Keywords: Boyfriend has low sexual energy, should he be tolerant?
Question: My boyfriend and I are both divorced and each have children.
I have been single for six or seven years and have been searching, but I haven't found a suitable object.
I met him last year. Everyone felt that my conditions were very consistent with him, whether it was personal, external, or conditional.
His education, income, etc., is very high, and I am not bad.
I was also very grateful at the beginning and felt how could I know such an excellent boy?
He can take me better and better because I had a bad temper before, but his mood is very stable and dedicated.
He can give me a very stable state. After being with him, I will want to keep getting better.
The problem is that after dating for about seven or eight months and starting to live together, I found that his energy in that aspect was very poor.
I had a squat before, and Leng Da said that the other party's energy was not circulating, which made me feel whether it was normal or abnormal.
Leng Da just talked about tolerance love. I was wondering if I need to tolerate him?
I have also studied a lot of courses. Through these courses, I have been adjusting myself. Should I be tolerant or change another person?
Answer: First of all, there is no "should" and "not" in the above story.
Life is not like a test paper, and there is no standard answer to everything.
does not mean that being with the other party is right, not being with the other party is wrong, or it should be separated or should not be separated.
The heroine needs to abandon these ideas of whether she should be or not and clear her beliefs.
It's time for the heroine to connect with her body. Because I feel that the things that the heroine talks about are all operations at the mind level, and these operations will not be successful and will not be satisfied.
The heroine may not have found her expression, but was an expression of dissatisfaction.
Women mainly see the dissatisfied parts of their bodies and the dissatisfaction of desires and dissatisfaction.
Next, I will give the answer in four levels. The heroine can feel it again:
First, look at it without judgment.
Women mainly first clear up all their thoughts about right and wrong, good and bad.
Because at the energy level, there is no right or wrong, no good or bad.
Can electricity flow from a battery be said to have good or bad electricity?
electricity is a form of energy. It cannot be said that energy is good or bad, only the energy is used appropriately or inappropriately.
So, don’t look at the problem with judgment, and don’t think about the good or the bad first.
Second, the appropriate use of energy.
Take the above story as an example. The heroine is now with this boy. The other party is really dedicated and motivated. The conditions in all aspects are very matched, but the boy lacks sexual energy.
On this level, women mainly distinguish: Is his loyalty related to lack of sexual energy?
In short, for proper use of sexual energy, you must be able to find someone who conforms to the inner laws of your body.
Many people may say, "Since the heroine is looking for a boy with such good conditions, she is weak in this aspect, so we can tolerate it." But this kind of preaching is useless because the body will not be satisfied with it.
After all, our lives are for ourselves, not for others to see.
So, when sexual energy is blocked, feeling dissatisfied is dissatisfied.
This is not a problem that can be solved. Sexual energy must be used appropriately, and there are only two types of appropriate use:
) The normal flow of sexual energy.
means letting sex become the nature itself, letting sex just become sex.
Note, this is not to say that everyone can do whatever they want, but to respect their nature itself.
To give a counterexample, if a woman punishes her husband by not having sex, it is not respecting sex itself, but treating sex as a tool of power.
2) Sublimation of sexual energy.
is the transformation and ascension of sexual energy from our sexual center to higher emotional centers.
Of course, this is very difficult. It is basically impossible for a person to do it himself. He needs to be in a high-energy field to achieve such sublimation.
But this is also an appropriate use, it does not need to be carried out through sexual behavior, it is the transformation and ascension of sexual energy, and becomes the energy of the higher emotional center.
The second type is practice, which is hard to come by.
3, cultivate virtue and ability.
Cultivate moral cultivation and energy is a concept of points.
Just like if you have more points in a membership card in a shopping mall, the things that can be redeemed will be more expensive and more. If you have fewer points, the things that can be redeemed will be cheaper and less.
In fact, there must be boys in this world who meet the expectations of the heroine in all aspects, but her total points of virtue and ability are not enough to match such boys.
The total points of the heroine are now. If you want to redeem a boy who completely meets all his conditions, you either improve your points;
either lower your requirements for the man, that is, redeem a man with high sexual energy, but his material and other conditions are not as good as his current boyfriend.
If the heroine's total points are still the same, even if she changes her boyfriend, she will not be able to change to someone who surpasses her current total points.
What is the total points of the heroine's Deneng now? The total points of the boys who are redeemed must be almost the same.
So, if you want both and want, you can only improve yourself.
Only when the total points are increased can the total points be improved can the total points be improved.
heroine: listen to this, but what I can actually do is improve the total points in the third point.
But I think this is very difficult, and I don’t know where to start.
Lengai : You can continuously connect us. This thing is definitely difficult. If it is that easy, isn’t everyone able to do it? What you want is a man that ordinary people cannot want.
heroine: But I always thought this is the most basic.
Fourth, "Group Me".
The heroine said in the above sentence "I always thought this is the most basic", and there are three elements in total: "I thought", "always", and "most basic". All three elements of
are wrong, none of them are correct. Let’s analyze them layer by layer:
"I think" - means that the heroine has an ego, the ego in desire;
"always" - means that the heroine has been asleep and has not woken up in the past;
"most basic" - means that the heroine’s past judgment system is almost completely wrong, neither understanding the market nor understanding the status quo, nor knowing what basic is.
So, what the heroine needs to do now is to reinstall her entire partner selection system. We sincerely invite the heroine to continue to connect with us.
Some friends said that they would not succeed if they did not understand the operation at the mind level, which means that they did not connect us enough times.
There is a group of "mes" in our body, namely:
) the me in mind, the rational me;
2) the me in heart, the emotional me;
3) the me in action, the instinctive me;
4) the me in sexual center, the me in sexual energy.
will not succeed just in running in the center of reason, at least it must be connected to the emotional part.
For example, I believe the heroine has told herself rationally that her boyfriend has been very good in all aspects and should cherish her, but she is emotionally and instinctively unsatisfied, otherwise she would not ask a question, "Would I be tolerant or change another person."
The above four aspects are responses to the story of the heroine. We also sincerely wish the heroine.
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