However, in the process of pursuing, he found that this girl is not only decisive in work, but also in life. He finally invited the girl out for dinner, but he didn't make a seat due to an accident. Then the girl criticized and educated him, turned around and went home, and said before leaving: "Dating a man like you with no plans is simply a waste of time. Come and find me when you think about your own problems."
He suddenly felt a basin of ice water pouring on his face, and all the enthusiasm disappeared in an instant. But he was unwilling to give up such an excellent woman. He spent a week adjusting his mindset and attacking the girl again.
This time he was fully prepared, thinking of any possible emergencies, and striving to do things perfectly. Then, the girl broke the appointment. The reason for breaking the appointment was: I made nails with my best friend, and I made temporary arrangements, so I couldn't refuse.
He thought of many endings, but he just didn't expect this ending. It was also at this moment that he finally understood that this girl was not something in the pool and could be handled by extraordinary people. Not long after, he found a girlfriend who was more suitable for him. He got married a year later and has a happy life.
He said that although his wife is not as good as the girl in the same unit she pursued before, she gets along with her wife and is comfortable all over. This is the love life he wants.
A strong woman who is decisive at work, has strict requirements on others, but she easily breaks her appointment. Many people have this serious problem.
I can do some things and I can make some mistakes because I have a reason and don’t have to bear any responsibility. But you cannot do such things, you cannot make such mistakes, any reason for you is invalid, and you cannot bear the consequences of things.
Reflect on your words and deeds, is there such a problem? If so, please correct it in time, otherwise it will be extremely annoying.
Maybe you think that older single women in high positions are not representative, and ordinary older single women are definitely not like this. If you think so, it's too naive.
I also have a friend who works in catering business. He earns one million yuan a year and is a talented person. Sometimes when you go to the store to work as a waiter, you will be asked by strange girls for WeChat. Because I have been busy with work and have no time to find a marriage partner, I asked me to help him find a suitable one.
His requirements for choosing a spouse are not high, the ordinary one, with a good personality, can manage the family, and be a good wife behind his back. Then he said that he would try to find older people, so that their minds would be more mature and easier to meet his requirements. Obviously, he did not have a deep understanding of the special group of older leftover women.
Under my arrangement, he started his first blind date. The girl is a thirty-year-old left-hand woman, an ordinary employee of public institution . In less than ten minutes, the blind date ended. He called me: "What is this girl here for? Before I could say a few words, she asked me if I should add her name on the property certificate, and if there is any share in the catering assets. She wants to open a convertible coupe. Can she buy one for her? Is this here for a blind date? It's obviously here to rob."
I said this is normal. Older leftover women generally have higher desire for material things than young girls who have just entered society, and they need to make careful choices. However, he did not give up and wanted to continue. However, in order to avoid the tragedy repeating, he would hide his true identity this time.
The second blind date lasted about twenty minutes. I thought it might have been done, but he sent me a bunch of exclamation marks .
He met a girl full of resentment, and her tone of speech was mixed with resentment, as if she was the most miserable person in the world, and everyone else was living better than her. These twenty minutes were the longest and most painful twenty minutes he had ever experienced, and he didn't say much throughout the whole process. He didn't understand that everyone would have more or less the same experience, so why could she have accumulated such a strong sense of hostility?
Later, he met more than ten leftover women one after another. He finally gave up his heart and said that he wanted to live two more years and no longer look for older leftover women.
Every time I see these older leftover women writing in the column of the mate selection criteria for writing that the previous month’s income cannot be lower than a certain amount, I will always kindly remind them that this behavior will directly filter out many men suitable for marriage. They said disdainfully: "How can you live a good life with a low income?"
In fact, if two people are not lazy and have a common goal, and walk hand in hand, they can get a happy life at will. How much money you make does not directly determine the happiness index of life. In short, money does not mean happiness.
It is obvious that not many people agree with this principle among the older leftover women. They always say this: "Find a rich man, even if he has no love, he still has money. If he finds a rich man, once he has no love, he will have nothing."
When they think so, love has long been out of reach for them.
Why don’t the tall, rich and handsome men pursue older single women? The answer is simple, no one is willing to suffer.
Let’s not talk about older single women who have lost their age advantage and have no capital to compete for tall, rich and handsome people. The various problems that exist in oneself are enough to discourage the rich and handsome man.
Maybe you will say, "Does older single women have problems?" My answer is, "Except for a very small number of special cases, if there were no big problems, ordinary normal people would have been single long ago."
The big problems among them include personality issues, ideological issues, daily habit issues, etc. These will directly affect the daily feeling of getting along. Daily habit issues can still be changed, but personality and ideas are things that many people will find difficult to change in their entire lives, and the difficulty of changing is comparable to a complete transformation.
Many people think that tall, rich and handsome are only looking at their faces. This is a serious prejudice. Only the stupid son of the landlord family is like this. What is prominent in the high, rich and handsome is the external conditions, which can use this to have more resources from the opposite sex and have more choices. The same kind of tall, rich and handsome people are human emotions, and they also pay attention to the feeling of getting along. When you feel a little bit stable with each other, your appearance becomes insignificant. This is a normal person, a person with flesh and blood.
people, not just the eye. People do not have the only emotion of material desire.
I am the nemesis of Poison Chicken Soup. I spread the correct concept of marriage and love, and everyone needs to like and pay attention.
