I have never read thousands of books. The truth I understand is full of tears, and every penny I earn is full of pain. I understand the difficulty of life, so I especially cherish the happiness I have!
I have suffered a lot of hardships and have gone through many detours. I don’t want my children to walk the path I have walked, and try to carry the burden on their children. I can just eat the hardships of life. I hope my children will read thousands of books, travel thousands of miles, and be a good man who is wise and reasonable!
At the end of August, the school season started, Cheng Yifan hurriedly called me and asked me to ask his brother for money.
"Sister-in-law, my mother regrets it. I regret not being kind to you at the beginning. My brother is a son-in-law for someone. You should ask him for support. Zixian is also his son, why should you raise it alone?"
He suspected that his brother's girlfriend was a professional marriage fraud. Not long after they met, the woman took away his brother's salary card. The aunt who loved their brother the most got cancer. They all expressed their feelings, but his brother was not bad...
Cheng Yifan is Cheng Junyang's younger brother, Cheng Junyang is my ex-husband. My marriage with Cheng Junyang did not have domestic violence or cheated, but it still ended up breaking up.
I once had a very strong mother-in-law who had to take care of everything, and Cheng Junyang is a "good boy who listens to his mother..."
Cheng Junyang and I met in Guangdong. I am from Ankang, Shaanxi, and he is from Hengyang, Hunan.
I once thought that Wang Baochuan digging wild vegetables was because of unswerving love until death. Now I know that it is called " Love Brain "! One-third of girls have this disease! Finally, I realized that understanding the truth is exchanged for tears.
I am not a face control, but the first thing I remember Cheng Junyang is his facial features.
People in love always have endless nonsense. I, who have never been materialistic, have been hasty and thought that he is the one I want to marry in this life, because he and I have a lot of "common language."
In order to be with him every day, we moved from the company dormitory to the rental house where mice freely appear. Later, I got pregnant. Cheng Junyang called his mother and told him that I was pregnant and he didn't want this child because he wasn't ready yet.
The mother said she would stay and help raise the child when he was born. (Cheng Junyang never mentioned to me that he only told me the day I gave birth to a child in the hospital.)
I was still very young at that time. I didn’t understand that girls who were pregnant before marriage were very cheap and were always inferior to others in my in-laws’ house!
For the sake of the so-called love, I resigned at home and waited for birth without a bride or a wedding. Every day, he cooked and cleaned Cheng Junyang and his brother, and became a veritable housewife.
I quit my job and do nothing at home. I am apart from watching TV or reading novels every day. I don’t know how to use the pregnancy to learn something useful to recharge myself.
There is no other sound in the rental house of more than ten square meters except for the sound of the TV. Loneliness surrounded me tightly like a tornado. The only thing I can do is to prepare meals at home and wait for the Cheng Junyang brothers to get off work and wait for them to come back to talk to me.
I don’t know why I became so crying after I got pregnant. Cheng Junyang came back from playing cards when he went to his colleague’s house to play cards late. On Sunday, he and his colleague went to the Internet cafe to play all night games. I cried, and he ignored me and cried.
Before the child was born, I became the "crazy" in his eyes. He said I was too tight to control him, and his love became a burden for him to escape. He would rather work overtime until midnight every day than go home and see me crying.
is one month away from the due date. My mother-in-law came from her hometown in Hunan and Dongguan to take care of me during confinement. When we first met, he was not unfamiliar with me or politely, but only his mother-in-law's airs.
commanded me to take care of my body after giving birth to my eldest son and to succeed in having a second child before he went to kindergarten. While she is still young, leave the matter of raising children to her, Cheng Junyang and I will be responsible for making money.
This unexpected order made it difficult for me to accept. I try my best to maintain my upbringing and be polite to her.
March 2007 , I gave birth to a son named Cheng Zixian. Although before this, my mother-in-law had forced me to do a life test.
From the wrinkles that vary in depth when she smiled, it can be seen that she liked this eldest grandson from the bottom of her heart, and hummed a small song in the ward with her child in her arms every day.
