Author: Mo Xiaobei
Introduction
We often say that in life, eight out of ten things are unsatisfactory. Everyone will encounter such or that, and they will always leave different regrets.
. When faced with these regrets, should we hold on or choose to let go?
Some people choose to keep holding on, always live in the past, feel that they are the most unlucky person, and they will stagnate from now on.
If you keep clinging to the past and be able to live a happy life, it is naturally a happy thing, but what if it is just pain?
We have always been looking for the best way to live, so what is the best way to live?
Xiaobei personally thinks that the best way to live is to follow your own state of mind, not to always look back and worry about the past, but to keep looking forward.
It is true that it is not easy to do these things, but there is no way around this.
If a person is always entangled in the past, he will naturally live a particularly painful life, because the past is a kind of regret, but he cannot escape from the regret.
Life is short, we always have to find more happiness, and the prerequisite for finding happiness is to let go of the pain that was once. Isn't it
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If you are entangled in the past, you will be immersed in pain for the rest of your life
The past is no matter what you do, it has become the past. Even if you can't accept it in your heart, you will eventually lose it.
In other words, for the past, you should choose to be covered with dust and not let it affect your life.
people, you must learn to say goodbye to the past. No matter whether you fail or succeed in the past, you must say goodbye.
If you always live in the past and are unwilling to stay away from yourself, then your world is painful, and only you can bear this pain yourself. My friend Xiaopeng has a deep understanding of this. Xiaopeng has always lived in the past and is unwilling to come out of the moment when he was closest to success in the past. He said to everyone:
"If I could work harder at that time, I would definitely pass the exam. Once I passed the exam, then my life would not be like this."
I felt very uncomfortable when I saw him in pain. I would comfort him when he first said it, but later I just forgot, because I found that he was a person who lived in the past.
Because he did not achieve his expected success, he felt very uncomfortable and became particularly decadent.
I wanted to ignore it, but as a friend, I really couldn't bear it. I wanted him to come out of the past and give him a good life.
When Xiaopeng confides to me again, I no longer comforted me, but directly criticizes him:
"No matter how brilliant you are, it is the past. If you keep staying in the past, then you will not have any great prospects in your life."
When I finished speaking, Xiaopeng was stunned for a moment. Obviously, he didn't expect me to say that, so when I said that, he still instinctively wanted to resist.
But I didn't give him a chance to resist, but kept saying that, hoping that he could really understand.
Maybe my provocation really works, but Xiaopeng is still actively facing the future. Although life is still a little harder for the time being, as long as a person is willing to bear this suffering and is willing to be on the road all the time, he will definitely get what he wants.
" Xianglin Sao " written by Mr. Lu Xun, I believe everyone knows it? Although she was miserable, she had been immersed in the misery of the past and told others how miserable she was when she met everyone.
If she can say goodbye to the past, then cover up those bad things, and then continue to live with a positive attitude, she will probably embrace happiness gradually. The "wealth" written by
Yu Hua's still has a miserable life experience, but he understands the truth that "it is better to live than to die well". As long as there is hope in his heart, everything will gradually get better.
If you are careful enough, look around you. In fact, there are many people's lives that may not be as good as you. It's just that you are too addicted to the past and regard those misfortunes as everything in your life.
In fact, people cannot always look back. They can occasionally look back, but they cannot always be entangled in the past.
Life is a one-way road. If you always look back and are struggling and unwilling to move forward, then your life will be wasted?
No matter whether it is beautiful or miserable, you cannot always look back, because indulging in the beauty of the past, you will also lose the motivation to move forward, thus wasting your time in the present.
isn't it?
Writer Zhang Ailing once wrote this sentence:
"The beauty of the past will only make people think that everything is over, while the troubles of the past will only make people worry again."
In fact, this is true. If the past is beautiful, you are always unwilling to move forward and always want to stay in the past; if you can't let go, the troubles of the past will always be pestering you, which will make you live in pain for a long time.
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No matter what, you have to let it go. Whether it is success or failure, it has become the past. Since it has become the past, what's the use of you?
Instead of sinking into pain in the past world, it is better to be prepared to do your best.
I admit that if a person’s past is brilliant, it is difficult to let go, but if you don’t let go, you can’t move forward, and your life will be over. Only by letting go will there be a new beginning.
Recently, I watched " Tang Dynasty Strange Things Record " and was particularly interested in the character Lu Lingfeng because he is a person who is good at letting go.
At the beginning, Lu Lingfeng came from a famous family and was a general of the Central Army. Although he repeatedly solved strange cases, he ended up in a very miserable situation. He was dismissed from the position of General of the Central Army. In desperation, he had to become Su Wuming's private army.
Later, because of the minister's relationship, he obtained the position of county magistrate. Although he solved the strange case, he never thought he was dismissed from office.
If it were someone else, it might have been unbearable, but he did not. Su Wuming asked him that he had been dismissed from office, so he felt uncomfortable?
He said, "What can you do if you are comfortable? What can you do if you are uncomfortable? You still have to continue."
It can be said that Lu Lingfeng really understood.
Since this is destined to be like this, don’t worry about it, because it has no meaning to be entangled.
So, in a limited life, you must cherish the present, don’t always look back, and know how to move forward.
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Writer Mo Yan In " Life and Death Fatigue ", he wrote this sentence:
"The world is like a book, pages are turned over. People should look forward and turn away old historical accounts."
At any time, you must know that a person who truly lives will not always live in the past, nor will he entangle the past. They will say goodbye to the past with the best attitude.
Because, he knew that only by saying goodbye to the past can he welcome the future with the best attitude and live his own life.
And those who have been immersed in the past often won’t have a good life for the rest of their lives. Even if he had been brilliant and had brilliant achievements, if he just indulged in it, he would still pass by happiness in the end.
As the saying goes, there is heaven beyond heaven, and there is someone beyond man.
So, whether it is bad or beautiful, since that happens in the past, let it become the past.
people always have to move forward. Isn't it?
Author introduction:
小Xiaobei, a young emotional writer, marriage counselor, focusing on marriage recovery and intimate relationship repair.
