You are a super sensitive person.
You are having dinner with your friends. all is well. Everyone was talking and laughing. Suddenly, Charlie leaned over to you and whispered in your ear. That day, I met Joe at Mader’s house. He is with his new girlfriend. What a beautiful woman!
also looks like a beauty. Do you know her? You replied with a forced smile. No, I don't know him. But you were stung deeply. From your point of view, this understatement reflects viciously on your current situation and hits the softest spot in your heart. "You're so pathetic, you're still single!"
You suspect that your old friend must be trying to use Joe's love story to laugh at you. "Ah, this is normal. Look at yourself, you are so short and inconspicuous," after a while, your other old friend William said to you eagerly. Oh my gosh, you have no energy and you don't look good. You must be very tired recently. You should take a vacation. You will immediately feel old, unattractive, and completely hopeless.
The dinner that was originally a perfect start was ruined, and you returned home angrily. "It's all hell!" You kept repeating this sentence, and your heart was still full of anger.
Your Obstacles
Overreacting to others and being overly sensitive to what others say. Others' opinions, whether they are critical or praising, are considered to have a lot to do with themselves.
solution
re-establish contact with others and communicate harmoniously.
1. Learn not to be self-centered.
Paying too much attention to what others think of you can make you a dangerous egoist. It will make you unable to be independent and be led by your colleagues, partners, spouses, children, neighbors, and friends. You'd better learn to use your natural empathy and learn to put yourself in someone else's shoes. What was he thinking? What does he want to prove? How does he feel? This way of seeing things from another perspective can help you avoid the innuendos and misunderstandings that often occur in relationships.
2.Don’t be a good guy.
Conversely, sometimes you should risk doing something unpleasant or disturbing. In any case, it cannot be appreciated by everyone. There are enemies, there are naysayers, there are people with different temperaments, they all exist objectively. The more you understand this, the more you will be able to accept it, and the less likely you will be easily swayed by other people's words.
3. Make a list of words that hurt our hearts
Those words that cause us to overreact. Make a list of your weaknesses. This kind of objective judgment can help you liberate yourself from being swallowed up by those negative emotions.
4. Avoid unfortunate thoughts.
For example, it's for sure that I will be single for the rest of my life. These thoughts can mess with our minds and make you see things in a pessimistic light.
5.Don’t give yourself orders.
For example, I have to have a child before I'm 35. Giving yourself orders and imagining what you should do can constitute a long-term form of self-criticism, making you feel guilty and increasing your anxiety.
