Storyteller: 60-year-old Aunt Sun
My wife passed away five years ago. Now I choose to remarry at this age because I am afraid of being lonely when I get older.
I have only one daughter, who rarely comes back to see me after she gets married. She has her own life and rarely contacts her.
I had a job before, so I felt that living alone was nothing. But since I retired, I have become increasingly lonely.
My idea of remarrying is very simple. I just want to find someone to live with and have someone to talk to while eating.
I don’t have any requirements for my partner, as long as he is willing to live peacefully with me.
I know Lao Liu, who is five years younger than me. He was introduced by a friend.
He is a person with a very gentle personality. We have been in contact for about half a year, and we naturally got together and secretly received the certificate.
I thought my happiness in old age would begin from now on. After all, in the six months since we knew each other, I had been really happy. He was very kind to me and everything went according to my wishes.
However, after our marriage, he moved in with me because the house was given to his son and daughter-in-law, and my life has undergone earth-shaking changes.
Lao Liu not only ate and lived in my house, but also never gave me a penny for living expenses. He also made me his nanny, at his beck and call.
He just sits there drinking tea and watching TV every day, doing nothing. If I say something to him, he will say: "This house belongs to you. I don't dare to move around for fear of disturbing your habits..."
Sometimes he will take the initiative to do housework when I talk too much.
He would throw all his clothes, socks and underwear into the washing machine. The wooden floor would be wet after mopping, and the dishes would still be greasy after washing...
I couldn't bear this way of doing things, so I could only let him stay aside and not interfere with me.
Alas, I feel like I've just gotten back into a big trouble and it's miserable.
Old Liu's pension is not as high as mine, and he has to support his daughter who has not married well every month, so he often tries to interfere with my pension.
He would take the initiative to buy groceries and then deduct some of the groceries money.
I have a soft ear, and he often talks sweet words to make me happy, asking me to send him a small red envelope worth tens of yuan...
He is like this, competing over and over again for a few tens of yuan, which makes me sad and sad.
When I was alone, around 1,500 per month was enough for food and drink. But since I got married to Lao Liu, I spent four to five thousand a month without realizing it.
I don’t know where the money was spent, but it was spent anyway.
My pension is only so much, so it is not an option to continue like this, so I offered to share the living expenses with him.
In the end, he turned shameless and said: "I live in your house as a bride-in-law. Of course you have to support me. Why do you still ask me for living expenses? No conscience in the world like you."
He said that since I coveted his youth, I would naturally have to pay...
His words shocked me. Before and after we got married, we never talked about marrying into our wife. He moved to my place because he had no place to live.
When I first married him, I saw that he was honest and younger than me, so he could take care of me more in the future.
But looking at him now, no matter how I look at him, I feel that he is just a deadbeat, and his honesty is just an act.
He said that I should support him. If I filed for divorce, he would make a scene in the community and make it known to everyone in the community that I was too flirtatious to be interested in someone else and not him.
He wants to ruin my reputation...unless I compensate him for divorce damages or give him half of the house.
I thought I met true love in my later years, but reality slapped me hard.
He is very good at talking and talking. Once I am impatient with him in life, he will coax me.
instilled in me some hope for the future, making me willing to be nice to him, and even took the initiative to give him some pocket money.
Before we knew it, we had passed another two months. Now that the Chinese New Year is approaching, he asked me for 30,000 yuan to return to his hometown to repair the HDB flat.
I said I didn’t have that much, and he was very emotional and rational and told me a lot of truths, which made me confused and at a loss.
This is not the marriage I want, let alone the ending I want. I regret now that I didn’t listen to my daughter’s advice and secretly obtained the certificate from him.
I regret even more why I pursued the so-called twilight happiness at this age and made a mess of my originally good life...
I ruined my own old age.
has lived for most of his life and has never understood the difference between reality and ideals.
I regret it now, but it doesn’t help! Because he is determined not to divorce me, and he will not easily let go of me, a big tree that can be controlled by him.
I am now in a dilemma. I have to pay compensation for divorce.
If I don’t want a divorce, I really can’t live the life of being used as a nanny by him every day and being mentally brainwashed by him.
But I chose this path myself, so who can I blame?
I tell you from my own personal experience that you must not remarry in your later years, otherwise you will end up like me.