As for me, my child has landed safely, my task has been completed. It doesn’t matter whether the wound hurts or not. Whether the child can be breastfeeded is what my mother-in-law cares about.
Due to the irregular fetal position, the child umbilical cord circled the neck 2 and a half circles, and the doctor performed a caesarean section for me. My mother-in-law was very dissatisfied with the result because it cost 4,000 yuan. If it was , it would be possible to get it 500 yuan, but I spent 4,500 yuan.
money was borrowed by my mother-in-law from Cheng Junyang's relatives. Before she could confinement, my mother-in-law was afraid that I forgot to borrow 4,000 yuan from her relatives. I kept reminding me that the money was borrowed to give birth to me, so I and Cheng Junyang needed to pay it back, and she had no obligation to help us pay off the debt.
I promised her: "This money was originally borrowed to give birth to me. Don't worry, I will not be able to pay back my debts. When the child is older, I will go out to work. I will take out the money I earned to pay off my debts as soon as possible, and I will never drag you down."
My son was three months old. We were so poor that we couldn't even get the money for the child to buy cold medicine for him. Under the fierce beating of reality, Cheng Junyang called his mother to come up and take the child back to his hometown in Hunan to raise him. It was time for me to go to work. The debt of more than 20,000 yuan was overwhelming.
Cheng Junyang's salary of less than 1,500 a month plus he has to support four people himself, which is really difficult. Because his younger brother's work is unstable, he relies on us to support his life, not only to care about his food but also to smoke cigarettes.
Cheng Junyang had long been unable to hold on. I couldn't bear to see my child suffer with us, so I endured the pain and handed him over to my mother-in-law to take him back to my hometown in Hunan.
As soon as I found a job, my mother-in-law called me to remind me that she would transfer the money to her to pay off her debts after earning money. Cheng Junyang and I lived frugally for two years before we paid off the debt.
In 2009, in order to register the child, Cheng Junyang and I went back to Hunan to get the marriage certificate and went back to our parents' home. The day after I got home, my mother-in-law called my dad and asked my dad to tell me to move my household registration in a notice. Before she could finish her words, my dad hung up the phone.
My dad said that the household registration may be my last trump card in the future, so I asked me to think clearly that once I moved my household registration to Hunan, I would probably have to take off my skin if I want to move out of my in-laws' house in the future...
I didn't plan to move my household registration from the beginning. Although I haven't been with my mother-in-law for a long time, I probably know what kind of person she is.
The first time she met, she didn't give me a gift. When she went back to make up her marriage certificate, Aunt Cheng Junyang came to see me and gave me a red envelope of 600 yuan as a gift. As soon as she turned around, she wanted to leave the 600 yuan, because Aunt Cheng Junyang had a son, and his aunt gave me a meeting gift, and she would help me give my aunt's son a meeting gift.
return gift is fake, and it is a fool who doesn’t take advantage of it.
lived in my mother's house for 10 days. Because I had to go to work, Cheng Junyang and I took our children back to Hunan. My mother-in-law heard that I did not move my household registration as she asked, so she quarreled for a long time.
said that I thought her family was poor and that I looked down on her family if I didn’t move my household registration. No matter how I explained, she just didn't listen. Cheng Junyang lowered his head and said nothing.
Maybe I felt that those words didn't hurt me at all. My mother-in-law was unwilling to give up and said with tears in her eyes: "I planned to wait for you to sign the household registration and hold the banquet for you. In our Hunan, we only recognize the banquet but not the marriage certificate. Even if you have a certificate and don't serve wine, you will never pass the door. I pity you come to my house from all over the place and kindly serve you to give you a name, but you are wary of me and refuse to sign the household registration..."
I understand that Cheng Junyang is not easy to make money, and I have never mentioned brides, banquets, etc. to him, and even save wedding photos.
exchanged for the sentence "I ran to the door by myself". She was right, I did run to the door by myself.
