The Analects of Confucius says: " Meng Wubo asked about filial piety, and the Master said: Parents only have their own worries about illness."
When I was a child, my parents were full of "you" and cried and laughed. When you grow up, can you understand that your parents are crying and laughing?
The most difficult and happiest thing for children to interact with their parents is to have empathy and power.
When you suddenly realize that your parents’ love needs to be seen in the opposite direction, it means that you have reached middle age and become your parents.
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Parents are becoming more and more indifferent. It’s not that they don’t love you, but that they are old and powerless.
The love my parents have for you is like this - I am afraid of melting when I hold it in my mouth, and I am afraid of flying when I put it in my palm. I used to hope that you would go far, but later I didn’t dare to look at your back as I walked away. I always hoped that you would make a lot of money, but I was worried that you would be too tired of making money. I began to expect you to make less money and take care of your body more...
In the midst of the contradiction, my parents gradually became indifferent and no longer cared about your body. But if you asked about your income, even if you left your hometown, they would not go out to send you off.
Usually, parents rarely call you to ask about your situation. It seems that they disappeared from your life at some point.
Why are parents indifferent?
Don’t blame your parents, they are very old and can’t even manage themselves, so how can they have the energy to take care of you? Especially parents who are so old that they are confused, they will call you the wrong name when they see you, and they can't even remember the name of their grandson.
Maybe, parents' ears are not good, they can't hear anything you say. Just become a taciturn person, and occasionally smiles, which means everything.
I remember one winter, I went to to work in the south . My mother was at the door of the house and said in a low voice: "Go, be careful along the way."
My mother's voice was hoarse, she had been coughing for two months. When a person gets old, illness comes like a mountain falling, and illness goes like a thread being pulled. The illness tortured my mother so much that she didn't want to walk, talk, and couldn't go through any storms.
But I could feel my mother leaning against the door and watching me leave silently. Or she is blaming herself and cannot give her children a better future.
What I fear most is that my parents are also very affectionate about themselves . For example, they were terminally ill and had already given up treatment. The moment the decision was made, the human heart was so cold that he wanted to cry without tears.
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Parents are always stingy. It’s not that they don’t help you, but that they are very difficult to make money and don’t want to drag you down in their later years.
When I was buying a house in the city, my mother came from her hometown and handed over the two thousand yuan to me.
To be honest, two thousand yuan is undoubtedly a drop in the bucket for a house. But for parents, it's a whole year of savings. Or two years.
Home is in a corner of the mountain, and the old house is halfway up the mountain.
Rely on the mountain to eat, and rely on the water to eat water. My parents rely on mountains - to cultivate land, to herd cattle uphill, to raise chickens and ducks at the door, and to several pigs. There is also a small piece of vegetable field, lush but not worth the money.
In the 1990s, my mother often worried about tuition fees of 200 yuan. This is the price of a pig, and the net income of four or five pigs.
There is no money at home, and cows cannot be sold, pigs depend on size. What you can sell at any time is a dish - a tuft of eggplant, which can be sold for five yuan.
In recent years, things in the mountains have become more valuable, but their parents are very old and can’t do anything. They blame themselves for this.
How to live the rest of your life, parents are also thinking of ways. They save money and go to nearby schools to pick up waste. By the end of the year, if you have a little savings, you can smile.
One day, parents will "cut off" everything you have to do. It is hard for you to understand such love. Because my parents agreed with every request.
people have reached a certain age and cannot retire, so they have to seriously calculate the money they have. Not giving to children is not stingy, but life forces them to live as selfish people.
In fact, behind selfishness is a very sad life - a day's expense, more than ten yuan, or less. Not enough money for a lunch box in the city.
Chinese studies master Nan Huaijin wrote this passage: "Parents have hundreds of billions of wealth. Can they help their children buy a smart mind? It cannot be done! Wisdom cannot be exchanged for property or worldly blessings. It requires more people to accumulate merit."
Parents tell you with actions that only by being thrifty can they save the rest of their lives. When a family gets along, it’s more expensive than gold when greetings are there. Why do you expect your parents to give you gold?
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Parents often lie. It’s not that they don’t want to tell you, but that they are afraid that they will become a burden to you when they are sick and old.
In our impression, the elderly are sick, hospitalized, and have no place to live. They should ask their children for support and let their children share the medical expenses.
If you haven't heard your parents ask for money or complain for a long time, it means they are loving you in another way.
hides the pain and tries to squeeze out a smile. This is what parents do. When parents have to complain, it means they are already suffering.
As the saying goes, "There are three things that people cannot hide, cough, poverty and love."
Parents regard themselves as superman, and they hold back all three things.
My uncle fell ill in bed for two months. He has been hiding his daughter who works outside. It was not until two days before her death that her daughter learned the news and hurried home.
The uncle knew that it was difficult to work, and taking leave would be deducted from the worker award, and some workstations could not take leave at all. But who can understand my uncle’s heart?
often says things like "I'm fine, okay", maybe it's because of my parents lying. They can't help you, but they can also minimize your troubles.
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Rich Bill Gates said: "Before you were born, your parents were not as boring as they are now. They became what they are today because over the years they have been paying your bills, washing your clothes, and listening to you talking about how cool you are."
As you get older, your parents' words and deeds will change.
You once thought that he could do everything, just like Iron Man. Now they are weak and incompetent, and what remains is a shell.
The proud man bent down to ninety degrees, saying inappropriate words and doing puzzling things.
Parents love you, but you have to feel it with your heart and don’t understand it, then think about it the other way around.
The highest level of music - silence is better than sound here.
The highest state of parental love is precisely the most ruthless and affectionate.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
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