Introduction:
Many people think that when a person enters his old age, the most important thing is to have savings in his hands. As long as he has money in his hands, he will definitely live a comfortable and free life in his later years. His children will also strive to support himself. Moreover, elderly people with financial conditions generally have no worries about food and drink, and have their own houses. They don’t have to rely on others to see other people’s faces, they just need to please themselves. Therefore, many people know the importance of being rich in his later years, and they have saved a lot of savings for themselves when they are young.
has to admit that the rich elderly in their later years do live happier than ordinary elderly people and have a better quality of life. Some elderly people’s lifelong wishes can be easily realized by rich elderly people. There is indeed a gap between the rich and the poor, but this is not the ultimate question that determines whether they are happy in their later years.
80-year-old Mr. Zhou is an example. He has a pension of 5,000 yuan a month and a set of his own independent housing. The most amazing thing is that he still has a deposit of 500,000 yuan. Many people envy Mr. Zhou's life and think that he must have lived a very happy life and has no worries in his later years, but he didn't feel it. He even cried: "In his later years, he only relies on savings to support himself. He seems to be free and free, and only he knows the loneliness in his heart."
Mr. Zhou clearly has a good financial conditions, so why do he still feel unhappy? Let’s take a look at Uncle Zhou’s story together, and maybe there will be an answer.
80-year-old Mr. Zhou’s self-report:
My name is Zhou Shucheng. I am 80 years old this year. I have a monthly pension of 5,000 yuan. I also have an 80-square-meter house. Although it only has two bedrooms and one living room, it is enough for me to live in. The most important thing is that when I was demolished, I received a demolition of 500,000 yuan. This money is simply astronomical for me. This money is enough to make me have food and clothing in my later years.
Actually, it seems that I have money, a house, and a pension. The conditions are pretty good. I must have lived a good life in my later years, but I think this kind of life is very bad. I even think that the elderly who pick up bottles on the street live better than me. At least he has an old man and sensible and filial children. Apart from having some savings, all the rest is lonely.
My wife passed away early. I have lived alone for more than 40 years. I have never thought about remarrying for so many years. The main reason is that I am afraid that my stepmother will not be good to my children. Fortunately, I have a son and a daughter, and I raised them. When they got married, I tried my best to give them the greatest support. I have a clear conscience to my children, and even if I don’t have any credit, I will work hard.
For so many years, I have been living alone. Fortunately, my children are relatively filial. When I lived in my hometown, they often brought their grandchildren back to visit me. However, there are not many such happy days, and they only happen during festivals. Most of the other time, I am a widowed elderly person. However, I am still very pleased that my children often go home to visit, which proves that I did not give in vain when I was young. They are all children who know how to be grateful.
At that time, my relationship with my children was still very harmonious. Maybe they were thankful for my support for their financial support, or maybe it was driven by family affection. Although we were not together often at that time, the relationship was still very deep. It was just one day ten years ago, when I got up the next day, I felt dizzy and fainted directly on the ground.
Fortunately, I have a habit. Because I live alone, I open the windows for ventilation every morning. My neighbors know this habit. That day, I saw me closing the door tightly and knew that something happened to me. It was my neighbor who sent me to the hospital. After rescue, I came back alive, but it needed surgery, and it took about three months to recover, which was also a considerable amount.
At that time, the house in my hometown had not been demolished yet, and I really didn't have that much money on my hands, so I called my children. I thought that even if my children had no money, I would help me find a way to raise some. After all, when they got married, I didn't bargain at all. Now it's time to repay me. But I didn't expect that the children all made excuses. My son said he had lent out the money, and my daughter said he had just bought a house and had no dime in his hand.
Not only did they not help me find a way, but they also wanted me to sell my house so that I could have money to treat it. I was so angry that I shouted: "You two unfilial sons, I sold my house. Where will I live in the future? Do you want me to sleep on the street? If you don't want to help, get out. I have seen your true face clearly!"
Later, I borrowed money from a few old friends for surgery. During this period, several old friends took turns to take care of me. They were afraid that I was bored and often came to chat with me to relieve boredom. At this time, I was thinking, sometimes children are not as good as their old friends. When they encounter difficulties, their children are busy going to work to escape me, but their friends can donate generously. It's really a difference.