That was the first time I faced shame, and I didn't want to live in his house for a day. I told Cheng Junyang that I was going to take the child back to my hometown in Shaanxi and ask my parents to help take care of him. I will never step into Hunan in this life.
will not be close to his parents. As for him, I will not stop him from being filial to his parents. What he should do is his business. I will not interfere or participate!
April 5, 2019, Qingming Festival, light rain.
Cheng Junyang and I quietly ran from his house with our son on our backs. The train ticket was 12:30 in the morning and there was no seat. Shortly after entering the ticket gate, Cheng Junyang's father called him and asked if he had run away with me.
His mother snatched the phone and said a lot of threats and temptations, threatening that if he dared to follow me, he would not recognize his son in the future. If he doesn't follow me, she will give him the money to start up funds and go to Shaoyang to learn to sell tiles from his aunt. After learning, she will open her own store in Hengyang .
I could see that Cheng Junyang was very moved. Seeing him shaken, I said, "Or you might as well go back. When you go back, you admit your mistake. They will forgive you. Your father is still your father, and your mother is still your mother. I am a person with a clear distinction between love and hate. You know how your mother treats me very well... ..."
I feel very conflicted inside, and I hope he will go back to Shaanxi with me, but I don't want to see him in a difficult situation.
No need to say anything else. He had made a choice. He held the child from me and asked me tentatively: "If I really go back, will you hate me?"
I told him no, and he continued: "My mother said that as long as I go back, he will lend me money to open a store. When my side is stable, I will pick you and my son back..."
I accompanied Cheng Junyang to the ticket office to refund the tickets, and was told that the tickets that had been inspected cannot be refunded. He gave up the fare of more than 200 yuan and chose to go home.
He said that he would go as he watched us get in the car. Before stepping onto the flame car, I turned around and shouted, "Cheng Junyang, let's stop here!"
The moment the car door closed, I hugged the child and cried loudly, completely ignoring the strange gazes of others. He knew that I had not bought a ticket. It was nearly 16 hours' drive from Hengyang to Ankang , but he chose to abandon us. What do I picture a man like
?
looked at me crying, and my son cried as well. There were two young men in the car who looked like a student in the age of seventeen or eighteen, who looked like a pity for us mother and son, so he took the initiative to give the position to us mother and son.
I comforted the child, put him to bed, and put him in a seat that a kind-hearted person gave up. I stood next to the child for a night, thinking all night...
Cheng Junyang failed to get what he wanted. He was cheated by his mother. His mother did not use the money to support him in opening a store, but instead scolded him for being so bloody. He was called a fool of himself and was a corrupt man who could not even keep his son.
When I got home, I told my parents that I wanted to divorce. I thought they would feel embarrassed. My father said earnestly: "No matter what choice you make, your mother and I support you. You don't have to explain your life to others. Just be worthy of yourself."
Cheng Junyang did not agree to the divorce. I forced him to take a photo of the pesticides at home and sent him a MMS.
He asked me to give him two years, and if he doesn't get better after two years, he will agree to a divorce. I agreed and bought tickets with him and returned to Dongguan to continue working.
As soon as the salary was paid, Cheng Junyang's mother found various reasons to ask for money, and later cheated him of his salary card, for fear that I would send the money he earned to subsidize his parents' home.
I asked him to take the card back, and plan for our small family, saving some money back to Ankang to buy a small house, and doing some small business is better than anything else.
He said that it was his mother, and he had no choice. He believed that his mother would not harm him...
The family was all supported by my salary, and he had to transfer some living expenses to his children every month, although my parents never asked me for a penny. But they had no responsibility to raise children for me, so I transferred money to my family on a monthly basis.
In October 2012, Cheng Junyang and I divorced amid all kinds of trivial matters that we were worried about money. I asked my father to give me a receipt certificate in advance and moved my child’s household registration back to Shaanxi.
Divorce was divorced without telling his parents. His family knew that our divorce was already in 2016.
In order to get a successful divorce, I promised Cheng Junyang that he would not have to pay a penny for the child's child support, nor would he change his surname.
