As the saying goes, "If you don't do four things, the four generations will be prosperous. " means that as a human being, we should have the ability to distinguish right from wrong, know what to do and what not to do, and sometimes refusing to do something will make us more lucky and avoid causing trouble.
Indeed, wise people often say that life follows certain laws of cause and effect. Many times, what kind of "cause" we plant, we will gain what kind of "fruits". As the saying goes, "The wise are afraid of the cause, and the benevolent are afraid of the result." Smart people never do four things because they are afraid of causing trouble.
So, in the saying " does not do four things, four generations have nothing to do, what are the four things that cannot be done in the four things? What impact will do if these things have on us?
The first thing: don’t be an intermediary
The so-called intermediary is the third person between two people, acting as the person who introduces, mediates or testifies between them. Why don’t you be an intermediary? There are two reasons for this:
One of them is that if you can’t be a good middleman, you will offend people from both ends. For the middleman, the most direct function is to help both parties convey the message. The middleman upholds justice and kindness to help others. But I don’t know that people’s hearts are unpredictable. If both sides point the finger at the problem of the middleman’s message, the middleman may offend the people on both sides and be angry, leaving themselves with a difficult end, and are not human inside and outside.
Second, being an intermediary requires taking risks, and if it is not done well, it will harm others and be unfavorable to oneself. We know that no matter what we do, there are risks, so it is the same as being an intermediary. If you are not a good middleman, it will not only discredit yourself and lose friends, but also be more likely to take the common risks of both parties and bring unreasonable troubles and troubles to yourself and your family.
So the old saying reminds us that it is better not to be an intermediary and four generations. Even if you have to do it, you must think twice before you act.
The second thing: Don’t guarantee others
Yuan Dynasty literati once wrote in the fourth compromise of "Xiao Yuchi": "I want to Jingde The old general is loyal, how can I rebel? I have to ask for a guarantee with him." It can be seen that the intention of having a guarantee and not being a guarantee means not being a guarantor. After all, the risk of the guarantor is very high, and it is even possible to become the final repayer of the lender.
There will inevitably be times when there are high horses and stirrups in life, so you need to borrow money from others to overcome the difficulties. But since you want to borrow money, you must have a guarantor, and if the guarantor agrees to this matter, he will be responsible to the end.
If the guarantor knows the lender in particular, such as his own relatives, friends, etc., you can also consider it if you know that this person is particularly trustworthy.
Otherwise, if you are not sure, don’t guarantee others casually, because there are many people who don’t pay back the debt. Once the borrower owes money and does not pay it back, the guarantor will have to bear the responsibility, and the most important thing is to help him pay off the money.
You can imagine that you originally wanted to help others out of enthusiasm, but in the end you made yourself anxious. Such things must not be done.
The third thing is not to lend money to others
"Buddhist" Cao Dewang once said that lending money to others is to seek trouble for one's own troubles. Not only may you lose money, but you may also lose your life. This is a matter that is not worth the gain.
Indeed, trust between people often cannot withstand the test of interests. If you lend money to a friend because you trust a friend, and once he chooses to cheat and fails to return the money to you on time, then you will not only lose money, but also lose friends.
Once saw a story where a woman lent all her savings to a friend she thought she was best. As a result, her friend chose to disappear after getting her money. The woman worked hard to find a friend for more than ten years, but she still gained nothing. Her life has since fallen into trouble, which is really a sigh of relief.
Yes, when it comes to borrowing money, if you refuse to lend money to others at the beginning, then others will at most think that you are stingy and stingy, but will not cause substantial harm to you. However, once you lend money to others, you will fall into anxiety that others may not repay the money, and may even cause the embarrassing situation of losing both money and friends.
So, "If you don't do four things, you will have nothing to do in four generations." Smart people will not lend money to others to avoid causing trouble for themselves.
The fourth thing: Don’t be a matchmaker
The ancients’ marriages particularly focused on “parents’ orders and matchmakers’ words”, which means that at the age of marriage, if there is no matchmaker, you cannot get married, because free love is not allowed at that time. The people who give people the protection of media are matchmakers. Their main job is to protect media for others and earn some benefits from it.
In fact, media people are everywhere in modern society, especially in rural areas, it is common to replace media in PICC, but matchmakers are not that easy to do.
Although the ancients said, "It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage", it can be seen that what the matchmaker does is of great merit, but the matchmaker will also cause trouble because of this.
In short, when the matchmaker protects the media for the married men and women, everything went very smoothly. The couple was also very loving after getting married, so they would especially thank the people who protected the media for themselves. Even during festivals, I would visit matchmakers. In short, I would like to thank the matchmakers for helping them create a wonderful marriage.
But everything has the opposite side. If the matchmaker protects the couple's media and gets married, the couple's life is not going well, and they always make noises about small things after marriage, then they will think that the matchmaker has harmed them. They even wait for an opportunity to retaliate against the matchmaker, so that the matchmaker will not have a good life.
conclusion.
Yes, as a human being, we should all understand the law of "cause and effect". We should know that sometimes, if we do something, we may not necessarily get blessings, but if we do nothing, we can avoid causing disasters and troubles.
As the saying goes, "If we don't do four things, there will be nothing for four generations" makes sense: if we don't be intermediaries, we won't offend people on both sides, if we don't lend money to others, we won't make grudges with others, if we don't guarantee others, we can avoid disasters, if we don't match people, we can avoid being resentful.
Indeed, in many cases, we do not do anything, which is more important than what we do. Therefore, smart people know how to be cautious.
