Generally speaking, after a couple enters a middle-aged group, they will enter a state of sexually unconventional marriage due to emotional changes or physical functions.
For a marriage, having a proper couple's life is the key to maintaining harmony in life and can make the couple's relationship more intimate.
When people reach middle age, they may feel a little tired as time changes, so they will decrease.
So will this affect the marriage life? How do women feel in this kind of sexless marriage? Three women tell the truth.
In their opinion, this change makes them feel helpless and disappointed with their marriage and partners, but they have endured it for various realistic reasons and are very sad.
01.Ms. Lin
After getting married, our lives were very happy at the beginning, there was basically no noise between the two, and they would understand each other when doing things.
But after middle age, we always quarrel when we know each other's shortcomings. After quarreling when we were young, we could solve it through a certain life of couples. It feels that the care and warmth between couples are back.
However, the decrease in life in middle age has led to the fact that we can only enter the Cold War stage after a quarrel. After every quarrel, he shook his hands and went out, but I can't have a long time of quarrel because of this. I still have children to take care of, I need to make three meals a day for them, and I want to wash and clean them.
The husband was angry and could go out to drink with his friends and go to the bar, but I couldn't. I had no place to vent my feelings or complain. This kind of life made me very depressed.
I can't live by myself. My life is centered on children. My husband does not occupy a very important position in my life. I even feel that I have no position in this life. My life is all for others.
has no life of oneself, nor does one's own feelings. If he goes on a business trip or works overtime, we will have fewer quarrels in life. Otherwise, every time we quarrel, I feel that our marriage is trapped in endless entanglement and repeated torture.
02. Ms. Xu
I always thought that marriage is about helping each other, caring for each other, and loving each other, especially men should play the role of caring for women in marriage.
I think a woman needs her husband's love no matter how old she is, so that they will feel caring and caring. The life of a husband and wife is a very important means of conveying love.
But when we reach middle age, as the couple's life decreases, we can no longer feel each other's love, especially when we reach middle age, we are constantly friction.
After the quarrel, there is no appropriate solution. We can only deal with it in the cold war or continue to quarrel. The final result of our quarrel is to forgive each other for their children, rather than really feeling that they are not angry or that the other party is worthy of forgiveness. A marriage like
makes me feel very numb. Except for every time I see a little comfort, I spend the rest of my time in fatigue and torture.
No married life and no husband's care makes me feel completely disappointed with this marriage.
When I reach middle age, my appearance and figure have changed. I am not confident and I can’t feel the care for me from my husband. After every quarrel, I don’t understand the meaning of this marriage, but I can only continue to do it for the sake of my children and suffer this kind of torture.
03. Ms. Song
My husband and I have been married for 10 years. It seems that we are still in our prime. Both of us are just over 40 years old, but now we have begun to move towards a sexless marriage.
The main reason is that the husband is getting busier and busier and less interested in her wife.
Her inner uneasiness has been fermenting, and she always feels that if she continues to develop according to this trend, maybe one day either he will cheat or she will cheat.
Because reality is full of temptation. Not to mention that men have many social engagements outside and complex environments, they have great opportunities to do romantic affairs. Even middle-aged women like her can meet some men who like each other and can chat in their lives. If she can't get the tenderness and care that the other party should have given her in marriage, perhaps she is in a desire and will be shaken when she meets a man who is willing to provide these comforts, and it may not be necessary to be unable to control her feelings and behaviors.
Therefore, she is really in pain now, but she doesn't know how to deal with it and solve it.
file for divorce, and the other party has no substantial handle to hurt the marriage in her hands. Besides, there is no unsolvable contradiction or emotional crisis between the two parties;
If we continue to get along like this, the essence of a sexless marriage is like a cruel punishment and torture, constantly torture her body and mind. She doesn't understand why she is suffering such treatment, nor does she understand where she is wrong?
Emotional message:
In fact, in a marriage, women often give more to their family than men, so for women, they need more men's care and care.
may be a small matter, or an inconspicuous word, but it can make women feel caring. However, middle-aged sexless marriage will make women feel that there is less care that should be in the marriage, which is very terrible for women who are physically and mentally exhausted.
Middle-aged women will have some more or less changes in their bodies and minds. This change is very clear, allowing them to know that they are no longer young and have entered middle age, so they will become inferior. At this time, they need the care of their husbands to convey their love to them, and they are also cared for to maintain the confidence in this marriage.
If the husband cannot give his wife enough care at this time, but instead the two often quarrel, the wife will feel that the marriage makes them feel very tired and cannot continue.
Life is not just torture, not just torture. The life between couples should be to support each other and care for each other. No matter at any time, they can make each other feel their love and care.
