The reason why a cheating man is entangled with his mistress is because the mistress leaves him with good memories, which are emotional satisfaction, physical satisfaction, and psychological satisfaction.
He chose to return to his family not because his mistress was not good enough, nor because of the pain of extramarital affairs.
But because of the original wife's coercion and profit-driven, the other person came back so that the original wife would not divorce and his interests would not be damaged.
His heart can't come back because he can't forget the enjoyment that the mistress brought him.
So first wives, you must clearly understand why the cheating man is entangled with his mistress in order to solve the problem.
Some time ago, an original wife came to ask for help. She said that her husband had regained contact with his mistress.
She discovered the extramarital affair between her husband and his mistress during National Day.
The cheating man said he was playing cards with his friends, but he didn’t come back at night and his phone was turned off.
She called the cheating man’s friend and found out that the cheating man had cheated on her.
At this time, she thought something had happened to the cheating man, so she called the cheating man’s parents.
She called many other friends, but no one knew where the cheating man was or what he was doing.
She said she wanted to call the police, but the cheating man's sister kept trying to stop her, so she felt something was wrong.
insisted on going to the police station, and the cheating man's sister told the truth.
Her husband cheated on her with his mistress, who was her sister’s friend.
This sister said that she has been trying to persuade the cheating man and her friend, but to no avail.
I didn’t dare to tell my first wife, because I was worried that my first wife would get divorced from the cheating man, and I was worried that my parents would be troubled by it.
The original wife never expected that her husband would cheat on her.
This sister found a mistress, and soon the cheating man came home.
The original wife was so angry that she asked about the situation. The cheating man said that he was confused for a while.
The original wife couldn't accept it, so she said she wanted a divorce and took the child back to her parents' home.
The original wife has good conditions and earns more than the cheating man, so the cheating man is not willing to divorce. After
, the cheating man broke up with his mistress and began to coax his first wife. In the end, the first wife chose to forgive for the sake of their children.
The first wife told Lan Fang that she thought the extramarital affair would pass.
The cheating man coaxed her for more than a month, wrote a letter of repentance, and signed many marital agreements.
also behaved very well, as if she truly regretted it, and she chose to forgive.
After all, if we don’t get divorced, life will continue to go on.
Unexpectedly, not long after, her husband secretly contacted the mistress.
She didn't know what to do, so she came to Lan Fang for help.
Why do men get entangled with mistresses?
This is the question that the original partner should think about most, and it is also a problem that must be solved.
Don’t ask a cheating man why he still contacts his mistress. A cheating man won’t tell you the answer.
Everything he said was a lie. Not only was it not helpful to the original wife, it would also confuse the original wife's thinking.
The original wife needs to analyze the real reasons by herself based on the previous extramarital affairs.
In this extramarital affair case, why does the cheating man continue to find his mistress?
On the one hand, this mistress does have her advantages and is attractive to cheating men.
The mistress is young and beautiful, which is her greatest weapon, even if she has no brains, even if she has no other value.
Just being young and beautiful can make many men never forget her.
On the other hand, the original wife’s method of resolving extramarital affairs is problematic.
relies on coercion and inducement to treat the symptoms but not the root cause. The cheating men come back, but their hearts are not.
The reason why they came back is that they must first stabilize their original spouse and seize the benefits first.
Their relationship with the mistress has broken down, and they no longer want to be with the mistress.
The mistress is still beautiful in their hearts, and the extramarital affair is still worth remembering, so they will naturally look for opportunities to get entangled with the mistress.
Another aspect is that there is something wrong with the nature of a cheating man.
It's obvious that he didn't think cheating was such a big mistake that he would dare to cheat again. Because
does not feel that there is anything wrong with him, he will not feel guilty about the original situation and will not act to compensate.
He may even resent that his original wife forced him to give up being with his mistress.
Therefore, cheating men sometimes continue to find mistresses, and they still have some thoughts of revenge on their original wives.
So how should the first wife solve the situation where the man and the mistress are entangled?
Lan Fang’s suggestion is to make the cheating man feel that the mistress’s entanglement is a kind of torture to him.
As long as the cheating man finds a mistress, and the first wife finds out, she will start a fight with the cheating man.
It must make a big fuss, make cheating men feel uncomfortable, and make extramarital affairs become a burden for cheating men.
Since the cheating person doesn’t want a divorce, marriage is more beneficial to him.
Then he must solve the extramarital affair and the problem of entanglement with the mistress, otherwise he will live a more miserable life.
There is a more thorough method, which is to let the cheating man and the mistress cheat a second time.
After the two people rekindled their old relationship, the original wife intervened again, this time without coercion or inducement.
Instead, he instigated the relationship between the cheating man and his mistress, and disintegrated the extramarital affair from within.
stimulates the mistress to have a fight with the cheating man, and stimulates the mistress to directly conflict with the original wife.
makes extramarital affairs public and causes reputational damage to cheating men.
Only when the mistress harms the interests of the cheating man, will the cheating man resent the cheating man.
completely destroys the good impression of the cheating man on the mistress. If they break up again, the cheating man will not have anything to do with the mistress again.
Which method to use depends on the original wife’s own thoughts. After all, many first wives can’t stand cheating men getting back together with their mistresses.
Lan Fang has always emphasized that solving extramarital affairs requires outsmarting, and it may be more difficult to solve.
But compared to tearing up the mistress with your hands and threatening the cheating man, it is a solution that treats the symptoms rather than the root cause.
Spending more time and energy to make cheating men fear extramarital affairs and mistresses will be more beneficial to the original wife.
The best way is to solve extramarital affairs once and for all.
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