Dresse has a famous saying: A harmonious family air is a flower in the world. Nothing is gentler than it, nothing is more beautiful than it, nothing is more suitable to cultivate the nature of a family to be strong and upright.
If families plot against each other and care about each other, the family atmosphere will definitely be bad, which is not conducive to harmonious coexistence between families. Day after day conflicts will break out after accumulating for a long time, causing the marriage to break up and the family to break up.
The daughter-in-law refused to give 100,000 yuan of dowry to her brother-in-law as a dowry. The mother-in-law asked her son to mention AA. Son: Mom, please calm down. This is the result of excessive selfishness among relatives and mutual calculations. Let’s take a look at what’s going on.
Cheng Lan/28-year-old
My husband and I had been in love for four years before, so I was not in a hurry to get married, but he and his in-laws were in a hurry to get married. My husband's family calculated me thoroughly when they got married. The custom of my family is that the minimum bride price starts at 88,000 yuan, plus , three gold .
The husband’s family said that my bride price was too high, and told my husband that he was not the only son in their family, and that he gave him all the money to marry him. What should the younger son do in the future? My mother-in-law has always asked my husband to do my ideological work. I made it clear that the bride price is not a penny, and I will take 100,000 yuan with me, and my car will also take it.
Even so, my husband's family still did not give in and kept acting in a bitter scene there, asking me to reduce the bride price to 38,000. It’s not that I care about money, but that this is too unfair to me, and I will bring 100,000 yuan in dowry. The two families couldn't continue to negotiate the amount of bride gifts. As the marriage was about to be ruined, my husband was so worried about this matter that he lost me. I felt distressed.
My husband and I have four years of emotional foundation, and I hope to get the wedding smoothly. In the end, both sides made a move, and the number of dowry gifts was 58,000. I have to drive to and from get off work, but I still followed the car and my husband drove it often. The dowry given by my parents was still 100,000, but I changed the purpose of the dowry. I originally planned to buy furniture for a new house, but because the dowry was unpleasant, I decided to keep the money myself first.
My husband is quite reasonable. He pays off the mortgage by himself, and he is also buying furniture one by one. We did not live with our parents-in-law, and our parents-in-law were too smart people. I couldn’t get along with them. If we live separately, we wouldn’t have so many conflicts in our lives. Who knew that just one year after getting married, my mother-in-law came to give me a dowry.
My mother-in-law asked me to take out the dowry of 100,000 yuan to my brother-in-law as a dowry for me on the grounds that my brother-in-law was going to get married. I immediately refused my mother-in-law, "This is my dowry, my future guarantee. I have to keep this money myself. My brother-in-law asked him to give me a dowry when he got married. Didn't he say that he would leave money to his brother-in-law and didn't give me a dowry of 88,000? Why? Now my brother-in-law's dowry must be released from my dowry?"
The smart mother-in-law was always strong, saying that the woman's dowry belongs to her in-laws' family, and I have no right to keep this money. I smiled, "As you say that, I will marry into your family, and then ask me to help your youngest son marry? You are too smart!" I drove my mother-in-law out, and then I asked me to block the contact information. If she is unreasonable, don't blame me for being ruthless.
I thought my mother-in-law had no idea this time, but she didn't expect her to ask her husband to mention AA to me. To be honest, if my husband really listened to my mother-in-law, I could immediately go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to divorce him. Fortunately, my husband is sober and knows that it is my mother-in-law who is unreasonable. This time he is on my side. Because of the bride price, my husband always felt that he was indebted to me. He wanted to make up for it and never wanted my mother-in-law to destroy our marriage.
My husband talked with my in-laws and clearly expressed his position. He supported me and hoped that my mother-in-law would not make such unreasonable requests in the future and would stop from now on. My in-laws naturally scolded my husband so much that he was very tough, but my husband still stood on the united front with me. My husband's actions touched me very much. I met my best-selling mother-in-law, but fortunately I married a good husband.
Now my mother-in-law never dares to make me dowry again, and will never interfere in our lives again. Now everyone is living their own lives and is in peace.My husband has recently been promoted and paid a salary increase, so he decided to save money to clear the mortgage in one go to reduce the burden. He told me that I would spend whatever I earn, and save the dowry as a guarantee for the future. I just learned that I was pregnant, and I had decided to use the dowry as an education fund for my children.
