Introduction
I have to admit that people are old and do face many difficulties. Because the older a person is, the more underlying diseases you will have. Legs and feet are inconvenient, hypertension, , hyperlipidemia, hyperglycemia, , these three highs are almost accompanied by every elderly person.
Many people think that pension is not a problem when they are still able to move. Because they didn't expect what to do when they were inconvenient to move on one day? Many people may say that relying on their spouses and children, but the reality is heartbreaking.
70-year-old Aunt Chen admitted: When people get over 70 years old, it’s not their children and their spouses who can be trusted. In fact, when a person is old and when he is inconvenient to move, no one can rely on it.
Why did Aunt Chen say this? What exactly has Aunt Chen experienced? Let’s take a look at Aunt Chen’s emotional experience. For the sake of everyone's understanding, I write it in the first person.
Narrator: 70-year-old Aunt Chen
My name is Chen Meijuan, and I am 70 years old this year. I used to be alive and I thought I would be healthy in my life. I never thought about what would happen if I was seriously ill one day? To be honest, I really never thought it because I think this kind of unfortunate thing would not happen to me at all.
Due to the nature of my work, I retired at the age of 50. Now I have been retired for 20 years. My monthly retirement salary is 4,000 yuan. My wife is a middle school teacher. He retires at the age of 60. His monthly pension is 7,500 yuan.
I had nothing to do after retirement, so I was responsible for taking care of my wife's diet and daily life. To be honest, I treat my husband very well because we are high school classmates. In fact, at the beginning, we had no intersection, and we basically didn’t speak when we were in high school. So I never thought that he would be my life companion.
We got in touch at the class reunion, and after a period of time we got married later. My wife is not good at speaking and he doesn't like to speak. Sometimes I wonder how such a person can be a good teacher? But he doesn't like dealing with others, he likes dealing with students.
. I am a person who is more extroverted and I like to make friends, so I have more friends. I found that after retirement, I basically went to my house with my friends, and my wife, no one of his friends, had ever come to my house to find him because my wife doesn't like making friends and he doesn't like to entertain others.
To be honest, I think it is a pleasant thing if everyone gets along well. Because on the road of life, we cannot be smooth sailing and will encounter some difficulties. When we encounter difficulties, if we have many friends, and the so-called more friend and more will have more opportunities, then our friends will help us.
If a person is not good at making friends and has no friends, when we encounter difficulties, no one will help us at all. But making friends is also related to a person's personality. My wife doesn't like to make friends, and no matter what I say, it's useless.
When I work, I often contact my friends. After retirement, I contacted my friends and classmates more frequently. Because after retirement, I was really lonely. I have nothing to do, except buying vegetables and cooking for my wife to eat, I really don’t know what to do for the rest of my time.
Although my son and my daughter both have their own families, and I already have grandsons and grandsons, my son and my daughter don’t need me to help them take care of their children.
My daughter’s in-laws’ family has good financial conditions and there are several nannies at home. Moreover, my daughter’s mother-in-law is a university professor. She is more experienced than me in educating her children, so my daughter is her mother-in-law who helps take care of the children. I can't even use it to ask me to help take care of the children.
And my daughter-in-law said that she is her full-time wife. My son runs his own company, he is very busy, but he also makes money. My daughter-in-law once helped in her son's company.
Later, after my grandson was born, my son said that he had earned money, so he simply asked his wife to go home and be a full-time housewife, take good care of the children, and educate them well, so my grandson didn't need me to take care of them.
I don’t want to buy groceries and cook every day, I have to find something to do. So I went to dance square dance in the morning. After dancing the square dance, I went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables and cook. In the afternoon, I will go to the Senior Citizens to sing.
Usually I miss my classmates and friends, so I will ask them out for tea and chat. Sometimes I also make an appointment with them to visit the surrounding area. Anyway, life is only more than 30,000 yuan, and you must live every day if you have less time.
Later, influenced by a classmate, I fell in love with riding a bicycle. I bought a bicycle and equipment. If I had time, I would ride it. Not only did I ride it myself, but we also had partners, and there were about a dozen people in a group.
When there is nothing to do, everyone will make an appointment to ride together. Actually, this is quite happy. Just ride around the city and enjoy the scenery around you. It can be regarded as a short trip, exercise, and make friends.
To be honest, I didn’t ride a bicycle when I was young. Instead, after I retired, I rode my bicycle more and more times, and my skills were getting better and better. So sometimes practice makes perfect. If you insist on doing something, you will definitely have unexpected moments over time.
Time passes quickly. I have retired for almost 20 years now, but I have many problems now. Especially in the past two years, when I went to the vegetable market to buy vegetables, I was accidentally hit by a car and got a lot of problems. Now my legs and feet are in great pain, especially when it is windy and rainy.
I didn’t expect that misfortune would not happen, and I had another tumor on my leg. The doctor said that if you want to save your life, you will have to amputate your limbs. To survive, I listen to the doctor.
