The most insecure thing in a relationship is that it is easy to question the purity of a relationship and doubt whether the other party really loves you.
Little do you know that true feelings are not obtained through testing and testing, but are actually created by two people in their daily relationship.
The factors you are uncertain about and the answers you want are hidden in the details of food, rice, oil and salt, but you have never discovered them. As long as you use a little snack, you won’t worry about gains and losses due to uncertainty.
Because the people who hold you in their hearts will still remain in touch during these moments when each other needs them.
1. After a quarrel, I will come back to coax you
In the relationship, I am not afraid of quarrels, but I am afraid of the cold war in the quarrels, and inexplicably ending a relationship in the cold war.
When there is an argument, we will speak without regard for each other's feelings because we are emotionally ignoring and completely ignore the other person's feelings. In anger, we will break out regardless of the door, leaving another person to cry and feel sad at home.
People who don’t love you are slamming the door and thinking after they go out, if you don’t apologize, don’t bow your head and admit your mistake, I will not forgive you, and disappear after you leave. I have never thought about how to deal with the problem, but let the problem deal with the relationship.
And the person who has you in his heart will walk and reflect while walking while thinking about whether he has done too much, and on the way back, he will buy the other party what he likes to eat.
Ta will give in first, lower his head and apologize. It is not that he has no temper, but because he cares about you and is afraid of losing you, so he is willing to be the one who admits his conscience first.
Everyone who cannot get comfort after a quarrel will think that he is no longer loved, the other party does not care about him, and he is insecure in his random thoughts.
But people's patience is limited, so don't be arrogant and trample on others' emotions. When quarrel, you must also learn to understand the other party. If you can't control the quarrel, you must control the attitude of the quarrel and the hurtfulness of your words.
The indiscriminate speech after being controlled by emotions will not only hurt the person you love, but also consume this relationship. Therefore, we must learn to communicate, learn to understand each other, and learn to take turns to give in, so that the relationship can last for a long time.
2. Before making important decisions, I will communicate with you
The person who holds you in his heart will communicate with you first when making important decisions. You are the other half he values. You have the right to know. He also wants to listen to your opinions before making a decision.
Whether it is life, children's education or personal career prospects, he will give priority to family and respect the other party, and will not make any decisions by himself.
Ta will listen to your opinions and be willing to accept good opinions. Even if the opinions are different and there are differences with you, he will patiently listen to you and then express his opinions and suggestions, and make a decision after discussing.
Only those who truly love you will put your views first, and will never deliberately hide them, but will give everything to you, wanting to share weal and woe with you and stay with you for the rest of your life.
People who don’t love you will not tell you anything and have the final say in everything. Even after you learn about this, he still insists on doing it alone.
3. When you are fragile, you are willing to tell you about
Because you trust you enough, you are willing to share everything with you. Perhaps sometimes, you cannot provide substantial help to his suffering, but your comfort can make him feel at ease.
Especially when we are frustrated and helpless, the first thing we think of is the person we love the most. We want to talk to him. Even if we hug him, it will give him the greatest strength and make him feel great stability.
Because you have you in your heart, you will never hide it from you. No matter it is a small matter, you are willing to share it with you, so that when you get along with each other, you can connect to that matter and communicate with each other without any obstacles.
People who don’t love you enough are because they don’t trust you, because they think what can they do if they tell you, and they can’t solve any problems. It’s better to go out with friends to have a drink.
Then face you with a dull and unhappy look on your face. If you ask about it with concern, you will still yell at you impatiently until the annoyance of things disappears.
If a person thinks of you when he is fragile and tells you, then you must be the sustenance of his soul and the softest existence in his heart.
Those who truly love you are in the details. People will lie, but details will not. Love is in the details, and it is also true that they do not love.
We search for each other all our lives, just to support each other, cross the gaps of time, and survive the difficulties of life, and still support each other.
If you meet such a person, I hope that after experiencing the wind and rain and passing through the long river of time, you can still face the common end and stay together for a lifetime.