Because of this, I have always held a grudge against my children. At the same time, I have also decided that if I don’t rely on my children’s retirement in the future, I will no longer trust outsiders. It’s better to save more money by myself. As long as people have savings, they can live whatever they want, and they will no longer have to look at others’ eyes, and they are also free.
Fortunately, God treats me well. After I was discharged from the hospital, news came from my hometown: it is going to be demolished.
Actually, I have forgotten the house in my hometown for a long time. It is too remote and the house is too old. I haven't been back for a long time and I have been idle there. I didn't care much. Unexpectedly, a developer took a fancy to it and wanted to build a property there. I was like a dream and got 500,000 yuan in demolition payment.
This is life. You may not say that good luck will happen in the next turn. Since I got 500,000 yuan in demolition payment, the number of times my two children went home has increased significantly. Every time they came back, they had a flattering smile on their faces. I know that they were not coming back to visit me, but wanted to get some benefits from me. Every time they asked indirectly how much demolition payment I had received, and I would pretend to be deaf and dumb and never answered.
I am very revengeful. When I was sick, my children ignored me. Now I have made some money and want to get benefits from me. I can't agree to anything I say.
Later, the children were too lazy to pretend, so they asked me to borrow money, and I refused directly because I felt that lending money to them is to beat the dog with meat buns and go back but not return. Their financial conditions are not good, and it is impossible for me to return the money. I might as well save the money for myself to support myself.
No matter how they beg, I always stick to my own ideas and will never give them money. Who makes them feel heartbroken when I am sick. At this point, my relationship with my children has completely dropped to freezing point. My children never call me again, and I rarely go home to visit me. Some people who don’t know about it thought I was just a lonely person and had no children at all.
But I am not worried. After all, I have money, so I can support myself. If I have money, I can hire a nanny by myself. If I have money, I can spend money to live in a nursing home. I think it’s the same if I have children.
But what happened later completely changed my mind.
That day I went to my old friend's house to drink. Because I drank a little too much, I accidentally fell down the stairs while walking. I was old and the stairs were relatively high, so my waist broke directly, and there was no possibility of curing it. I could only spend the rest of my life in bed. When I was hospitalized, the first thing I thought of was my children. I called them and begged humbly: "Can you come to the hospital to see me? I pay the hospital fee myself, you don't have to spend a penny, I just hope someone around me chats with me." However, my children refused, they said they were busy with work and asked me to find a nurse. Until I was discharged from the hospital, my children had never come to see me once. Because I was unable to move, I asked my old friend to help me with my discharge procedures. To be honest, at that moment, I felt so pitiful, and I had no relatives or lovers around me.
Later, an old friend helped me contact a nursing home, which contained professional nannies and medical staff. The environment was beautiful, the food was delicious, and my peers were very compatible, but I still felt uncomfortable because I felt that although they served me well, they were all for the sake of money. Their kindness to me was cold. I couldn't feel their warmth. Every time I was sitting in a wheelchair, they were placed in a random place, and no one cared whether I really wanted to stay there. What makes me sad the most is that during the holidays, other elderly people have children coming to visit, but I am the only one. From morning to night, I can’t see their children. Looking at the happy appearance of other elderly people and their children, I am really envious and lost. I am so lonely.
The one you lack in nursing homes is sick and disabled. There are many elderly people in the same situation as me. Most of them are not in good health. Although we can all receive careful care from nursing staff, the entire nursing home is still filled with a depressing atmosphere. Because everyone is not in good health, they are always full of negative energy. Especially at night, many elderly people start to sigh and even sobb. I listen to their sadness next to me, and I feel a little uncomfortable. I often think of my children and grandchildren. I don’t know if they are doing well now, and whether their two young grandchildren have grown a lot taller now.
Through my own biological experience, I want to tell you that money does not mean happiness in my later years. For example, I still have 800,000 yuan in savings and 5,000 yuan in retirement every month. Isn’t it that living in a nursing home to survive? If I had known this, when my children asked me to borrow money from me, I should have given them the money. Even if I spent money to buy filial piety, it would be worth it.
is now having such a stale relationship with her children. Even if she has money, her children are unwilling to be filial to me. What's the use of holding so much money? Even if I meet the material requirements, I am still so lonely. It is better to share the money with my children. They may come to visit me occasionally, and I will not complain about myself every day. I really regret it.
Do you think Mr. Zhou should lend the money to his children? Welcome to leave a comment and express your opinion.
