Words of the soul: It is not scary to make mistakes. Only by admitting and correcting them can you see your character; don’t just punish mistakes. Our ultimate goal is to solve problems. Exposing the problem and solving them in the bud is what we need, rather than concealing them to cause greater mistakes.
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1 Mysterious disappearance record
Xueping's record on the computer is gone again, and it happened 3 times in this month. The first time was that there were no records on the computer, and even paper records were no longer available. Xueping looked around, but she couldn't find her record. It was really strange. I remember writing the record clearly and calling it on the computer, but it was gone.
Xueping thinks it may have disappeared by accident.
resulted in a second loss in less than half a month. The records on the computer are gone, while the records on the paper are there. Xueping still remembers that she called on the computer in the morning, but at around 1:00 in the afternoon, it disappeared, which made people doubt it. But no one verified it.
Xueping thought again, maybe someone who can’t operate the computer accidentally got it, so she just called it.
However, it seems that there are really one or two things, and the third time, she remembered that after clearly typing, another colleague then typed a few records, and this time two people said that they saw that there was this record on the computer, but it was gone, so Xueping got angry and who deleted it.
There was a person who immediately had a strong reaction. You just suspected that I deleted it. If anyone deleted it, it would be clear that I wouldn't fiddle with the computer and I would rely on me.
Did she react so much?
Xueping did not name her name. Xueping was just angry that she had been fined three times in a row, and she was fined for the first time. She was really unlucky.
2 Being guilty
And this person's reaction made Xueping think that it was her who did it. The man shouted loudly, and everyone around him came to comfort her. But there is nothing she can do about this. She doesn't admit it, and you know that her husband is envious and says it is a good department, guarding the big leaders, and everyone around them is taking advantage of this.
This incident seemed to be Xueping wrong.
Think from the perspective of others. When the computer and paper records were not available for the first time, the leader had no choice but to fine Xueping his money. This has been two consecutive times, three times. Xueping cannot be blamed for suspecting that someone deleted it. Although she did not admit it, Xueping must be this person. It’s better to cover up the truth. It’s not you, what are you excited about? If it weren't for a mental ghost, would you react so much?
Things in this world are always hard to say. Whoever has the right to say it is right, regardless of the actual right or wrong.
We can't say whether this person did it on purpose or not, it may be that he was really not skilled in deleting it. And it doesn’t matter if you dare not admit it when doing things, just lower your head silently, because after all, people are afraid of being punished for making mistakes. However, what is incomprehensible is the kind of mistake that he made, and he said with confidence that he was not himself, and he made a rant in a righteous manner. This kind of inversion of black and white is absolutely unforgivable, because the relationship between people is not about making mistakes, but about frame-up and shirking responsibility.
3 The root cause of shirking responsibility
Of course, in this example, if you give this serious example, such a person may not be able to bear it. But when you look at history, the battle between justice and evil is mostly like this. Justice investigates cases, evil will bite back and kill justice unjustly. Do you think their behavior is abominable? Yes, everyone thinks it is hateful. Everyone tends to be justice, but they don’t find out where the root cause of this problem lies in the fact that they bite backwards without admitting the small things, and they succeeded once, twice, and many times, and then they became a habit. Then when faced with whether to go to evil or justice, some people always feel that they can completely blame them after the matter is done, so they dare to do it.
may be refuted at this time, why is it so serious? Don’t write a small matter so exaggeratedly.
Then do you still remember a story about a drunk driving accident? Write truthfully. The two cars collided and were both waiting to deal with the accident. At this time, a beautiful woman got out of a car and said, "Master, I'm wrong with this matter, I'm fully responsible. Since we have to wait for the traffic police and insurance companies to handle the accident, why don't we make friends and drink and chat together." So the driver was moved and felt that this was fate, so he drank the wine, but the beauty didn't drink it. Then what? The result of the incident was that the traffic police came to check the scene and found that a driver was drinking and was fully responsible. So a traffic accident turned into a story of a drunk driving accident.
, you see, this woman's backbiting was successful, it was her mistake. Perhaps it is precisely because she is used to shirking responsibility that she is doing the backbiting thing so calmly.
Xueping thought about it later and observed that it is normal for humans to make mistakes. People are not perfect, nor are they machines, without those accuracy, nor the firm arms and legs of machines. Even solid machines make mistakes, let alone people, so it is normal for people to make mistakes when they are tired and careless.
If someone dares to admit it after making a mistake, things can be saved quickly. If the relevant departments do not punish the mistakes that dare to admit but remedy, then the person will not hide them in fear to make the mistakes. Instead, you dare to admit it and dare to expose your mistakes, so that the mistakes will be resolved at a very young age. It will not be hidden as a big mistake or hidden danger because it dares not be exposed to the open. So we think from the other hand, if all the mistakes are exposed, can we better solve the problem? The result we want is to curb the problem in its bud, rather than being hidden, causing the backlog to eventually become an irreversible big problem.
is like this person in the story. If we dare to admit it, then we can teach her how to avoid such a thing, so that the problem will be solved, and there will be no repeated situations.
4 Lenin's psychological torture and correction errors
When Lenin was eight years old, his mother once took him to Aunt Anya's house as a guest. The lively and active little Lenin was careless and broke a vase from the girl's house. But no one saw it. Later, the aunt asked the children, "Who broke the vase?" The other children said, "It's not me." Little Lenin was afraid of being a child and was afraid that he would be scolded by his unfamiliar aunt if he told the truth, so he followed everyone to answer loudly, "No - yes - me!" However, when the mother looked at his expression, she had guessed that the vase was broken by the naughty Little Lenin. Because this child is very naughty, similar things often happen at home. However, Lenin, the young, has always taken the initiative to admit his mistakes and has never lie.
So, Lenin's mother thought: How should we treat the child lying? Of course, the most convenient way is to expose the matter directly and punish him. But Lenin's mother didn't do that. She believes that it is important to educate her son to have the courage to admit his mistakes and be an honest and good child after making mistakes, rather than blame him. So she pretended to believe her son, and did not mention this matter within three months, but told her son various stories of honesty and trustworthiness, waiting for her son to feel ashamed of her behavior deep in her conscience.
From then on, Lenin's mother clearly felt that her son was not as lively as before, and it seemed that his conscience was tormenting him. One day, before Little Lenin went to bed, his mother stroked his head as usual while telling him stories. Unexpectedly, Little Lenin suddenly burst into tears and told his mother painfully: "I deceived Aunt Anya. I said it was not me who broke the vase, but I did it." Hearing that the child was ashamed and uncomfortable, the mother patiently comforted him and said, "Write a letter to Aunt Anya and admit her mistake to her. Aunt will definitely forgive you." So Little Lenin got up immediately and with the help of his mother, he wrote to her aunt to admit her mistake.
people actually feel relieved after admitting their mistakes. Society is willing to handle mistakes well, so it dares to admit them. Lenin's mother did not punish the child's mistakes through accusations and punishments. Instead, she guided him to say it himself and forgive the matter with kindness.
We should be like this too. Don’t think that the mistakes made in society are different from the mistakes of children. In fact, it is the same principle, and the method of handling should be as kind as Lenin's mother.
or the same sentence: "If exposes all the errors, it can better solve the problem. Suppressing the problem in the bud is the result we want, rather than being hidden, causing backlogs, and finally becoming an irreversible big problem. "
