In the marriage and love market, there are two groups of people, leftover men and leftover women.
These two groups of people are single and worry about getting married, but they look down on each other, the leftover man looks down on the leftover woman, and the leftover woman dislikes the leftover man.
These two groups of people are like two parallel lines, waiting and watching each other, but no one is interested in taking a step forward and letting the two lines intersect.
There was an expert who suggested that in order to solve the problem of marriage, leftover men and women could be brought together, which attracted a lot of ridicule.
Why are leftover men and women obviously single, but they look down on each other? The following reasons may be answered.
different classes
The most obvious thing is that most leftover women live in cities, have relatively good conditions, have relatively high cultural cultivation, and have a high taste in life; while most leftover men live in rural areas, with sloppy conditions, and even very bad.
These two groups of people are like two classes, so how can they get along together?
People talk about circles between people, and people with the same life experience or experience can get along with each other. To put it bluntly, marriage must be about being a good match. The character, education, character, family style and the same values of the two people are the key to the marriage lasting.
There are different circles of leftover women and leftover men, and their environments are different, and the values and attitudes of life are completely different. Leftover women are relatively superior and look down on leftover men. Leftover men know themselves and dare not provoke leftover women.
So, a situation that is seen on the surface is formed where each other looks down on each other.
inferiority
In front of leftover women, most leftover men should have inferiority.
Just in terms of education, the education of leftover women is far greater than that of leftover men, and the work, income, family conditions, etc. are all higher than that of leftover men. In essence, leftover women dislike leftover men, and they also look down on leftover men from the bottom of their hearts. This is also the most fundamental reason why urban leftover women would rather be single than marry a rural leftover man.
people know that the leftover man is left behind by conditions, while the leftover woman has high requirements and cannot be satisfied. In terms of marriage, as long as the leftover woman lowers the conditions, the wish can be achieved, which is far from reaching the leftover man.
It may be because of this that the leftover man has a sense of inferiority in front of the leftover woman. This sense of inferiority also makes the leftover man choose to use a mentality of contempt and despise to hide his inner imbalance and the embarrassment he cannot have.
Different mentality
Ask ten leftover women if they want to get married? The answer you got may be - don't want it. This is the real answer from the heart, I really don't want it.
Ask ten leftover men if they want to get married? The answer may be that they don’t want to, but they don’t have that confidence. It’s not that they don’t want to, but that the conditions make them not want to.
The leftover man and the leftover woman have completely different mentalities in marriage. The leftover man’s requirements are very single. As long as he is a woman and lives, as long as the other party is willing, the leftover man is already grateful and has no other requirements.
The leftover women are different. The leftover women’s requirements are put in a row. If you don’t meet the conditions, you would rather be single and never give in.
One is high above, squinted, one dares not make any requests, only wants to be willing, one will not like it at all, and the other dares not look forward to it. It has different starting points, different attitudes, and different mentalities.
So, a situation where each other looks down on each other is formed.
Poor macho
After a man, a man is in a downturn, he will never forget to declare male sovereignty. This is left over from the concept of thousands of years. Men are in a panic and in a state of panic.
But left-handed men can't find a place to talk about left-handed women, so they can only attack from the age of left-handed women, expressing that they don't like older women, strong women, women with bad personalities, etc.
And that's all the places where leftover men can pick leftover women. This is how to resolve embarrassment by themselves, although men are unwilling to admit it.
The poor machismos of men have made them form a mechanism of automatic neglect when facing the pride of leftover women, denying the fact that leftover women are superior to them.
and inferiority made them stop and dared not think about it, so they had to resolve it by looking down on it.
conclusion
left men and women have formed different mentalities because of their different classes. Because of this mentality, left men unconsciously feel inferior when facing leftover women and dare not think about it.
In front of leftover women, men may show disgust, dislike the leftover women’s age, dislike the leftover women’s bad temper, etc. In fact, this is all caused by inferiority complex, and machoism also makes them unable to accept the fact that women are superior to them.
The leftover woman really doesn’t like the leftover man, but the leftover man chose to look down on him because he couldn’t get it. The two started differently, but they showed the same attitudes. They both looked down on each other and despised each other. This is the reason why the leftover man and leftover woman looked down on each other.