When I called and told my son to tell my daughter that I was going to have surgery to amputate. My daughter asked me when I would have surgery. She has no time recently and may not be able to come back. It will take some time before she can come back to see me.
My son didn't respond, and he didn't comfort me either. He thought it was a minor operation and nothing big. He is very busy now and is on a business trip abroad. Both children are far away from me. To be honest, if I have to sign the operation, I can only ask my wife to sign it, and my son and daughter will not come back for a while.
My wife doesn't care much about me if she says that. I've all become like this, but my wife's concern for me has not increased. My wife thought I should do whatever the doctor told me. No big bad things will happen.
Actually, I am old and I am really afraid to go to the operating table. Because I was afraid that I would not get off after I went to the operating table. By then, I won’t even see the last side of my son and daughter. Unexpectedly, in my wife's eyes, he thought I was thinking too much.
The day of the operation was signed by my wife. During the first few days of the operation, my wife took care of me and ran back and forth every day to cook delicious food for me.
I was very moved at that time. I felt that only when I was in trouble could I see the true feelings between husband and wife. Although he is not very nice to me, he is still okay to me in the most difficult times, and I am secretly happy in my heart.
The time I spent in the hospital. Basically, my wife came to take care of me. Later my daughter came back, but my daughter just asked about my condition briefly. Later, my son also rushed back from abroad. While in the hospital, my son and my daughter were with me for two days and two nights.
But during this period their phone kept ringing, and they spent almost half of their time making calls, and they were all about work. I do know that my son and daughter are really busy, and I am really happy that they can take the time to come back.
But as soon as I heard what they called someone, I knew they were really in a difficult position. I can't spend so much time with me for a month or two.Unexpectedly, my daughter took the initiative to ask for it on the third day, saying that she was very busy with work and she was going back. When my son saw his sister say that, he said by the way. He was also very busy and couldn't get away. He said he would come back to see me when he had time and stay with me.
Seeing that the children were so busy, I really didn’t want to drag them down, so I pretended to be strong and asked them to go back to work. I’m fine. When my daughter left, she gave me 50,000 yuan and told me to ask my nurse to take good care of me. My son also threw me 50,000 yuan and said he would buy me nutritional supplements.
The children are all back to work. I thought my wife would take care of me like this, but I didn’t expect that my wife has been taking care of me for more than ten days and he is impatient. To be honest, it's really tiring to run to the hospital home every day. Because I had to go shopping for groceries and cook, I used to buy groceries and cook, but now I can't move anymore, so he just came to buy groceries and cook.
so he told me directly, asking the nurse to take care of me. I didn't say anything, but I didn't expect that my husband would actually hire a nurse to take care of me the next day. Since the caregiver came to take care of me, my wife has never seen me again and occasionally called me.
Although my wife doesn’t like to talk, he likes to play more. He especially likes fishing, so if he has time, he often goes fishing. He has been taking care of me for several days, so after he asked a nurse to take care of me, he ran to fish.
To be honest, although the nurse took good care of me, she would do whatever I told her to do. She helps me clean and cook food. She will help me with whatever needs to be helped. But I still feel very lonely. After all, the nurse is not my relative. I have some things that I can't tell her.
especially Sister Wang who saw the bed next door. Sister Wang’s family conditions are not good. She has three children, two daughters and one son. However, during the hospitalization period, Sister Wang was her three children took turns to take care of her. My daughter stays with me for a week and my son stays with me for a week, and I heard from Sister Wang.
Sister Wang’s eldest daughter’s family is not so financially, so she pays relatively less, but she is very filial. She often cooks delicious food for her mother. When Sister Wang was having dinner, she would take the initiative to leave some for me. She said that her family’s burns are nutritious. I bought it outside, not hygienic enough. Patients should eat better because they have poor resistance.
lying in bed, I will think that my monthly pension is 4,000 yuan, and my wife’s monthly pension salary is more than 6,500 yuan. Moreover, my daughter's family has good financial conditions and my son is doing well, but I was very lonely in my later years.
It is really a disaster when people get old. It is okay if they can move, but if they can't move, it's really pitiful. I have my own retirement salary, my children are rich, and I can afford to hire a nursing staff. I can't imagine what I should do if my children don't have money if they don't have retirement wages?
Conclusion
Aunt Chen’s experience is full of emotion. When people are old, their children and their spouses are really unreliable. Children have their own lives, they have their own small families and their own careers, and they can't take care of their parents at all.
and where is your wife? I think I have a better relationship with myself, but if you have been sick for too long, my wife will probably despise me. Just like Aunt Chen’s wife, she was pretty good to Aunt Chen at first, but later she simply asked someone to take care of her.
Most people are lonely and pitiful when they are old, no matter whether they are rich or not. An elderly person who has no money can not hire someone who can take care of themselves. Although rich elderly people have invited people to take care of them, they lack the company of family affection.
At this time, money is no longer of great significance to them, and what they need is family companionship. If you are also an old man, what should you do when one day you can’t move yourself?
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