Warring States .Mencius said in "Mencius": "A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June."
The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is mostly trivial matters at home, such as who washes clothes and who cooks food. These small things are not a big deal for men, but if your wife and your mother are not in harmony, then you should do these things that are prone to problems.
But if the mother-in-law wants her son to live a happy life, then you must do these 5 points well:
First: Children's education
Children's education problems can be said to be the first among the contradictions caused by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It is said that is a generation after generation. As a grandmother, there are many things you can not drink or eat, but as long as the granddaughter (grandson) needs to eat, the grandmother will never hesitate. When a grandson or granddaughter makes a mistake, when a mother criticizes her, her grandmother will protect her, which makes her feel very depressed.
When grandma is educated, don’t interfere and stop her. This will make the child feel in his heart that he has a grandmother for him, and thus he will disdain and ignore his mother's education. Finally, it leads to personality deviation.
Second: Take care of your child well
There are many mothers-in-law who think that it is their duty to take care of their children by themselves, and think that it is not their responsibility. Think quietly that the struggle between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the greatest protection and respect for one's own interests. There is no need to take care of children or not.
Mother-in-law should appear in front of her daughter-in-law in time when she is most difficult and helpless, and put out her warm hand to help her.
3: Adjust your own lifestyle habits
Can't accept the other party's lifestyle habits, which is also a fuse that causes the deterioration of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Living habits are thrifty, frugal and regular, which are carved into the bones of the mother-in-law in the 1960s and 1970s.
Therefore, mother-in-law should not use their own living habits to force their daughter-in-law to adapt to their living habits. Different ages, their respective ways of thinking and style of doing things are naturally different. Naturally, there will be inconsistent thinking and differences. At this time, the mother-in-law needs to push herself behind and put her daughter-in-law in a high position, so that the daughter-in-law feels that she respects her life rules and habits very much.
Fourth: Don’t interfere with the life of your daughter-in-law
Young parents in the new era are particularly independent from the bottom of their hearts.
So, mother-in-law should not interfere too much in the private life, feelings, and work of the daughter-in-law. Especially when your son quarrels with his daughter-in-law, don’t care about his daughter-in-law’s feelings at all, stand on the same front with his son to deal with or even bully his daughter-in-law.
A mother-in-law should be best friends with her daughter-in-law, so that her son can live a happy life.
Fifth: No control or change
Mother-in-law should not control or change the thoughts and behaviors of her daughter-in-law based on her own wishes.
Relationships are mutual. If you have different living habits, don’t forcefully change each other. Just “almost” when getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
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