"You have the final say whether to reconcile with life." This is a sentence from the best-selling book "Mr. Toad Go to See a Psychologist". The author of the book and British psychologist Robert Debord revealed the essence of many people's troubles: they can't let go of the past, trapped in their own obsessions, and did not live well.
When, when you learn to shake hands with the past, you will be considered to be aware of your life.
. Past feelings, don’t read
Some people don’t need to read some feelings, and some feelings don’t need to be pursued. Don’t force them if you are not yours. How can you meet the right relationship without leaving any wrong or unsuitable relationship? How can a new story unfold?
The reason why you are nostalgic is actually just that you are unwilling to admit that you lost, don’t refuse to admit it. But the question is, where can there be wins and losses in relationships? Only if it is suitable? Is fate here or not? No matter how you dig the ground, it doesn’t make much sense, because it’s hard to collect the water, and the result will not be changed.
People’s feelings are fragile like duckweed, unpredictable, and no one can tell what will happen next. All we can do is cherish possession and accept loss. When you are free, let go; when you are broken, you are broken, and laugh back without losing your grace.
After all, it is better to miss you than to meet you. Some feelings are suitable for being covered in memories, which will cause the least harm to yourself.
2. Failure experience, the easiest thing for people to do to turn around
is to hurt themselves with past mistakes. In fact, doing so will not be worth the cost. Every time I recall it, I feel sad, and there is nothing else to gain.
People do this more because of an inertia; if you can realize that you are ruding on damage in , then you can effectively warn, and then stop loss of in time.
People are not sages, so who can be without mistakes? As long as you are a human being, you cannot be perfect and you cannot never make mistakes.
stops in the past mistakes, which will only allow regret to cover hope and deepen the shackles in your heart. On the contrary, the free and easy-going people can take it, let it go, win it, and even lose it.
people who can afford to lose are quite impressive, and indirectly confirm a person's resilience and stress resistance.
Win or lose is just a state of life. Only by treating losses correctly can you gain the favor of winning.
People with a calm and gentle clouds are more likely to be excited in the loss, regain love, and rush to the next mountain and sea.
. The taste of regret, converting
It is precisely because of regret that people will learn to cherish it. A wise person will not always sink into this experience, but will know how to transform, know shame and then be brave, stimulate his own execution, and live his own self that will come true.
Just like Mr. Toad in "Mr. Toad Goes to See a Psychologist", after being enlightened by the psychologist Heron, he realized that his habit of pleasing others was the influence of his original family. He decided to make changes and boldly defend his rights. Because he had regrets and pains, he wanted to resist even more.
"What do you think about this?" "What do you feel?" "What would you do?" These three questions lingering in Mr. Toad's mind were answered: What your original family owes you, you have to find it yourself. The only one who can heal you is yourself.
Mr. Toad first took back his position as a school director from his friends, and also competed to be the chairman of the River Cricket Club, and regained his hobby of driving kayak and convertibles.
At the same time, he gave up his annoying family industry and turned to real estate, and enthusiastically planned to open a real estate company.
He does what he really likes and is willing to take responsibility for it. This is the way to live with the least regret in life.
day so that birds can fly, and the earth can be free and easy.
The story of Mr. Toad actually tells us: people wake up from grief and grow up in regret, and eventually live open-mindedly and calmly.Setbacks will come, and tests will come. We cannot stop them, but we can choose not to regret or be depressed, and cultivate our mind into the toughest part of the whole body. All difficulties in life have a way out. The key lies in our hearts. If our hearts are strong, why not be afraid of the wind, sword, frost, sword.
Life is to lose and grow. After going through the ups and downs, you will eventually learn to shake hands with the past and see different excitement.
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