Qian Zhongshu once wrote this sentence in " Besieged City ": "Marriage is a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out."
But it is not difficult for us to find that in the past few years, many people outside the city seem to be increasingly reluctant to step into this besieged city.
Every Chinese New Year and the holidays, young people begin to fear the urging of their parents and relatives, and they are unwilling to try it on their own. Even if they have a partner, they are more cautious when facing marriage. So what is the cause of this phenomenon?
Whether men or women, they all have certain concerns when facing marriage. They are timid about the unknown of marriage and dare not take this step easily.
So we find that more and more young people are beginning to be reluctant to get married in this era, and the reasons for this phenomenon are as follows.
The economic pressure for young people is high
For most men, the economy must be the prerequisite for young people to enter a marriage and the basis for building a new family.
So they hope to work hard at first when they are young, and only after they have a certain financial foundation can they dare to propose to their beloved woman.
Of course, in addition to this reason, many men need to have their own house and a car. Without these material conditions, they do not have enough confidence to propose to their beloved women, so it is very economic pressure for young men.
Especially in some places where dowry gifts are more important, many men often worry about the money for the bride price, and even after getting married, they will continue to worry about the livelihood of their families.
The cost of weddings will not be discussed yet. After marriage, not only will I worry about the complicated trivialities of food, such as food, such as food, such as food, but also after they have children, milk powder and various expenses of early education classes will follow.
If you cannot prepare for all the unknowns in the future before marriage, you will feel a headache for the word "money" after marriage. Therefore, this pressure will make men keep retreating, not dare to talk about "love" easily, and not dare to enter the marriage easily.
Modern women's thoughts are very independent
Today's women's thoughts are becoming more and more independent, completely different from young girls in the last era. Women in that era hope to change their lives by marrying a good man and starting a good marriage.
Nowadays women choose to be the person they want to be in this era, and they begin to work hard for their careers and their dreams. They no longer " Love Brain " and no longer live their lives by marriage.
In other words, women today are very "Buddhist". Even in the face of constant urging them to get married by their parents and relatives, they still maintain their persistence.
If you can't meet someone who loves and is suitable for each other, you would rather choose to be single than choose to spend the rest of your life with someone you don't love or is inappropriate.
And they have enough ability to support themselves and give themselves everything good. Even one person will be particularly happy, so more and more young women are beginning to reject marriage.
Didn’t meet the right good man
Marriage is a big event in life. Only by finding the person who is truly suitable for you can you feel the taste of happiness on the next journey.
So the reason why many young people have never gotten married is that they have not met a good person yet, but when they meet the person they really like and are suitable, they naturally hope to enter the palace of marriage with each other.
If you get married just for the sake of getting married, then you will never feel lucky in your life when you meet someone you don’t like.
So even if you spend more time, you should carefully find someone you really like to spend the rest of your life together.
This is also what many young people in contemporary times think, so they do not want to get married, nor do they want to meet the blind date introduced by their parents and relatives, because they only want to marry someone they really like in their limited lives.
