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Text: Shili
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"Can women choose to live together before marriage?" Two days ago, I saw this question online.
Some people say: "Women can choose to live together before marriage, because living together before marriage can understand each other, and they can try and make mistakes in marriage, so that they will not let themselves fail."
Some people say: "Women can live together before marriage, and only by being prepared for protection, then it's okay."
also some people say: "Women cannot choose to live together before marriage, because for women, the risk of choosing to live together before marriage is too high, and most women cannot bear the consequences."
Most of the author agrees with the third statement for these three statements.
In my opinion, if you can choose, it is definitely the most responsible way for women to live together before marriage.
If a woman insists on choosing to live together before marriage, then it is not completely impossible.
As long as certain requirements are met, living together before marriage is not completely impossible.
Before a woman lives together before marriage, she must confirm three things.
Before living together before marriage, you must understand each other enough.
These understandings are not something superficial, but something that is the most real in the other party’s inner level.
Marriage is a lifelong event. One mistake will lead to eternal regret. Every step is wrong.
If you choose the wrong partner, then your marriage is destined to be unhappy.
For women, they must know each other enough to make certain important choices.
Do you understand the other person’s emotions, character, and family enough?
These things are the top priority for marriage.
If there is no fit, then the future marriage is destined to be a mess.
Seeing this, some people may say, "Isn't the purpose of a woman choosing to live in marriage just to understand the other party?"
But in fact, there are many ways to truly understand a man, not just the extreme method of living before marriage.
In addition, living together before marriage often only makes the relationship worse.
A Yale University study showed that couples who had cohabitation before marriage had divorce rates of more than 80% after marriage.
In addition, the study also shows that compared with couples who have not experienced cohabitation before marriage, the divorce rate of couples who have experienced cohabitation before marriage is as high as about 2 times.
In fact, this data is easy to understand.
everyone says: "The longer a couple talks, the harder it is to get married."
agrees deeply about this.
Dwelling before marriage often allows a couple to enter the marriage life in advance. The longer they talk, the more they understand each other, and the shortcomings of the other party are exposed bit by bit. When there is no sense of mystery, expectations, and unwilling to accept each other's shortcomings, breaking up becomes inevitable.
And those couples who choose not to break up will gradually become boring in the boring marriage life. When expectations are dashed, disappointment will naturally only be greater. Therefore, some people are unwilling to be ordinary marriages and begin to have a second intention, go out to find excitement, resulting in the breakdown of the marriage.
Before living together before marriage, you should know if the other party really wants to marry you.
all say: "Loves that do not aim for marriage are all hooligans."
is the same for marriage.
If the other party does not have the intention to marry you, then it is just a play with you.
For such men, women must stay away from them, because they often only harm others and themselves.
You need to judge whether a man really wants to marry you.
Don’t look at what he said, but what he did.
Because a man's mouth may be lying, but his actions cannot be deceived.
A man who doesn't want to marry you often says too much and does less.
And a man who really wants to marry you often does more and says less.
Because in their hearts, you are the most important thing.
Facts are better than words. A man’s love for a woman is often hidden in his actions towards you.
The more a man gives you, the more he loves you, the more he will be unable to live without you.
Because this is how people are. The easier things they can get, the more they often despise them, and the more difficult things they get, the more they pay attention to.
The more men give, the more they cannot live without a woman, because giving will make them reluctant to leave this relationship. In order to prevent themselves from having nothing, they will only stick to their love.
A man who has never thought of marrying you will often not give you, because from the beginning they get close to you, they understand that they will leave, and naturally they will not increase their losses for no reason.
The man who really wants to marry you will give more to you, ask for less, and know how to respect your wishes.
And a man who never thought of marrying you often asks you for more and less. In order to make you give, he will even kidnap you with morality, make you submit and accept his control.
Women must understand that a man who really wants to marry you must love you and will put you first.
And a man who has never thought about marrying you is often selfish and will only consider his own interests.
In addition, whether you are engaged and have a real relationship is the prerequisite for cohabitation before marriage.
Choose to live together before marriage, can you bear the consequences?
For women, marriage is just a choice in life, and living together in marriage is actually just a choice.
Women choose to live together before marriage, whether you are ready to take on everything is a must for getting started before marriage.
Because cohabitation before marriage has always been a potential huge risk, especially for women, there will be many uncontrollable situations.
What you fear most when living together before marriage is to have a child unexpectedly.
For this matter, no matter how much protection you do, you cannot avoid it 100%.
For women living together before marriage, there must be a risk of getting pregnant before marriage.
Faced with the possibility of this risk, can you bear the consequences?
If you cannot bear this consequence, the author does not recommend living together before marriage.
Most women who regret living together before marriage almost always get pregnant before marriage.
They didn't want to do it, and they took good protection, but sometimes fate is to make people, and the fundamental thing goes against their wishes.
For a couple, with the emergence of children, it often leads to many big problems, and some can even easily destroy a relationship.
so women must think twice before doing this.
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Today’s topic: “What do you think about cohabitation before marriage?”
