Although marriage is a sublimation between two people's emotions and a husband and wife are the closest relationship in the world, even in such a state, many things that make people feel incredible are still happening.
Many couples have spent several spring and autumn together, but the more time goes by, the more they feel that something is changing quietly.
Physical contact and sharing a bed with a pillow is the most normal thing between husband and wife, but nowadays, more and more Chinese-style marriages are beginning to be accompanied by sleeping in separate rooms, not because of different sleep habits or because of quarrels and cold wars.
just feel that two people will feel inexplicably depressed and uncomfortable when they are together in the same space, so they will sleep in separate rooms.
Psychological research shows that when couples sleep in separate rooms, the longer men endure, the more they can prove a problem - love is cold.
The most direct manifestation of a man's love is the possession of space and time
. Xu Bochang in the movie " No Questions about the West and East " is a university teacher, while his wife is an illiterate person. The cultural gap between the two is too big that they can't even talk together. Therefore, Xu Bochang once filed for divorce, but Liu Shufen disagreed, and finally forced Xu Bochang to give up by dying. But it was also from this time that Xu Bochang began to sleep in separate rooms with Liu Shufen.
clearly lives under the same roof and has the closest relationship in the world, but is indifferent to each other, like a stranger who lives in the same space.
is wrong, even strangers are not as good as strangers. Xu Bo often greets people he doesn't know, but when he gets home, he immediately changes his face and attitude, as if Liu Shufen is a rag that emits a foul smell, which makes him look disgusted and avoids it.
During the time he slept in the separate room, Xu Bochang's attitude was always extremely arrogant. He never bowed his head, even if Liu Shufen humbly pleased him, it would be useless.
Occasionally sleeping in separate rooms between couples is not a big deal. After all, sometimes there are conflicts between two people. If you keep quarreling, it will only make the conflict worse. A short separation will help the couple maintain a calm attitude.
It’s just that if a man’s patience is strong after a couple sleeps in separate rooms and you cannot imagine it, it has nothing to do with the contradiction. He must not love you that much, because the man who truly loves you is reluctant to leave you for so long, especially in the same space.
Occasionally sleeping in separate rooms can increase freshness
Every marriage will experience the curse of seven years of itching, because the two people spend so long together, it is enough to let each other clearly know each other's interests, hobbies, joys, anger, sorrows, and happiness.
is like playing an adventure game. As time goes by, you gradually play it to the level and find that the game has no such attractiveness as it was before.
Because you have completely mastered it and got it, it is like a very ordinary story in your heart. It can no longer cause any ripples, but it will make you feel bored in this calm.
Therefore, some couples did not survive the seven-year itch, so they chose to part ways; while some couples took relevant measures to extend the number of times they passed the game to increase their freshness, such as sleeping in separate rooms.
The occasional sleep between husband and wife is like cooling a metal part with a high temperature. After this cooling, the marriage will be harder.
Although the most important thing in marriage is dullness and food, a peaceful life also requires a little ripples to make each other feel the romance that belongs to the marriage alone.
Therefore, it is not a bad thing for couples to sleep in separate rooms. On the contrary, two people can cherish the opportunity to be together more through a short separation, which will ensure the tenacity of marriage to a greater extent.
Good management is the long-term solution for marriage
Conflicts will occur in any nature of relationship, especially in relationships like couples with the highest intimacy, so conflicts are not scary. The key lies in how we should resolve them.
Some people choose to have a cold war after a conflict, and no one bows to anyone. As a result, the barriers are getting bigger and bigger. The problems that could have been solved have become the grave of love;
Some people are very angry when they have conflicts, but they will choose to control their emotions, analyze the problems with rational minds, weigh the pros and cons, and minimize the adverse impact of conflicts on marriage.
Song Dandan A sentence that once said in the sketch summarizes the concept of marriage that we should master: "The marriage of two people is like a car. On the road ahead, the car will always be damaged due to the long journey. What we need to do is to repair it as much as possible, rather than change a car."
Marriage is not like love. When you are unhappy, you can throw it away without scruples. More importantly, marriage is that the two people accompany each other.
If you give up without hesitation because of a little setback and choose to face it in the most negative way, then such a relationship is not called marriage, but a life together. Love should be as eternal as flowing water, and good management of the land is the long-term solution for marriage.
