Only after experiencing "Yang" once will you know who loves you the most.
During the epidemic, some people witnessed the true feelings, and some were heartbroken.
Two days ago, I came across this post in a circle of friends:
My friend Ye Zi, on the third day of the "yang" day, was still cooking, doing housework, and taking care of the two children with a high fever of 39 degrees...
was really uncomfortable, so he sent the two children to his parents.
I thought about ordering a takeaway and taking a good rest.
But when she woke up, she found that the takeout had been eaten by her husband. He plausibly said that she was faking it and urged her to cook quickly.
At this moment, Ye Zi was so angry that he wanted a divorce.
For many middle-aged women, after experiencing "yang" once, they realize that the most painful thing is not the bones, not the muscles, not the throat, but the heart.
In Heze, Shandong Province, a mother was diagnosed as positive for the night before. Early the next morning, her husband and mother-in-law left her and returned to their hometown with their son.
Mom didn’t say anything, thinking that it would be no big deal to take care of herself these days.
It wasn’t until midnight, when she wanted to eat fruit, that she realized that the fruit in the cabinet had been emptied out.
All that was left was a half-peeled banana and a seemingly intact pear.
However, when my mother picked up the pear, she completely collapsed:
There was a big black hole on the pear!
The mother said that the family has a good relationship on weekdays.
Unexpectedly, an epidemic would expose the most selfish and ugliest side of human nature.
On Zhihu , someone asked a netizen:
"My wife is 8 months pregnant and has erectile dysfunction. Is it appropriate to separate from my wife?"
I thought this netizen was outrageous enough, until I saw this message in the comment area:
"I am 6 months pregnant and have an ejaculation.
I The one at home asked for leave to take care of me at home. He slept until three or four o'clock in the afternoon every day and figured out how to make breakfast and dinner by himself. When he woke up and was hungry, no one cooked, so he went out to eat by himself.
I just want to ask if the garbage recycling station still needs this kind of garbage. "
host Tsai Kang-yong once proposed the concept of "emotional account" :
Every time you make the other party happy, the deposit will be more; every time you make the other party sad, the deposit will be less. When the deposit becomes zero, that is when the other party leaves.
In fact, no woman’s heart suddenly becomes cold.
just consumes too much and stores too little. Finally one day, I have saved enough and am disappointed.
And those disappointing details are like broken glass in shoes.
seems to have little lethality, but once stepped on, it is enough to make your every step drip with blood.
Just like the writer Zhang Xiaoxian said:
"The harm a man does to a woman is not necessarily that he falls in love with someone else, but that he disappoints her when she has expectations and does not support her when she is vulnerable."
What really defeats a marriage is never cheating.
It’s one moment after another when the other party needs you, but you are absent.
I have seen a "Report on the Living Conditions of Chinese Women" before, which shows:
Chinese women spend up to 2.6 hours a day on housework, and 65% of the main bearers of housework are wives.
This is true even when mothers become "yang".
was chatting with a colleague. She said that her husband was very busy at work. In order to support her husband, she took the initiative to take on all the chores at home.
Until last week, she became weak after being infected.
My husband still lies down on the sofa when he comes home from get off work every day. He doesn’t clean up after eating takeaways, and even throws away garbage randomly.
Until she recovered, she, who loves to be clean, got angry while cleaning the oil stains on the dining table and the trash cans piled up like a hill. She said that at that moment she felt more uncomfortable than when she had a "yang" and a fever.
My husband saw her and didn’t understand why she was being pretentious. Wasn’t it just that she hadn’t cleaned up the house in a few days?
But only her colleague knows:
Before that, how many times had she wiped the table, how many times had she taken out the trash, and how much dissatisfaction she had accumulated.
Not long ago, I saw a video on the Internet:
After a woman became "positive", she lay on the bed feeling uncomfortable and wanted to sleep for a while.
Unexpectedly, the husband who hates taking care of the baby actually makes the baby cry on purpose.
Then, he threw the child on his wife viciously, said "I can't see" and walked away as if nothing happened.
