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I have seen more than once the topic on the Internet about "older leftover men dislike older single women being older". From the beginning, I thought this matter was extremely strange, because no matter what aspect it is, it is extremely unreasonable.
From ancient times to the present, 95% of couples are partners of similar age, so there is a saying that they grow old together. As peers, how can they dislike each other's age?
What's more, from a social perspective, Liu Yifei , Gulinaza , Dilraba are all the age of older single women, but which man will dislike them?
Not to mention being in their 30s, even when they reach 40, they can still marry well.
It can be seen from this that age is not the real reason why women are disliked. There must be other reasons for older leftover men to dislike older leftover women.
At a friend's party, several older unmarried male friends relieved my doubts. They answered this way:
"We have never despised the age of women of the same age, otherwise we wouldn't have gone on blind dates. What we really despised is some of them who are not self-aware. Their monthly income is 3,000 and men who earn 5,000 and are incompetent. Then we can only despised them for being older and let them taste the taste of being double-standard."
has high requirements: they are ordinary, and they also despised others for ordinary
It is undeniable that there are indeed some elite ladies in society, with high education, high income, and even superior family background and good looks. It is reasonable for women like
to have many requirements for their partner, but the problem is that such women have always been rare.
In life, most of the older leftover women are ordinary people. They do not have the best education and jobs. They earn several thousand yuan a month and live in a simple rental house, but they are eager to find a man who is several times better than their own conditions.
The old man said it well: "The wooden door is opposite to the wooden door, and the wooden door is opposite to the wooden door."
Men and women need to be matched with a good match. You will match the people at the same level.
Although ordinary people pay attention to marrying their daughters and marrying their daughters-in-law, they cannot cross the levels.
Usually, it is reasonable for women with a monthly income of 3,000 to marry men with a monthly income of 5,000. However, in real life, many older leftover women look down on men with a monthly income of 3,000, and they are even more in love with men with a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan.
In addition, houses, cars, etc. are still standard.
Although they have nothing themselves, they absolutely cannot tolerate their partner having nothing.
This is what the legend says: "You are poor and you still dislike others who are poor."
High posture: the identity of a civilian, the posture of a princess
There is a saying on the Internet: "The so-called blind date is to let a group of men who can't handle women, and to make a group of women who are difficult to deal with."
I found it incredible at first, but when I think about it carefully, I found that it makes sense.
The most fundamental reason why many older single women are difficult to deal with is not because they are excellent, but because they are too arrogant.
. High posture during blind dates
As we all know, blind dates are the introductions in the middle to match each other, giving both men and women a chance to get out of singleness.
According to the truth, older men and women should cherish this opportunity, but in real life, leftover men and women have completely different attitudes towards blind dates.
Older left-handed men believe that blind dates can get married as fast as possible, while older single women believe that blind dates are giving men a chance to pursue themselves.
Two people have different ideas, and the results are naturally very different.
What men want to understand each other and get married, while women want to put the other person in the position of the suitor.
In this way, the contact between the two will naturally not be too pleasant.
. High posture in marriage and love
Many older leftover women like to pose high posture in marriage and love. Whether they are in love or in the stage of mutual understanding, they always have an inexplicable sense of superiority, and this sense of superiority mostly comes from gender dividends.
In this era when there are more men and fewer women, many women think they are nobler than men, so they take it for granted during marriage and love.
They set up many levels and test each other with a lofty attitude, which happens to be the part that men dislike the most.
If each other is young, there is still time to consume it, but men in their 30s have long since lost the patience to play this kind of game with them.
What men really dislike is not age, but "attitude"
As my friend said, men have never disliked the age of the same age and the opposite sex. They are self-aware and will not do such sensational things. After all, everyone is ordinary people.
The reason they say this is just to fight back against the double-standard behavior of some older leftover women.
Men do not dislike older leftover women. What they really dislike is the attitude of some people.
. The inexplicable sense of superiority is offensive to
Many women say that Chinese bachelors are tens of millions, and women can get married as long as they want to marry, but they never thought that although men have tens of millions more than women, the extra part is usually men who are not enough to meet the marriage requirements.
They have no house, no car, no deposit, and their monthly income can only barely support themselves. They cannot bear the responsibility of supporting their families at all. Such a man will not be willing to marry.
But if they are excluded, the ratio of men and women in the marriage market is reasonable.
In other words, women do not have the so-called gender advantage, and the so-called sense of superiority is just a dream.
Regarding marriage and love, this is a two-way multiple-choice question. Both men and women are in an equal position, and no one has a sense of superiority.
If there is, it will definitely be offensive.
2. Can't recognize yourself and it's hard to get along with
The most terrible thing for men is not to pursue women, but to pursue a woman who cannot recognize herself completely.
The conditions are ordinary and the posture is high. No one can stand the various "work" during the process of getting along.
People like to mess around when they are young, but once they live 30 years old, they yearn for a peaceful life.
A middle-aged man does not have so much time and energy to deal with women's small emotions and various tests.
Marriage is equal, and blind dates give each other a chance. If older single women want to get out of singleness, they must first put themselves in the right position.
can be upward compatible, but don’t think about climbing up; you can act spoiled, but don’t “do”; you can examine, but test them everywhere.
Only by grasping the right measure can you find the right person.
I am Ying'er, an original creator who focuses on the field of emotions.
