home, she discovered her hobby and made a group of like-minded friends. Her life has a different color every day.
In the second half of life, if you have three or five close friends, you can share the content of your life with each other, and you will not feel lonely or sad.
After retirement, if you have friends to enjoy the evening plans, chat with, and spend time with, you will find that life is not so difficult with friends by your side.
If you have friends and occasionally get together, go on outings, dance together, etc., life will become more interesting as time passes.
04. Distribute family tasks well and find a new "position"
After retirement, some people will become more accustomed to taking care of their families.Before
retired, everyone in the family had their own "professional division of labor" and formed a stable relationship with each other. But after retirement, the division will be broken.
If, in their later years, they can actively find a "new position" at home that allows them to shine, their children will feel more at ease with their parents and will be more focused on work and life.
After retirement, you can allocate appropriate family tasks, or you can do something that interests you to the best of your ability, or you can do some part-time jobs to earn some pocket money.
will not only make you more valuable to your family, but also make you feel that your life is valuable.
Ye Shengtao's grandson Ye Zhaoyan said in "I Study on an Island" that his grandfather still wrote at his desk in his later years. The concentration he felt while sitting there moved him a lot.
When you reach your old age, don't let yourself live too leisurely, but express yourself to the best of your ability and live out your own value.
In old age, no matter what kind of "position" you give yourself in the family, living an active life is a role model for future generations.
05. Summary
Buffon said: "The most serious waste is the waste of time."
When you retire, you must not only prepare money, but the key is to accompany your loved ones, manage your connections, and do things that interest you, which will be more fulfilling than wasting time.
And it is obvious that people who have plans for their old age before retirement can better control their lives and make their lives better. After
retires, he will find a new position for himself, better display his value, and get along more harmoniously in his family.
After retirement, people who can arrange their own lives will enjoy more blessings.
Live well, love your old age, and live your life without regrets.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional mentor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with over 1 billion people on the Internet, and a manager of happy women. He has focused on emotions, gender, and answering questions for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.