My wife, who still had a fever-reducing patch on her head, had to get up from the bed with difficulty and coughed heartbreakingly while looking after the child.
can feel her grievance across the screen.
There is another mother who asked her husband to sleep with her child because she was afraid of infecting her child.
But her husband forced the child back. As soon as she argued for a few words, her face was hurt by the angry husband, and a big bump appeared on her forehead.
As she talked, my mother couldn't bear it any longer, and tears couldn't stop falling from the corners of her eyes.
I remember that in the TV series " Only Thirty ", there was such a plot:
Chen Yu complained to Zhong Xiaoqin, they say marriage is a safe haven, isn't marriage just for relaxation and peace of mind?
In response to this, Zhong Xiaoqin retorted sharply:
"Everyone wants to take shelter, who is in charge?!"
In the final analysis, if a family wants to survive, tolerance, care and dedication are essential.
But the premise of these is: mutually.
If one person is always responsible for everything, and the other person only knows how to sit back and enjoy the benefits, over time, no matter how stable the safe haven is, it will become shaky.
Some time ago, a wife shared her story:
The wife and her husband have been together for twelve years, married for eight years, and have a pair of children.
But just in the past year, because her husband talked little and was not good at communicating, they had conflicts and cold wars broke out frequently.
As time went by, the wife lost confidence in the marriage.
In the end, the two people reached the stage of divorce.
If nothing goes wrong, I will be able to successfully obtain the divorce certificate next month.
But at this time, my wife turned out to be "yang", with high fever, fatigue, soreness, and swallowing was as painful as swallowing a razor blade. I thought I was getting divorced and my husband wouldn't take care of me.
Unexpectedly, her husband was as considerate as ever: taking her temperature, bringing her tea and water, and even running around the streets to buy her fever-reducing medicine...
The epidemic also gave his wife new thoughts on marriage.
She decided not to get the divorce certificate for the time being, and learned to be grateful and cherish the present.
Seeing this, I can't help but think of what the writer Liu Na said:
"Under the great epidemic, the virus is raging, and everyone is in danger. At this time, boo you A lover who greets you with warmth, brings food and water, and takes good care of you must not be too bad.
Because, even at the lowest point, he is still willing to overcome the selfish part of human nature to take good care of you.
A good marriage is not about marrying a person’s beauty at a high place, but marrying a person’s gentleness at a low place. ”
For most women, they don’t need too much money to live, just enough to eat and clothe themselves; the house doesn’t need to be big, just enough to hug each other and sleep together.
What they really need is just someone who knows both cold and hot.
He sees his efforts and hardships in his eyes and remembers them in his heart. This is enough.
Recently I also saw an impressive news:
A man in Sichuan started to "html" after becoming "Yang".
When he had nothing to do, he slept and played games.
But when he learned that his wife was "positive", he changed his previous attitude. Not only did he stop playing games, he also stayed with his wife to take her temperature, test antigen , and actively cooked and prepared medicine.
Some people say that whether a person loves you or not, you will know if you get sick.
Yes.
To test whether a person has you in his heart, don't look at what he said to you when you were bright and beautiful, but look at what he did for you when you were lying on the hospital bed.
I saw a video on the Internet:
Dai Jianye, a professor of at Central China Normal University, frequently broadcasts live broadcasts and gives lectures everywhere.
Many people despised him for cheating for money, regardless of his "literary character".
But what few people know is that in 2016, Professor Dai’s wife was diagnosed with lung cancer. In order for his wife to receive good treatment in time, Professor Dai made up his mind to make money.
He said that if he lost his wife, what else would he do as a scholar?
Marriage should not only include sweet words when things are going well, but also compatibility when things are going bad.
Only after you have been sick can you know whether that person is your comrade who shares weal and woe, or a coward who runs away from the battle.
There is never a shortcut to a happy family.
What we have is just mutual understanding and mutual support between two people.
Like "Like" . I hope you and I are lucky enough to meet someone who cares for and cherishes us, and we can work together to get out of the trough of life and create a happy chapter together.
