Text/Xia Mo01. Volume Preface Love sometimes seems very strong, but in life with food, rice, oil and salt, it is unknown when it will deteriorate quietly. Many women regard marriage as their own support before getting married. I thought that as long as I devote all my sincerity t

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01, Volume Start

Love sometimes seems very strong, but in the life of food, rice, oil and salt, I don’t know when it will deteriorate quietly.

Many women regard marriage as their own support before getting married. thought that as long as you pour all your sincerity into the man you like, you can get his sincerity.

In fact, love often cannot stand the test in real life.

Zhang Ailing said: "Love looks romantic and innocent, but in the end the reality is cruel because it cannot withstand the cooking of oil, salt, sauce and vinegar."

When we fall in love, we promised to be with us for the rest of our lives. The sweetness at that time made women think that as long as we love each other in life, we can overcome all the difficulties in life.

However, when you enter marriage, you will know that love is like food. If it is not preserved properly, it will deteriorate and make it difficult to swallow.

A truly smart woman will not regard marriage as her whole, nor will she regard men as her own support.

Women are middle-aged, don’t overestimate your lover and do three things as soon as possible.

02. At any time, to motivate yourself to grow up, you must have the ability to resist wind and rain

Goethe said: "Although we can grow up with the protection of our parents and relatives, rely on our brothers and friends, and use the help of our friends to get happiness because of our lovers, no matter what, in the final analysis, human beings still rely on ourselves."

Some women forget to let themselves continue to grow after marriage.

Especially, when the child is born, she devotes all her energy and time to the child.

During the years when the child grew up, she was so busy that she was overwhelmed.

occasionally wants to motivate myself to grow up, but always makes excuses for myself and say: The child is too young, he needs me, wait a few more years.

A woman who does not grow up will eventually develop the habit of relying on men to live.

If a woman relies too much on men's life and stops making herself progress, then when the child grows up and enters society, she will find that she is derailed from society.

A woman does not grow up and does not manage herself carefully. The gap between her and a man will become bigger and bigger, which will be unfavorable to the management of marriage.

Women who give up and don’t grow up will be easily let down by society and time in the end.

No matter how busy women are in their lives, they should motivate themselves to grow and keep becoming better. In this way, they can be able to deal with wind and rain at any time.

03. Don’t change yourself for the sake of a man, learn to be yourself firmly

When a woman gives her sincerity in love, she is easy to become humble and unconfident. In order to please men, we always lower our principles and constantly please men.

and even, in terms of life, they will dress themselves up like a man likes.

When there is a conflict and conflict between two people, in order to take into account the man's feelings, women can easily give up their principles and bottom lines.

A woman who changes herself for the sake of a man lives without self. Moreover, for the sake of men changing themselves, they can only briefly attract men's hearts, and over the long period of time, they will gradually feel that women are boring.

A woman without self, her soul is boring and dull.

Dell Carnegie said: "The experience of any successful person shows that if you want to succeed, you must only maintain your true self-being, and you should not become anyone else."

Women, at any time, don't change yourself for men. No matter how much you love someone, please learn to be yourself firmly. Only when you know how to be yourself can you live your ideal life like light.

Learn to be yourself, set your own principles and bottom line in life, and work hard for your life goals. Don’t give up on yourself randomly because of love, otherwise you may become nothing when you lose love.

04. Give up the glass heart, keep a positive attitude, and strengthen your heart

In life, everyone will encounter various difficulties, but the mentality is different, which leads to different endings.

Women should never regard marriage as your refuge, and don’t regard men as your whole. No matter what kind of man you marry, please don't rely too much on him.

Giggs said: "Attitude determines success or failure. No matter whether the situation is good or bad, you must have a positive attitude. Don't let depression replace enthusiasm. Life can be of extremely high value or uselessness. You can choose whatever you want."

Learn to maintain a positive attitude and live bravely with your own attitude. In marriage, no matter what happens, you must learn to grow up and face it yourself.

Even without the care of men and the support of men, we must learn to maintain a positive attitude and face life.

Women, only by giving up their glass heart and constantly strengthening their hearts can they become unafraid of wind and rain in the future.

If a woman's heart is too fragile, she will be unable to recover when encountering a little bit of storm on the road of life. Having a strong heart, only when a woman encounters danger can she have the courage to face difficulties.

Having a strong heart is the greatest support for women. On the road of life, smart women understand that cultivating themselves starts with cultivating their minds.

05. Summary

Smart women know how to manage themselves well at any time.

Marriage is just a platform on the road of life, it is not the whole life of a woman. Women who know how to manage their own lives will often be able to manage their marriage better.

Woman, at any time, don’t overestimate your lover and don’t rely too much on him. A good love is when two people grow up and progress together.

If you are excellent, it is easier to attract men's sincerity. If you stand still, the gap between the two people will become bigger and bigger, which will eventually lead to greater friction and cause the marriage to break up.

On the road of life, be good at yourself and live up to yourself, so that you can have the energy to love the people around you and better manage your marriage.

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Author: Xia Mo, a new emotional tutor, psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer on the entire network of over 1 billion, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotions, gender, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.