I was idle and looked through the WeChat address book and found that so many inexplicable people have been added for various reasons: couriers, masters who come to repair gas stoves, shopping guides in clothing stores, and proprietors in fruit shops at the door... Some of them have blank chat records and no notes, and you can't remember who they are. And some people were once very familiar with, but now they are lying quietly in the WeChat list , gradually becoming unfamiliar, slowly alienated, reluctant to delete, and no longer contact.
There are so many people in this world, some people will disperse as they walk; some relationships will fade away as they go.
"The Life of Matsuko Despised" Stills
In 2018, I went to Beijing to participate in business training. When I was divided into rooms, I lived in the same room with an older sister from Shanxi. Naturally, we added WeChat to facilitate communication of information when entering and leaving the room. Two strangers who met by chance were polite, restrained and cautious at the beginning.
is in the same room, so I have to find a way to break the awkward and dull atmosphere. After a day's class, I was chatting and took the initiative to start the night chat mode with my elder sister. As night falls, body and mind are relaxed, and it is easy for people to let go of their guard and open their hearts. We first chatted casually, talking about children, family, career, growth, life, and marriage. We were surprised to find that we had highly similar life experiences. What I said resonated with her, and what she said, I could empathize with and . The two women who were temporarily separated from their busy work became more and more speculative and excited as they talked, and they even talked until the early morning. There are some things that no one can say, and some people have nothing to say. It is rare to meet a partner who meets the opponent with three views.
The week of training has ended. Let’s say goodbye to each other. I know, some goodbye, never see you again. You just thought someone was interesting, but from then on, they disappeared from the crowd and never saw each other again, this is life. There are many relationships in this world that have shelf life.
Stills of "Oliv Kitrich"
Back to their familiar lives, working hard, and busy, and it seems that there is no reason to disturb the contact from now on. But I have never been willing to delete on her WeChat. I accidentally looked through it and the good memories of those days emerged.
Some people, it is the last tacit understanding between them that they do not delete or contact each other. When we were in college, we had a good friend. We went to the library together, went to the study room together, went shopping together, and even went to the toilet together. In four years, two lonely girls gathered together to keep warm and forged a deep friendship. When we were leaving after graduation, we were sad and sad, and we promised to meet once every five years.
" July and Ansheng " Stills
After graduation, they went their separate ways, busy looking for jobs and getting married. From then on, they gradually drifted away and had no intersection. Those firm oaths had long dissipated in the wind. Each has its own circle of life, career ups and downs, life situation, after years of separation, I want to contact you but are afraid of abruptness, afraid of disturbing the other person, and afraid that you are not that important to others. Year after year, only the blessing text messages remain in the dialog box during the holidays, and in this way, they maintain a tacit understanding of not deleting or actively contacting each other. There were no quarrels, no misunderstandings, and no earth-shaking events happened. The person who promised to be with him forever lost traces on the way.
The farewell ceremony for adults is very simple: you did not reply to my last message, and I did not send it again tacitly. We just disappeared silently in each other's lives, leaving only the chat records of the past, carrying those old times and memories. " Mountains and Rivers Old Friends " says: "Some people disperse as they walk. You have to ask me the reason. I told you that there is no reason. It's just because you and I are in the wind, and you can't help but gather together."
Stills of "My Genius Girlfriend"
Occasionally look through her circle of friends, take a photo of her work with her colleagues, watch her get married and have children, have both children, have a peaceful life, have a peaceful life, have been old and have lost the courage to like it. A very heartbreaking fact is that someone no longer contacts you by is not entirely because of physical distance, because there are more important people in TA life. This train of life, countless people can accompany you all the way, and very few people can accompany you to the end.
has a very vivid metaphor: " Life is actually like a road from a wide plain to a forest. On the plain, companions can walk together, happily push forward and support each other; once you enter the forest, the grass and thorns block the road, the situation changes, everyone concentrates on their own path and finds their own direction." In the world of adults, loneliness is the background color. You always have to walk alone in some roads; you always have to experience some things alone. As time goes by, knowledge and friendships fall in scattered is the norm in life, and we must learn to accept it.
Stills of "Love Letter"
Some people who have broken contact have resumed contact, and there is a kind of surprise of losing and regaining it. There was a very good colleague. We worked together for many years, went to and from get off work together, complained about the students' naughty and naughtyness, and shared secret thoughts together, talked about everything, and were inseparable from others, and had the tacit understanding and friendship that envied others. Later, I went to graduate school, and she left her original unit, changed jobs, and got married. From then on, we embarked on different life trajectories. Although her phone number and WeChat have always been placed in my address book, we have fewer and fewer conversations since then, so we simply stopped contacting each other. Time is really cruel, and people go from familiar to strangers, from close to alienation, and being strangers is really more reborn than a stranger.
