Jiang Wumo said in his daily growth class that the fastest way to change inferiority and become confident is to do these three things well: Change cognition, temper skills and purify the environment.
Because inferiority complex is a wrong subjective cognition, not an objective fact.
I am a teacher and work part-time in the school to report news. Because of my love of writing, I have been in this position for 14 years since 2008. But during this period, I was always very depressed because I felt that I was not well written.
It was not until I met my mentor Jiang Wumo 2 years ago that From correctly understanding myself, continuously practicing writing skills and choosing an empowerment environment, I got rid of my inferiority complex that has lasted for many years and became confident.
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1 Change your cognition and establish your own evaluation system
Baidu Encyclopedia says: Your own evaluation system refers to a person's understanding and evaluation of his or her physical and mental state, ability and characteristics, as well as his or her status, relationship with others and society.
Jiang Wumo said in "Learn to the correct self-awareness and discover your strengths and potential": "From whether the evaluation is objective enough, there is a distinction between self-awareness and error. Wrong self-awareness is to subjectively narrow and expand yourself, and then let yourself fall into inferiority or arrogance and lose yourself."
For example, at work, my colleagues can organize and complete a report within 20 minutes. And I'll take at least 2 hours. Whenever she finishes her manuscript and is proud, I feel ashamed and very depressed.
Colleague comforted me and said, "I am a Chinese teacher in Chinese. We don't think we are surprised by this performance. And you, a science student, teaches cooking nutrition and can write press releases. We are really amazed!"
Jiang Wumo said, "The self-awareness is mainly due to wrong comparisons, and compares your own weaknesses with others' strengths."
Remember, Li Xiaolai said in "The Road to Wealth Freedom": "When you see the 100 yuan falling from the ground, the correct way is to pick it up and use it for yourself, not because you only have 10 yuan in the football, and sigh and feel inferior there."
Yes, self-awareness is inseparable from comparison. The correct comparison can be divided into vertical and horizontal.
vertical comparison means whether your current writing level is much better than yesterday; horizontal comparison means comparing with people who are better than yourself, finding your strengths and imitating them to improve yourself.
Only with correct comparison can one objectively understand oneself, establish a good self-evaluation system, and keep oneself at the center of various vortexes, stay awake, neither humble nor arrogant, and be calm inward.
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Trial skills and find the confidence to become strong
The confidence of a person based in society mainly comes from his professional core technical capabilities. The possession of this skill does not come from talent, but from desire, but from the hard work of the acquired down-to-earth effort.
I have a dream of writing. When I learned that a writer won the Nobel Prize for at the age of 85, I was very excited; when I read their works, I was even more eager to try. But when faced with the real-life reporting task, I often find myself so nervous that I have cramps in my brain, which can't be written or written well.
The huge sense of fear made me become a giant of thought and a dwarf of action, trembling.
Jiang Wumo said: "The inferiority caused by fear mainly comes from greed, and behind it is unrealistic and over-expected."
After I studied under Jiang Wumo, my daily anxiety turned into listening to classes, reading and writing repetitions; past fantasies were also replaced by various writing tasks assigned by my tutor.As time goes by, I find that I can start to write it, and it improves a little.
When I saw the increase in clicks on manuscripts published in multiple media, and when I heard readers say "Your article is focused, and you can understand it at first glance", I truly understand that the improvement of skills comes from persistent efforts, not pure enthusiasm and high expectations.
Wang Shuo said in "13 Effective Writing": "There are very few people who write news reports clearly and in an orderly manner around facts. Writing such articles requires talent, not geniuses. It can be obtained through training, not easy, but hard work will bring rewards."
Yes, thinking is all a problem, action is the answer.
Only by making things you like and becoming good at by step by step can you overcome the fear brought by being too ambitious, and make yourself from weak to strong and have the confidence to become confident.
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1 Purify the environment and form a positive cycle to become better
French philosopher Aier maintenance said: "Humans are the product of the environment."
Different environments can stimulate different energy in you.
For example, for a while, the number of news published by the school in the media was behind, and the leader was very anxious, but I could not bear it alone without talking about the large amount of tasks, but instead, I was subjectively determined that "you couldn't write it well."
During that period, I fell into a dilemma of high load and low efficiency. I could not get the understanding of my leaders and had no way to improve my professional skills. I became more and more poorly written, and I felt inferior and depressed.
"Lingyun Sutra " says: "If you can change the environment, you will be the same as Tagata ."
gave me strength, making me write better and better, and became confident. It was not that the school established a publicity department and added 2 newcomers, but that Jiang Wumo's excellent circle composed of 14 friends.
In this circle of practicing streamlining expression and logical thinking once a week, not only are the roles such as host, sharer and feedbacker that challenge me, but also have an open, inclusive and free empowering atmosphere, allowing me to grow rapidly while daring to make mistakes and seriously correcting them.
Jiang Wumo said: "Stay away from those who attack, deny and mock us, and keep away from them psychological and physical distance. At the same time, create an environment where you can feel your own advantages and be nourished, soak there, and make yourself stronger."
Yes, you can become what kind of person you choose.
Currently I do not have the ability to create an empowering environment, but what I can do is to purify the environment and give up people and places that make themselves negative, and support each other in a good atmosphere that can empower yourself and be willing to give, and become stronger together in a positive cycle.
In the past, I always thought that from inferiority to self-confidence, like the Antarctic and Arctic of the Earth, it was out of reach; now, with the help of school news reporting, I have finally understood that it is easy to become confident in two years. That is,
Change cognition and establish your own evaluation body If you compare correctly, you can get out of the shadow of others and become peaceful;
Temper your skills and insist on doing something good at it, you can overcome the fear caused by greed and have the confidence to become confident;
purify the environment, find a community that empowers you and is willing to give, and in the positive cycle, it will become better and better.
Confident people have their own halo and are the most attractive. May we all find our own bright colors in our lives and be full of confidence.
Author | Anhe
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