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There is an observation, I don’t know, you have noticed:
Most women who are not married in their 30s are excellent, not picky, not that they don’t want to fall in love and get married, but they really can’t meet the right one.
On the contrary, men who are still single after more than 30 years old are rarely excellent, most of them have obvious "flaws", are withdrawn, have a marriage history, are too poor, etc.
There are several such "leftover women" and "leftover men" in my friends group. Among them, the typical situation for girls is:
Girls have a master's degree, work in the system is stable, and their family supports it a little more, bought a two-bedroom apartment, and a scooter.
But for various reasons, I didn’t find a good boyfriend in college back then. After graduating from a master's degree, they are usually twenty-five or twenty-six years old. After working, I was a little unconscious and I was twenty-seven or eight years old.
Men with similar age, appearance, and family background are popular at this time, and they are lined up for blind dates. There is a lot of room for choosing a mate.
We friends and colleagues around us are actually quite anxious, but in many cases, we are limited to the environment and circle, and we do not have a suitable introduction to each other.
In the end, the girl was very passively "remained". And when you are in your thirties, it is even more difficult to meet the right one.
There are also boys in their thirties or even forties around them, and they are not in love or getting married.
According to my observation, they all have one of the most basic things in common: poor personality and poor popularity.
Some boys look easy to get along with, maybe they have a house and a car, and they will occasionally go on blind dates.
But as long as you have had a deal with him once or twice, you will quickly feel something is wrong and it is uncomfortable to date him. If the time is a little longer, the friends around him will tacitly not introduce him to blind dates. To avoid cheating the girl in the end.
There is a cruel phenomenon in China's marriage and love, or prejudice and bad habits: men can be backward compatible, but women cannot.
Explanation is:
thirty-year-old man, if he finds a 20-year-old girl to marry, not only does no one finds it strange, but he will also be envious. But if a thirty-year-old woman finds a 20-year-old man, then the environment and public opinion will be under pressure.
is the case at age and economically. It seems that even many girls agree that they should find a man who is two or three years older than him and has a higher job and income. I think this is the ideal pairing.
But the reality is, everyone thinks so, in the end, boys who meet this condition have much larger space to choose a spouse than girls.
A thirty-year-old man, from 18 to 35, he can talk about it. A girl in her thirty years old has a much smaller range, and it can only be accepted by floating downwards for two or three years.
I don’t know if this observation is correct? Have you found a similar situation?