The situations and experiences are different, and the emotions that have been changing thousands of times can no longer resonate with each other. I want to say a few greetings, but I am afraid of abruptness and don’t know where to start. What does say? The world of adults has their own difficulties and sorrows. Perhaps no news is the best news.
In September this year, suddenly one day, she sent me a long and sincere text asking me which university my child was admitted to. It turned out that she had been following my updates. After receiving the message, I immediately called her. Her contact information has not changed for so many years. When the phone was connected, I could hear the surprise that could not be concealed in her tone.
" The Best Us " Stills
There is no slight barrier. We jumped from one topic to another. After chatting for nearly two hours, we learned about her recent situation: her company went bankrupt, she was unemployed and reemployed. After some trouble, her body began to be marked as middle-aged, with white hair and wrinkles. Her parents are both old and plagued by illness. She is taking care of them and is exhausted both physically and mentally. Fortunately, the family is harmonious, the food and clothing are free, and the son and daughter are obedient and sensible, which makes people feel a little relieved. Some old friends, even if they haven’t been in touch for a long time, have a love that can immediately become cordial when they meet again.
Some people do not delete but do not contact again, and Some people cannot contact again although they have not deleted it. CCTV host Li Sisi said that for a while she was busy doing the show and was so busy that she found that the two WeChat voices sent to her by her grandmother did not reply. When she had time to reply, the grandmother who loved her the most left forever, which became an eternal regret and pain in her heart. She blamed herself over and over again, why she didn't reply at that time. Her contact with her grandmother was always stuck in the two unreply voice messages. Every time she saw the last two messages from her grandmother, her heart would hurt, her eyes were filled with tears, and her feelings were hard to suppress.
" Hello Life " Stills
There is a relative who is also lying quietly in my WeChat list for two years. I have never been willing to delete it, but I dare not click it. I didn't reply to the last blessing message he sent me. At that time, I thought the future was long and there would be a period of time. I didn't expect him to die. Every time I accidentally read it, I regret it and feel heartbroken. Haruki Murakami said: "The so-called life is a process of continuous loss. Very precious things will slide from your hands one after another, like a comb that has broken its teeth." The mountains and rivers are empty and the thoughts are far away, and the fallen flowers and wind and rain are even more heartbreaking in spring. It is better to pity the people in front of you.
Some people are reluctant to delete it because it is too interesting. Nowadays, out of various concerns, many people either disappear in their circle of friends, or set it to be visible for three days, or only show the bright and beautiful side that others want to see. Some people still persist in posting a few updates every day, using WeChat to record the steaming and messing around with themselves. A colleague who once worked with for a year often joked about playing violin like a fat son who was like a tug-of-warm man. He wanted to lose weight but couldn't control himself. He complained about the neighbor who was chopping dumpling stuffing in the middle of the night and disturbing the people. He frequently gave birth to an elder who was too worried about the second child, and his teammate who was unhappy in his mood and was so angry that his blood pressure soared. Every time he browsed her circle of friends, I was overjoyed and in a bright mood. Surrounded by the bombardment of micro-buyers and excessive beauty filters, it is really rare to pretend not to be fake. I like such sincere, frank, funny and humorous people.
"Love Myth " Stills
Some people don't contact you and disappear completely. You can't get any news about your recent situation from your circle of friends. For some people, WeChat is a work platform. The content of daily updates is all about work. They never send any messages about their personal activities. What's there to post? Everyone lives the same life, and their lives are not that good or bad. This is the norm in life. Besides, why do you need to show your private life to outsiders in detail? What's more, everyone is very busy in this era, and no one is interested in your life at all. You think that the sky and the earth are falling have no meaning to others. During the trough period of life, those changes in life and those emotions can only be digested silently by oneself, without any intention, powerlessness, helplessness, and slowly lost the desire and motivation to share with others.
The collapse of adults is not an exaggerated performance running wildly in the rain on the screen, nor is it a sudden burst of tears on the subway. It can only collapse silently and heal quietly. gritted his teeth and waited, cheering up and holding on, as if walking in a black and cold super long tunnel, patiently waiting for the light at the end to shine in. After a long time, I cleaned up the old rivers and mountains and then came to the surface without any movement.
" I'm pretty good in a foreign land " Stills
If you find that someone who has not contacted me for a long time and has not posted a scene picture that has been taken casually, he may have regained his desire for life. Silently, he likes it, which is tacit understanding and warmth.
Some people do not delete or contact each other. They do not forget, but put their TA in their memories. Life is like a sea of time, and if you are lucky enough to walk together, then you will be sincerely delivered. We had to separate, and I wish each other good luck. Are there anyone in your WeChat list who is reluctant to delete but no longer contact?
