Regarding marriage, female writer Jane Austen once said this:
It is stupid to not consider material marriage, but it is absurd to only consider material marriage.
This sentence tells us that in a happy marriage, couples need to have a deep emotional foundation and abundant material conditions.
Many girls have their own beautiful imaginations about their marriage life. They long to marry a handsome and wealthy prince charming like Cinderella in fairy tales, so as to have their own perfect marriage life.
But in real life, not everyone is lucky enough to find a love partner who can make them like and have abundant material conditions. These two conditions are like fish and bear's paws, and it is difficult to get both.
This makes some people confused in love relationships. They don’t understand whether is the foundation of love or economic conditions when choosing a marriage partner?
Faced with this problem, writer Ou Henry in the novel "The Gift of Maggie", tells us the answer through the love story of a poor couple. Even if the couple has no money, as long as they love each other, they can still manage their marriage life happily.
Good marriage and love have nothing to do with material conditions. Just as in a movie, the heroine has a classic line saying: The person I love doesn't have to be very rich, but if he can earn 20 yuan a day and is willing to spend all the 20 yuan on me, I think he is really worth entrusting.
Love is an emotion that makes people feel happy without money.
1, the material foundation of prosperity is not a necessary condition for happiness in marriage.
The essence of a married life is dullness. In a married life, it is very important to have a rich material foundation. It can make the couple have no worries about food and clothing and feel a sense of security in their daily lives.
The material basis for being rich is not a necessary condition for marriage happiness. Many couples who are not rich in life can still live happily in their ordinary marriage life as long as they love each other.
In the novel "Maggie's Gift", Jim and Della are a couple in distress, but because they love each other very much, their marriage life is also very happy.
Jim is an ordinary company employee. He works hard just to improve his living environment with his wife. Although Della is a housewife, she is also doing her best to deal with the things in the back of the family to reduce Jim's burden and give Jim a warm family.
In Jim and Dera's view, poor life is not an obstacle to their marriage happiness, because they love each other, so their marriage life is very happy.
2. The gifts given to your lover do not care about the price, but whether they are attentive.
When a festival with special significance is approaching, Jim and Dera both want to give each other a gift to express their love for each other.
But neither Jim nor Dera had any spare money, so they wanted to sell their most precious things in exchange for the gifts they said they loved.
Jim has a low income, but he has a watch passed down from ancestors. Although this watch does not have a beautiful strap, it is also quite valuable; and Dela is a housewife, and she has no income to give her husband a precious gift, but Dela has long hair with beautiful scenery.
Jim wanted to give Dela a beautiful hairpin, and for this he sold his watch, while Dela thought to give Jim a delicate watch strap, and for this she sold her long hair.
When Jim and Dera gave each other gifts respectively, they accidentally discovered that the gifts they gave to each other had turned into waste, but they still felt happiness from each other's gifts because they saw their importance in each other's heart.
The gifts given to each other by couples are not about their wealth, but whether the gift reflects their sincerity.
3, love is an emotion that can make people feel happy even if they have no money.
In real life, we often see a situation where some couples have rich living conditions, but their lives are not happy, while some couples live in poverty, but they are full of hope for life just because they love each other.
This phenomenon shows a truth: love is a special emotion. Even if it sometimes lacks the support of material conditions, if the couple has love as the foundation, they can still feel happiness in life.
Compared with material conditions, the love foundation of couples is more important. Love is a special emotion that makes people feel happy without money.
Because of this, Jim and Dera can write a happy love that belongs to each other in their poor life.
The novel "Maggie's Gift" brings us the inspiration: in a good marriage relationship, the basis of love between husband and wife is more important than the material conditions they can have.
Although Jim and Dera's lives are not rich, they love each other and they are willing to give everything they have for each other. It is this deep love that makes both of them feel happy in their poor married life.
In marriage life, the love foundation between husband and wife is more important than whether they have rich material conditions.
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