Question
Why do we fall in love?
Why do we fall in love?
The definition of love
What love is, like any other concept, as long as it is well defined, it will not waste everyone's time. "Love is a complex phenomenon that combines physiology, psychology and subjective emotions affected by social factors." This concept, which becomes increasingly confusing the more you look at it, is obviously not a good definition.
This question is very interesting to ask in neuroscience . It seems that it needs to be discussed more from sociology or even philosophy. But since we are discussing it here, we can start with what love is not.
- Love is not marriage: because marriage is a contract and the result of love, and as many people who have experienced it/understood say, marriage is the grave of love.
- Love is not sex: Because...oh, so...well, especially for a lot of men.
After removing these two, you will find that there is almost nothing left of love. This is actually the root of the problem: everyone seems to be able to say a few words, but no one seems to be able to explain clearly. When
encounters this kind of problem, it is natural to make bold assumptions and completely deconstruct it.
Love is an illusion of instinct.
The instinctive attraction between opposite sexes (same-sex ones will not be discussed for the time being) is disguised by reason as great and selfless love.
The reason for this disguise is that human reason will rationalize its own behavior unconsciously, and impulses from instinct are difficult to detect by reason, so the concept of "love" was born because of this rational vacancy.
So what is the instinct here?
The "instinct" here is the pursuit of healthy offspring formed by long-term natural selection. Love of beauty is the pursuit of all men (and vice versa). Beauty of the opposite sex generally indicates fewer genetic defects and good health. This can also be seen in the preference of short men for tall women. Of course, there are counterexamples to
. The power of
counterexamples
Counterexamples are fatal to logical reasoning (one counterexample can overturn a great theory); but for statistics, their significance is not great.
For example: a young man is obsessed with a rich woman, falls in love with a transgender person, etc. The previous instinct-delusion theory is meaningless. We should look at the majority rather than allowing theory to explain exaggerated individual phenomena.
So, when we fall in love, it is an illusion of genetic instinct.
God: How to explain my love for all living beings and your love for knowledge.
Yunzhi Entropy: It is precisely because of the stupidity of reason that we use words in such a random way.
God: Didn’t you realize this because you used reason?
Yunzhi Entropy: No, that's because I temporarily jumped out of the "human" nature.
