After divorce, will you still remarry your ex-wife? Mr. Jin, 39, said: "I want to remarry my ex-wife, but my ex-wife is unwilling to remarry me. I am in a dilemma now and don't know what to do!"
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Mr. Jin's marriage story:
and his ex-wife Ms. Hao have two sons. The divorce was because Mr. Jin cheated on his ex-wife Ms. Hao when he was pregnant with his second child. At that time, his ex-wife also helped him back and repeatedly begged him to think about the child from the perspective of his two sons. But Mr. Jin was obsessed with it and wanted to be kind to his lover. For the sake of his lover, he used various methods to force his ex-wife to divorce.
In the words of Mr. Jin, I didn’t think too much about the divorce at the time, but I just felt that I couldn’t get along with my ex-wife and got tired of life with her. I thought that everyone could start over after the divorce. As for the children, no matter who they are with after the divorce, they are the children of both of them. He thought that his life after the divorce was very beautiful, thinking that she and her lover could live a good life, and that his ex-wife could find another man, and that he could not be a couple and a friend. Isn’t it all performed in TV series like this! But life told him that TV series are all made up, and the happy ending is to cater to the public's taste. It is good for couples who divorced because of extramarital affair to be strangers after divorce, and most of them become enemies, such as him and his ex-wife.
When he just divorced, his ex-wife Ms. Hao still hoped that he would change his mind and treat his children similarly. He can just watch the child and take him out for fun. As long as he doesn't bring him to his lover, his ex-wife will turn a blind eye and occasionally send messages to him, crying and complaining. To be honest, he felt annoyed and felt that his ex-wife couldn't get it clearly. He still wanted to dominate him and take care of him after he was divorced. He declared to his ex-wife more than once that they had divorced and told him not to disturb their current lives.
The ex-wife listened and stopped contacting him, but the child was not allowed to see him.
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Without the obstacle of ex-wife, it is said that his life with his lover should be better, but as a result, the more problems they get. When he was with his ex-wife, he didn't feel sorry for spending money on his lover, and he always had money to spend. After the divorce, the money seemed to be spent. When he is with his ex-wife, he only needs to deal with work, family affairs, food, drink, defecation and urination. He is always glamorous every day. When he is with his lover, his lover doesn't want to care about him and he thinks he is sloppy. Over the years, there have been more conflicts, and they start to break up every now and then. Every time he breaks up, his lover will go to another man. After more times, he will have no feelings for his lover.
After breaking up with his lover, he also thought about looking for another one, but this married man is easy to find a lover, while a second-married man is difficult to find a wife. After thinking about it, he still thinks that being with his ex-wife is the most cost-effective.
This is the first one, the ex-wife is wholeheartedly devoted to him. Second, they have two biological sons, so there is no need to worry about stepfather, stepmother, or rebirth. Third, remarriage does not require money. Fourth, parents still recognize their ex-wife.
After making up his mind, he went to find his ex-wife several times. Not to mention remarrying, his ex-wife was unwilling to even face him. He didn't understand. Even though his ex-wife hadn't found her next home, why didn't she want to turn around and just give it a try with him?
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case answer, personal thoughts, for reference only!
Why is the ex-wife unwilling to settle down, because she found that even if she settled down, she would not be happy. There is no determination in this world for no reason. What is the result of her repeated sacrifices for her children and for your family, and her repeated humble concessions and retention? It was your repeated and repeated damage! It was you who abandoned your wife and children without hesitation for the so-called true love. It was you who stomped her heart and kicked her into the cold water.
After you divorced, while you and your lover were in love with you and enjoying your new life, she slowly endured it in the middle of the night with her children alone. Her heart was not cold all of a sudden, but cold little by little.Whenever she looked back at the roads she had walked, she felt that she deserved to die.
As a man who betrays his family, he always thinks that as long as he admits his mistake, he can save everything, and that he can start over as long as he turns back, but not everything can be as you think. Others are human beings, and others have feelings, so it is normal for others to not forgive you.
From my personal standpoint, I don’t support your ex-wife’s remarriage with you because you are not sincere enough. The premise for you to remarry her is not that you realize that you are wrong, that you love her, and want to start with her again, but that you think she is cheaper and that it is more cost-effective to be with her. Does she deserve you? Can she choose you?
If you don’t cherish a good woman, you will be cherished by others. It is your regret for you to miss her, and it is her new life when she leaves you!
Carefully managing a marriage is the greatest respect for marriage, and divorce is also the greatest respect for marriage. If you divorce, you will not bother with your ex-wife and respect for the relationship you once did.
