Introduction:
If you marry your husband's family after marriage, but your younger brother or family member of your parents' family is not doing well, then will you use the financial conditions of your husband's family to help your parents' family?
may be answered by many married women. Because most married women have emotional memories of their parents' families, those emotional memories are not so easily erased. Although they marry into their in-laws' house, it does not mean that they can turn a blind eye to their parents' family's difficulties.
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Everyone thinks that Yuping is married very well. Her family background is very ordinary, but she married a rich second generation. As the sister of the family, everyone thinks that she must listen to her family when she gets married in the future, but Yuping is very independent. When Yuping was in her teenage years, her family said to her, "Just stop studying. No matter how much a girl reads, won't she always get married in the end? It seems like a waste of money to study." But Yuping has her own ideas. Yuping said, "Girls must study, because if a girl doesn't study, she will not be able to go outside to see the big world, she will not be able to broaden her horizons, and she will not be able to go broader in the future."
Yuping's ideas in college are also different from others. Other girls are busy dating, dressing up, and chatting, but she is only busy studying. Yuping thinks that in love, you can talk about it in the future, and now it is the most important thing to work hard to master skills. Yuping believes that being able to do is the most important thing, so since she chooses to study, she must read well. Yuping has a very good academic performance in college and has received a scholarship. She has never worried her parents. After graduating from college, she also actively looked for a job and actively expressed her willingness to accept the tempering of society.
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The jobs Yuping is looking for are also different from those found by other girls. Many girls are looking for jobs close to home and work is relatively leisurely, but Yuping is looking for more challenging jobs. She is not afraid of hardship or fatigue at work, and works hard to overcome all difficulties. So she has performed outstandingly in her work two years later. She performed well in her work, so she can attend a relatively high-end cocktail party, which is when she met her husband at that cocktail party.
Many relatives say that Yuping looks average and has such an ordinary family background. She can still marry a rich second generation. She is really lucky. But Yuping knew that she had worked very hard all the time, always understood what she wanted, and was actively striving for what she wanted, so she had a good destination today. Yuping's husband also thinks that she is different from other girls. She has a kind of fighting spirit. She is very rational and not emotional or stupid.
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The family of the mother-in-law quietly reminded Yuping’s husband: The conditions of Yuping’s parents’ family cannot be compared with those of her mother-in-law. The conditions of her parents’ family are so poor, so you should be careful that Yuping will continue to supplement her parents’ family. Yuping's husband said, "I have confidence in Yuping. She is not an ordinary girl. She will not be easily influenced by other people's ideas." When his relatives heard him say this, they said, "Don't make a conclusion too early. Many girls can easily change their inner thoughts when facing their parents' family."
Why do relatives say this? Because relatives all think that Yuping is very good to her parents. She often buys things for her parents' parents, and will invite her family to dinner when she has time. She doesn't look like a sober woman who doesn't spend a penny to her family. The parents of Yuping's family also felt the same way. Although Yuping married a rich second generation, she was not alienated from these ordinary relatives in her parents' family. Instead, she often contacted her parents' family. So if her parents had something to ask Yuping for help, they thought Yuping would not refuse. Yuping was not so inhumane, but she was definitely not willing to help without principles even if she was busy.
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Yuping married a rich second generation. Of course, she was not willing to be said to be ignored by her family after marrying a rich man. Yuping also pays great attention to her image in the eyes of outsiders, but she is not the kind of person who has no opinion and no bottom line.She is kind to her family, but in fact she is also a little favor to her family, which is to win some good reputation for herself.
But the parents of my parents misunderstood in Yuping's heart that their family is very important. Yuping's mother, she thinks that her daughter should be born to help her younger brother. Now that her daughter has married a rich second generation and her younger brother is not married yet, then her younger brother will buy a house and a car in the future, and her daughter must not stand idly by. My mother thought so. When Yuping's younger brother was really preparing to get married, she also asked Yuping for the same reason. When her brother got married, her mother and father paid 200,000 yuan, and her brother paid 50,000 yuan, and the down payment was still 400,000 yuan.
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The 400,000 is indeed an astronomical figure for the mother's family, but the mother thinks it is a small amount of money for Yuping, because the son-in-law can sometimes make hundreds of thousands a month. The mother thinks that as long as he talks to Yuping, he can get the 400,000 soon, and his son's wedding house will not be a problem. On this day, Yuping bought a new piece of clothing for her mother and asked her if she fits her. While trying on clothes, the mother said, "Daughter, your brother is still 400,000 yuan short of buying a wedding house after getting married. You think of another way and count on you."
Yuping immediately changed her face when she heard her mother say this, and said to her mother, "Why do I have to find a way to buy a wedding house after getting married? Why should I count on me? I earn up to tens of thousands of yuan a month, how can I take out 400,000 yuan to buy a wedding house for him? I don't have the ability, don't you count on me." The mother said, "Isn't your husband so rich? If you marry a rich second generation, don't you just ask your husband to give you 400,000 yuan?"
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Yuping said: "My husband earns money is his money, and the money I earn is my money. Even if I spend money for my mother's family, I still use the money I earn. I can't spend the money my husband earns for my mother's family. Just like you can't spend the money my father earns for your mother's family, you put your heart in mind, you can't ask my husband to earn money to buy a wedding house for my brother." The mother said: "Isn't your husband's money your money? Your husband can earn hundreds of thousands a month, and you ask him to get 400,000. It's just such a small matter, why can't you do it for your mother's family!"
Yu Ping said, "Mom, I'm already married, I can't use my mother-in-law's family to supplement my mother's family. I'm willing to spend the money I earn myself, and I'm willing to buy you something to make you happy. But I don't have the ability to pay for this kind of big money of hundreds of thousands. Since I don't have the ability to pay, I can't help you. I can't let my husband pay for my brother to buy a wedding house."
Mother blamed Yuping: "My family raised you so old. Now my brother needs your help in the marriage matters. How can you, the sister, not do your best?" Yuping said, "I'll help as much as I can. I personally I don’t have much ability, so I can do what I can. I can’t be so unconscious and ask my husband to get money for my mother’s family. Since I’m already married, marriage is the first and the second. I can’t do things that hurt my marriage for my mother’s family.”
ending:
Finally, my mother didn’t contact Yuping for a long time because Yuping didn’t buy a wedding house for her brother, and Yuping also lived her own life with peace of mind. If her mother was like this, then her mother didn’t really care about her. If she felt sorry for her, why should she have to deal with her more?
If you don’t have sincerity to me, then I don’t have to force it. Everyone is going through their own lives. Yuping is now married. The most important thing for her is to protect her family and not force anything else.
