In interpersonal communication, details determine success or failure.
Your kind act will make others trust you and like you;
Your casual words will also make others hate you and dislike you.
A person's behavior and language often determine the "popularity" of this person.
So, what details can be done in socializing that can make others trust you more and more and like you?
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In a plain life, remembering other people's preferences
This reminds me of an experience.
chatted with a friend I haven't seen for a long time and agreed on a chance to meet.
Before meeting the other party, I was very nervous. I don’t know if my relationship is still the same as before after I haven’t seen each other for so long.
But when we met, we all tacitly prepared a small gift for each other.
I remember that he liked to eat a famous pig's trotter, so he brought him two trotters;
And he remembered that I liked to drink tea, so he prepared two cans of tea for me.
At that moment, we saw surprise and happiness from the other person's expressions.
What kind of care can most touch people?
is of course the most difficult thing for him. When he is in the lowest mood, your care is a timely help.
What kind of gift is the most joyful?
What others give are all formal gifts, but you have prepared carefully and know their preferences.
In interpersonal communication, remember some details carefully and understand other people's preferences can make you more popular in social interaction.
When you accidentally show your concern for them.
For example:
When you were having dinner together, you helped him order food and said to him: "I remember you don't like to eat coriander, so I didn't let you put it." This small detail of
will double its favorability for you.
Anyone is eager to get the attention and care of the outside world, which will touch us.
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When others are ignored, give care
Have you ever had such experience?
At some dinner parties, there are always some people who will hide in the corner, eat silently, and quietly watch the people around you speak.
No one took the initiative to chat with him, and no one cared about him. He was the ignored character.
At this time, if you can express your concern to him and take the initiative to talk to him, he will feel and accept your kindness.
When we are lively, we should not ignore the loneliness of others;
When we have it, we should not forget the down-and-out friends around us;
When we succeed, we should not forget the people who silently help you and give you.
What is loneliness?
is a group of people climbing a mountain, only one person is left behind, and none of the people in front stops and waits for him.
What is care and understanding?
is the person who continues to climb to the top of the mountain, only you stop and wait for the person behind.
Psychologically speaking: Everyone desires to get attention from the outside world, hopes to be seen, and hopes to be understood.
Loneliness is a compulsory course for people;
But in social interaction, appropriate attention to lonely people can make the other party trust you more and like you.
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When others are in a bad state, give help
When a person is successful and famous, you will pay attention, praise, and support to him, which will only be the "icing on the cake".
In the crowd, he won't notice you.
When a person fails and falls out, everyone stays away from him. Only you can encourage him, support him, and help him. This is called "timely help".
can only see people's hearts clearly when they are in a low point and will be grateful to those who have helped them.
people will remember the person who took the initiative to help them solve the situation when they are embarrassed.
In social networking, why are people with high emotional intelligence popular?
Because people with high emotional intelligence have a more sensitive " empathy psychology".
They can promptly detect the emotional changes and experiences of people around them and provide appropriate comfort and help.
It is precisely because of this that people with high emotional intelligence are very popular.
For example:
In social networking, you are ridiculed and ridiculed by others, and everyone around you is watching the fun; at this time, an ordinary friend comes forward to help you solve the situation and stand on your side.
His appearance will make you particularly grateful.
Uninterrupted efforts and caring may not let the other party remember your goodness;
But when he needs help the most, he will be the first to extend his hand, and he will definitely remember your kindness.
And all of this is based on "mutual respect".
Only in weekdays, you respect others, understand others, and help others;
When you encounter trouble, others will also help you and respect you.
Any relationship is mutual; if you want to gain other people's kindness, you must first express your kindness.
If others respect you, then you also need to respect others.
Today's topic:
In social networking, what details of others make you feel good about?
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