people seem to be constantly comparing their lives. They compare grades when they were young, compare work when they grew up, compare family after they got married, and start to compare children after they had children...
Although some people say that only by comparing with others can they motivate themselves to make progress, comparison should also be divided into positive and negative. You can absorb the good aspects of others, but don’t be jealous.
In fact, you will find that many people’s comparison is to show off on another level. They want to show that they are doing well through comparison. If they hear others’ praise, they will be satisfied.
The Internet is developing rapidly today. Many people show their lives to others through their circle of friends. Many of them post copywriting that can be thought for a long time and pictures that can be edited for a long time.
The purpose is to make your life look very refined. If you want to see the comments below are full of praise. Such people will actually live a very tiring life.
Because the circle of friends is for your friends and relatives to see, it is to record every detail of your life, so don’t show it through the circle of friends.
Especially when people reach middle age, if they often post to show off on Moments, it is actually very cheap.
Although the circle of friends can share your joys, anger, sorrows, but imagine that if your circle of friends is filled with poisonous chicken soup or frustrating text all day long, it gives people the feeling that you are very decadent, and they may choose not to look at your circle of friends, because reading it will make them feel depressed.
From this we can also see that the impact of the circle of friends is still very big and don’t post everything big and small in it.
I once heard several middle-aged people discussing their class reunion together. They said that they organized a class reunion a few days ago, and then said that the class reunion was meaningless, and some of the students who were not doing well did not come directly.
The classmates were just showing off their own style. At their age, they already had families and careers, and the topics have been around these.
did not feel the enthusiasm of classmates, but felt that they were comparing. Some families and careers were successful, and they were showing off themselves.
In fact, everyone can hear the intention of showing off. A group of people kept echoing, but their hearts were like mirrors.
They said that it is better to have a party with a few people who have had a good time, and they don’t have to listen to each other and show off.
people are middle-aged and have seen many scenery and have walked a long way. They are qualified to show off, but doing so will be a waste of money.
I heard a friend say she was very distressed, and she was still very young. She asked her what the trouble came from, and she said it came from her neighbor aunt.
She talked about her neighbor's aunt, who is a person who loves to show off. The children at home have good academic performance, so they will discuss their children's grades with others wherever they go, and no matter what topics they talk to her, she will turn to their children's grades.
Friends said that their grades were not very good, but their parents did not force themselves to study, but since the neighbor's aunt kept showing off, their parents would occasionally say to themselves, "Look at other people's children."
Neighbor's aunt not only shows off in life, but also in the circle of friends. When her daughter was admitted to a prestigious university, the aunt posted a circle of friends. When the notice came, the aunt took a photo and posted it on WeChat Moments. She sent her daughter to school and sent her to school. Her daughter sent her again in military training. She never stopped that summer vacation. I feel like I hope everyone in the world knows that her daughter has been admitted to university.
Maybe the neighbor aunt enjoys this feeling very much, hoping to hear others say that your daughter is really amazing.
But she posted so many times. At the beginning, others might have congratulated each other, but later they might not even bother to like.Such behavior is also very cheap, and the same thing has been shown so many times.
I personally don’t like to show off because I think those who are truly happy for you will know if you don’t say it, while those who don’t want to see you live better than her will only be sarcastic when they see it.
And if a person shows off in front of me every day, I think I will feel disgusted with this person. We can find that in fact, those who are truly temperamental and have connotation will never show off, but as long as they stand there, we can naturally feel their aura.
For example, for those who learn dance, people who have learned dance are generally those who have learned dance. Her whole body is very good, and we can easily find that this person has a dance foundation.
And those who sign up for dance classes and send check-in in their circle of friends every day may just be to check in and make their lives look colorful.
Although we should not use malicious speculation to others, excessive display is a very depreciation, especially middle-aged people who show off their prices. Because people in this period have experienced many things, you can discover your intentions at a glance.
And in youth, it can be said that it is not fully mature yet, and it is understandable in old age, because as the saying goes, the older people are, the younger they are.
Therefore, middle-aged people should stop showing off themselves and manage their lives with their hearts, rather than managing their circle of friends with their hearts.
