Stay with someone for the rest of your life. This is a beautiful wish and an adventure journey that only those with courage can do.
"My wife cheated on her. I can't figure out. She doesn't need her to eat or drink. Why did she find someone worse than me? What did she think?"
This is a consultation from a stranger. He didn't understand that he was trying to change the living conditions of his family. His wife just took care of her children at home. Why did she cheat on her back and had an extramarital affair.
used to think that most of the cheating people were men, and the chances of women cheating were very small. According to some media survey data, the cheating rate of women in China reached 40%. This is an online questionnaire survey conducted by nearly 70,000 people in 2016.
Married women are the age group between 35 and 45 years old. Married women generally have these ideas when having extramarital affairs:
1. Looking for the feeling of being loved, the feeling of being cared for
. I lost my husband's care in marriage, and my husband no longer cared about himself as much as before. The love was so vigorously that he loved him, and how lost he was after marriage.
In fact, in love, a woman’s emotions are like a wavy line, changing with her feelings. Women who enter marriage will find that love and marriage are not the same:
In love, men protect themselves almost 24 hours a day, women are emotional, and men will spend their time and energy to make women happy.
In marriage, men are busy with work, playing games, ignoring the feelings of caring for women, and even giving family trivial matters to women, allowing women to bear it alone.
The woman who was neglected felt extremely aggrieved. If a meticulous care suddenly appeared, it would make them feel that they had found the feeling of being loved and cared for before, and could not resist the sweet words of the opposite sex, and fell into an "extramarital affair".
2. Pursuing love and romance in marriage
Marriage has a "seven years itch" and "ten years of pain". In the ultimate happiness of marriage, there will be various obstacles. There will be many conflicts between the two people during the running-in period. The romantic love between them has long been consumed by trivial matters in real life.
Those who can keep the dullness in marriage are brave people, and those who cannot keep it have already been looking for the next happiness of their own.
However, in the running-in of these days, the emotional woman pursues a romantic sense of ritual and romance, hoping that her husband can surprise herself every day.
often fails to get satisfaction when the surprise is too dull. It is like rose that has been collected for decades. It is not as good as the small wild flowers picked by her own hands, which makes her eyes shine.
When the opposite sex held a bouquet made by her, she was moved. The dullness and depression of life make them tired, and the sudden help and attention make them ignite their pursuit of love, which is wrong for love.
3, revenge psychology
"Woman's heart under the sea" You never know what she wants to toss? Even she herself doesn't understand. If you have an extramarital affair after marriage, you just want to take revenge on your husband and take revenge on your men's disregard for you and don't care.
If the husband has an extramarital affair outside, out of revenge, she will also imitate her husband's appearance and let herself have a controllable love.
However, once women fall in love with it, it is difficult to get out of it. They will fall into the fantasy weaving for themselves, and they will suffer from painful entanglement, and there will be a lot of emotions and vague feelings that are difficult to explain.
Finally, the marriage broke down.
4, make up for regrets
Some people enter a marriage not because of love, but because of gamble.
A stranger sent a message to consult, "I met my first love, and I had no choice but to break up at that time. Later, we told everything, I misunderstood him. Now we have families, what should we do if we are together again?"
She just wanted to make up for the regrets in her heart and didn't want to live a painful life in the future. She never expected that she still did not control her emotions and fell into a "love network".
Faced with her husband's concern, she could no longer bear it. She wanted to break it, but she couldn't let it go, and she didn't want her first love to forget herself.
is like this, she fell into trouble, and lived a life with great suffering every day.
In fact, if some feelings are gone, there is no need to regain them. They each have their own families. It is best not to recall the past together. If they are in love, they feel full of guilt.
No matter who abandons it, he is full of torture. Why bother making things difficult for yourself like this?
Conclusion:
There is no eternal thing in the world, and the same is true for the relationship between men and women. If you want to maintain the long-term marriage, you need to work harder between each other. One person cannot support a family.
The relationship outside of marriage is not as good as you imagined. There is a quagmire everywhere. If you are not careful, you will wrap your feet and you will be unable to continue walking.
