Parents' love for their children will never stop;
Even if their children have grown up and have the ability to survive independently in society, parents will still feel that if they don't find a loving partner for them and form a harmonious family, they will never feel at ease and peace of mind as parents;
They are always worried that their children will live too lonely alone, and they will be even more worried that they will not be able to protect and take care of their children one day, so if they will live a miserable and helpless life;
They are always worried that their children will live a miserable and helpless life; 0As a person who has experienced the warmth and coldness of marriage, parents deeply understand that what kind of people their children marry is related to their happiness in their lives;
In terms of marriage, they cannot be careless or trust others;
In addition to external work, education, age, personality and other conditions, visionary parents pay more attention to what kind of people their in-laws are, whether the family atmosphere is harmonious and warm, whether the family style is good or evil;
After all, a person's original family can have a high probability of determining what kind of person he becomes;
Before becoming a family, smart parents will not stand idly by the marriage of their children. They will respect their children's feelings while rationally helping them to keep these three levels;
Whether the family really accepts their children
Marriage is to make each other suitable and love each other, come together, from trivial daily life to consultation and responsibility on major events, together through thick and thin, never leaving them;
In real life, because the family looks down on their children, they have a hasty relationship There are many families that are uneasy after marriage;
When the cruel side of marriage is revealed, what everyone sees is not peace and happiness, but the badness and calculation of human nature;
When parents plan to make marriage for their children, they need to focus on whether their in-laws truly accept their children from the bottom of their hearts;
Even if two families who get along well before marriage and like each other, there are conflicts and rifts after marriage, let alone the in-laws who have not fallen in love with their children?
" Ode to Joy ", Wang Baichuan fell in love with the girl he liked when he was a student;
The Queen Mother, who loved her son, learned that her son and girlfriend's family background was very bad and her family relationship was complicated, so she strongly opposed her son's marriage and spoke coldly about Fan Shengmei, who came to visit her at home enthusiastically, and many cruel reality tells us that once the in-laws are dissatisfied with their children and form a family with a disgust, they are likely to be rejected by their in-laws after marriage, and their children will swallow a lot of grievances, and the marriage is also at the risk of falling apart;
Therefore, smart parents, don't give their children to their in-laws who look down on them.
Whether the family and their own family are in terms of values is a good match
0 The right match has always been people's attitude towards marriage and principles to adhere to;
It does not refer to the matching and appropriateness of material conditions, but to the equality and mutual understanding of values;
A pair of values, two families who are not good match will come together, and they will definitely cause a lot of friction in the future, which will consume each other. ;
For example, some families believe that even relatives should maintain a basic sense of boundaries and sense of proportion, and they should settle accounts clearly in money, and do not need to have too much contact on weekdays. Respect and politeness should be included, and everyone should overcome any troubles.
Some families believe that relatives are close, and they should try their best to take advantage of others in money and make their own convenience; food, clothing, housing and transportation are not distinguished from you and me, and they even cross the line to ask the in-laws to help their relatives unconditionally without any consideration.
This combination is common in reality. If you clearly think in the opposite direction and become a family, you can imagine the days after marriage. It will definitely be uneasy, constant quarrels, and finally break up, ending with both losses;
Therefore, smart parents should carefully consider whether the other party’s family and themselves can reach a consensus on major events in life and whether the communication is smooth, otherwise they should not become in-laws.
Family atmosphere of family
Generally speaking, everyone will bring their habits in their original family to their marriage life;
After all, since childhood, they have been influenced by their parents' ways of getting along with each other, and their communication methods, which are all subtly affecting their thinking and habits;
After staying in an environment for a long time, they will become accustomed to many things;
If the other party's family atmosphere is always harmonious and warm, and the family is full of care and understanding of the other party, then the children will also be the same Method: treat your partner in marriage;
If the other party’s home is always filled with an atmosphere of complaints and accusations, then the child will take it for granted that his future marriage life will not be like this, and he will be pessimistic and passive in dealing with things;
For the future happiness of his children, parents should not be mean and ridiculed to their children just because they are old, thinking that they will lose their face if they don’t get married;
should help their children establish a correct view of marriage and love in the future, and treat their future in-laws with necessary investigation and judgment. Do not act blindly, which will delay their children’s happiness in their lives.
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