My mother's old colleague is about to be 70 years old. She should have enjoyed her old age, but her life is in dire straits. Because her youngest son is already 35 years old and has not yet started a family, but he lives a life of lying down. Every day, except for eating and goin

My mother's old colleague is about to be 70 years old. She should have enjoyed her old age, but her life is in dire straits.

Because her youngest son is already 35 years old and has not yet started a family, but he lives a life of lying flat.

Except for eating and going to the bathroom, the rest of the time is lying in bed to browse your phone. He neither works nor interacts with anyone. The most he talks is that he dislikes his mother's food that is not to his taste.

The old couple was so worried about this son, but the person involved looked indifferent and stayed at home with peace of mind, as if their parents should support him.

The old couple often said worriedly, what if they leave one day and their son can't support themselves without getting married?

Children have developed this way. The elderly do not worry about their old age and are still considering their son's future. They have pitiful parents in the world. At this point, parents are actually not without responsibility.

Often, some elderly people realize that their children do not know how to return to feeding and find it difficult to fulfill their filial piety in front of the bed.

They have not reflected on their own educational methods, spoiled their children too much, and took care of everything about them, which ultimately leads to the children not being able to shoulder the responsibilities and obligations of the family, nor being able to truly mature.

is like the old colleague of my mother. When she was young, she favored boys over girls. After giving birth to a daughter, she tried every means to escape the policy and secretly gave birth to a son in her thirties. She was afraid of melting when she held it in her mouth, and she was afraid of flying when she held it in her hands.

After my son went to high school, the couple was still picking up and dropping off at around 5 a.m. every day, for fear of being hit by the wind and rain. In fact, the family is only two stops away from the school.

My son's clothes are all famous brands, and the old couple's all hopes are placed on him. In the end, they just went to an ordinary college. After graduation, I worked for three days and fished for two days, but after being fired by my unit, I simply stopped looking for it again.

Unfortunately, the old man didn't realize the seriousness of the matter at the beginning and felt that his son would get better after he got married.

But who would marry his daughter to such a man? He has no sense of responsibility and does not work, and only knows how to rely on his parents. Marrying him is undoubtedly a jump into the fire pit.

The old man's health has been getting worse over the years. He has obviously had a headache and a fever, but he has to force himself to cook for his son. He doesn't dare to say anything harshly, for fear that his son will be anxious with them. Almost 10 years have passed like this.

There is a line in the movie "The Godfather": "A soft-hearted heart without boundaries will only make the other party gain more and more; a kindness without principles will only make the other party do whatever he wants."

Parents believe that if they put all their love on their children, they will know how to be grateful and will grow up smoothly. But they forgot that excessive preference will only make the child a waste.

A useless person who only knows how to ask for but does not know how to give, and once his parents cannot satisfy him, it may cause more intense conflicts.

" Touching the Dragon Sayings about Empress Dowager Zhao " says that parents love their sons, and they have far-reaching plans for them.

As parents, they should consider their children's long-term life, and should not be limited to simple love.

How to cultivate children with positive values ​​when they grow up, it will be difficult to make a prosperous life in their family and career when they grow up.

In the end, the child will not succeed in his career and will not succeed in his career. He will in turn resent his parents and push the responsibility on his parents.

Therefore, instead of waiting until you are old and need care for your children before worrying, it is better to be ruthless earlier and demand stricter on your children, so that they can taste the sufferings and difficulties of life earlier.

Only in this way can he understand the hardships of his parents, know how to cherish the happiness in his hands, and become a responsible person.

Wait until one day your parents are old, and they will have the courage to assume their own responsibilities and obligations.

When people get old, they should become crueler, which will only benefit their children.

Because I am too soft-hearted, I will take all the problems on myself, but as a result, I feel wronged and tired, but my children have no feelings.

Please give money and things. They get it too easy, so how can they cherish it easily?

There are often some elderly people who see their children’s difficulties in life and take out their pension money to subsidize them regardless of the situation. As a result, the children spent their money, but they had no money to treat the elderly when they were sick.

What should the elderly do then? It’s too late to blame, and maybe you will offend your children and have nowhere to rely on in your old age.

There are also some elderly people who help their children take care of their children, and they contribute money and efforts, so that their children can enjoy the benefits.

Although it is not easy for young people today, they are under great pressure and it is impossible for the elderly to stand idly by, but it is the responsibility of their children, and the elderly should take as little as possible.

For example, educating children is originally the responsibility of parents. As grandparents (foreign) you know not to be offside.

Don’t end up doing your best because of your temporary soft-heartedness.

instead became more cruel and forced them to be independent and establish a sense of responsibility for life. This is the best way to do it.

People are old and have to be more ruthless. They should collect what they should be, and don’t take everything on themselves.

Don’t take out the money you should keep easily. Don’t reveal the secrets you should keep from your children.

Adhere to your own principles and live your own life well. This is the real consideration for children.

Children have their own blessings. Raising them to adulthood has fulfilled their obligations. The rest is just helping with the ability, but they mainly rely on their own management of their lives.

Sometimes, if you can't learn to refuse cruelly, you will live exhausted.

How can you enjoy happiness in your old age?

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