The ancients said: "No one is good for a thousand days, and no flowers are red for a hundred days."
Once the relationship between people is too close, various conflicts are easily arisen, which ultimately leads to the breakdown of the relationship.
A truly long-term and comfortable relationship requires both parties to have "social awareness", do what they do, and don't do what they don't.
People who have "social consciousness" often have the following three characteristics.
does not over-request for
Someone said, "The greatest evil of human nature is not knowing gratitude."
deeply agrees.
In life, some people keep asking for it because they have a good relationship with each other. However, when the other party needs their help, they will find various excuses to refuse.
This way, no matter how close the relationship is, it will gradually become distant.
Between people, a "recitation" is emphasized.
Only by knowing how to repay the other party’s kindness can the relationship be harmonious and harmonious.
No matter how close people are, they cannot distinguish between you and me.
Some people always ask the other party too much and should do it to help themselves, but never consider the other party's difficulties.
Once rejected by the other party, they complain that the other party is "indifferent and unkind".
In fact, this practice of only considering one's own difficulties but not the other party's difficulties is an extremely selfish behavior.
A relationship requires both parties to maintain and also requires equality.
Only by knowing how to be grateful, repay your kindness, and knowing how to put yourself in the shoes of the other person, can we never get tired of getting along with each other for a long time and not get tired of getting along with each other.
No mouth and no obstruction
We often say: "The mouth of the knife is a tofu heart."
However, in fact, most people with a mouth of the knife are also "the heart of the knife is a "heart of the knife".
Since a person has a "tofu heart", why does he still have a "knife mouth"?
The reason why some people are "very straightforward" is not because they are "straight-hearted", but because they rely on their close relationship, they are too lazy to "consider" the other person's feelings, and only seek to "talk quickly".
If the other party is hurt by them, it is often difficult to "occur".
Because once it occurs, they will be criticized as "little petty".
Everyone has their own shortcomings and is unwilling to be mentioned by others.
Some people rely on their good relationship with each other and wantonly joke about the other party's "shorts".
If the other party is unhappy, they will complain that the other party is "can't make a joke".
I have heard this sentence: "The most comfortable relationship between people is that they are familiar with each other."
A relationship, no matter how close it is, you must be restrained and know what words can be said and what words cannot be said.
Many relationships often lose the "respect" they should have because of "the closest thing is not inferior".
Life is moderate and life is a disaster.
People get along with each other. Only by maintaining an appropriate distance and retaining the "respect" they should have can many contradictions be avoided.
Don’t interfere in private affairs
In life, some people are always too "keen" about other people’s private affairs.
They keep digging into the bottom line, which often puts the other party in an embarrassing situation.
People need a "sense of boundaries" when getting along with people.
Excessively "care" to other people's private affairs will not only cause trouble to others, but also expose the shortcomings of one's own cultivation.
Better "indifferent" to other people's private affairs is a kind of understanding and self-consciousness.
There are only three things in this world: your own affairs, others' affairs, and God's affairs.
Some people still have a mess of their own affairs, but they always like to care about other people's affairs.
They point fingers at other people's choices, and even force others to do what they think.
Everyone has their own freedom to do things.
wantonly interferes with other people's choices, which will only make the other party feel resentful.
Return other people's affairs to others and let go of their "control desire", which can not only reduce the unnecessary "burden" but also avoid "thankful". Why not do it?
Conclusion:
The relationship between adults is only filtered and not changed.
There are many relationships, and there is no quarrel, but it is getting farther and farther away.
is a big part of the reason for this reason because one party does not have enough "social awareness".
People with "social awareness" are introverted and can understand others in details, so others are more willing to have a deep friendship with them.
May you and me have "social consciousness".
and I will share with you.