He kept his promise and did not take the initiative to give his child a dime to support, and he never bought even 9.9 per pack of socks for his child.
We rarely contact each other after divorce and live their own lives. Occasionally, his younger brother Cheng Yifan would send me messages.
In 2018, in order to accompany my children to grow up, I returned to my hometown to develop.
bought a small house of more than 80 square meters in the county town. In order to earn the decoration fee, I borrowed a loan of 50,000 yuan to do the barbecue business. I often stay up until two or three o'clock in the middle of the night to wait for customers.
In mid-2020, my son and I moved into our new home. Looking at the home that we earned on our own hands, I was very satisfied.
On the day of moving, Cheng Yifan sent me a moving red envelope of 1,200 yuan, but I refused to accept it. I will only receive their red envelopes during the Chinese New Year, because it is the New Year's money they sent to my son. It is also a red envelope, but the meaning is different.
21 Spring Festival, Cheng Yifan told me that his brother was talking about his new girlfriend. The woman introduced by his colleagues, and the woman went back to celebrate the New Year with his brother. The whole family doesn't like that woman. Not only is she lazy, she is 4 years older than Cheng Junyang and has two sons.
All relatives in the family opposed Cheng Junyang's contact with that woman. Cheng Yifan asked me to help persuade his brother, but I refused.
I told him: "Your brother and I have been divorced for a long time. We are free to get married. It doesn't matter who he wants to find, and it's not my turn to take care of it..."
Later, Cheng Junyang's salary card was taken away by his new girlfriend. The woman used to work in a foot washing city in Guangzhou. In Cheng Yifan's words, his brother's girlfriend "sees countless people!"
Last year, Cheng Junyang earned 150,000 yuan, and was taken away by that woman. She was very smart. She didn't get a marriage certificate with Cheng Junyang, but she used the money Cheng Junyang earned to buy a house in their town.
In August this year, when I learned that my son was about to go to the first year of high school, Cheng Yifan, the uncle, made several calls and asked how his child's grades were.
It’s a pity that my son missed the public high school by 2 points. Cheng Junyang was worried that I would ask him for money, so he suggested that I send my child to Hunan to vocational school.
I asked my son for his wishes and said he wanted to go to high school and hoped that I could think of a solution for him. public schools can't get in, so I can only find a way to find a private high school for him. The tuition fees for private high schools in the city are so expensive.
A friend helped me find a key private high school in the county town, with a tuition fee of nearly 20,000 yuan a year.
living expenses are 600 yuan per month, you can pay them all in one lump sum or monthly.
I have exhausted my family’s assets when decorating the house and I really can’t afford that much money, so I asked my son to call his father. Let’s see if his father can pay half of it, and I will pay 10,000 yuan in tuition every year, other living expenses, daily pockets, etc.
Cheng Junyang said he had no money and asked his child to go to a vocational school. His son was so angry that he hung up the phone.
Three days before registration, Cheng Junyang's mother transferred 9,000 yuan to me on WeChat and asked me to pay the tuition for my child. Cheng Yifan told me that his brother went to Jiangxi to be his son-in-law and was the stepfather of others' injustice.
That woman has two sons, the older one is 5 years old and the younger one is 3 years old. Neither son belongs to her husband, so her husband divorced her.
Of course, this is just a speculation from their family. Jiangxi generally prefers boys over girls. Few men don’t want their sons when they divorce. Even if they don’t want them, their parents will want them. There is only one reason for not having children, not their own.
Finally met Cheng Junyang, a "good guy", so the woman naturally had to keep his wallet tight.
Cheng Yifan said that his brother is now betrayal of his relatives and his son is not raised, and he uses all the money he earns to raise his son for others. The woman had a younger brother in her family. He didn't listen to the advice and wanted to go to Jiangxi with that woman to be a son-in-law.
His mother scolded him for being spineless at home every day. She admitted my goodness for the first time this year and regretted not being kind to me at the beginning.
There has been no Cheng Junyang in recent years, and I still pulled my son up. The most difficult times have come. What are the current difficulties for me?
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