Maybe everyone thinks it’s because today’s life is quite stressful, with the need to buy a house, a car, and repay the mortgage and car loan, which makes today’s young people breathless, so they are reluctant to get married, but in my opinion, this is not the whole reason.
I have a younger brother and younger sister, both biological! Our family is from Zhengzhou City. We have two houses at home, one is in an old community with a house of 132 square meters, and the other is a house of 90 square meters. Both houses have no mortgages. My father has a car and my brother has a car. Logically speaking, the conditions at home are not bad.
My sister is 28 years old this year. She works as a nurse in a hospital and her salary is not low. Before the epidemic, her salary was higher than mine every month. The epidemic has also affected them. Now their salary is not that high. They have weekends and (occasionally work overtime). It was late, but she was indeed very tired when she went to work. My parents had been hospitalized in their department, and I saw with my own eyes there that they were very tired. She could basically rest on holidays, and she saved medical insurance. In my opinion, her job was better than mine. I didn’t have weekends off, and I got off work late. There is almost no rest time every week, and the salary is only more than 7,000 when the salary is high. However, her work is quite stressful and depressing. If we were asked to interact, she might not be willing to exchange. However, our industry has been greatly affected by the epidemic. We have been working for a total of six months this year. The epidemic started in October, and until now we have not been working and have no wages.
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has reached the age of marriage, but has been unwilling to talk about a partner, and has been introduced by others. She has always been disgusted and unwilling to talk about a partner. My parents are more anxious and have been urging her. The reason she gave is that she does not want to get married. After getting married, she has to adapt to another family and deal with various relationships. Her ideal is to buy her own small house and live by herself. Over the past year or so, her parents have had many affairs with each other, and she has met several blind dates, but none of them were satisfactory. In fact, looking at my sister's life, I am very envious. From the bottom of my heart, I don't particularly support her need to find a partner to get married. I think just let nature take its course. If you meet the right person, get married. If you don’t, just live your life.
My sister sleeps until she wakes up naturally during her weekend break. I eat when I want to eat and don't eat when I don't want to. I buy whatever clothes I want. When I want to have a meal with friends on weekends or in the evening, I go to have a meal. It is difficult for me to make an appointment with her. The difficulty is that I am anxious every time I eat because I have children at home and I am afraid that if I get home late, my children will call me and my husband and mother-in-law will be unhappy. Be considerate of everyone. Before the epidemic, my sister would travel during every small holiday. She didn’t have to discuss it with anyone, she could just buy a ticket and go wherever she wanted. It was very free. Even if she only has three days of vacation, she will go out and play for a few days. Making money is doing what you want to do. She said that when getting married, like me, I have to work during the day and be busy with my children at night. After rest, I have to go back to my hometown to see my father-in-law. When I go on a trip, I have to discuss everything, and every decision has to be based on my husband's wishes. How tiring. How comfortable I am by myself, I can do whatever I want, and I can earn enough money to spend on myself.
Especially when she saw her friends around her getting married one by one, their initial relationships were all beautiful, but after they got married and had children, their lives were miserable, and they were even less willing to get married. She said she didn't want to adapt to another family, and she didn't want to live according to the rhythm of other people's families.
Let’s talk about my younger brother. He lives a more unrestrained life than my younger sister. He is one year younger and works in a research institute. He also works very hard and is excellent. He is not ugly in appearance. He is 1.8 meters tall. He has talked about having a girlfriend before, but has not talked about marriage. My brother has more shoes in the cupboard than both my husband and I. He has enough to eat alone and the whole family is not hungry. He lives a very free and unrestrained life every day. During the three-day holiday this year, he said he was going to Changsha for the New Year's Eve, so he bought a ticket and left. He stayed in Changsha for three days and came back early yesterday morning. He did not miss work today. It's really enviable. The reason he gave for not getting married was that he had no money, getting married was too expensive, and he also had to support a family.
