A woman who knows how to manage finance will maximize the benefits in her own hands, while a woman who doesn’t know how to manage finance will make the money less and less in her own hands, and even fail to make ends meet.
Financial management is more like a concrete way of thinking, and the way of thinking is a tool for us. With the help of this tool, we can make the right decisions in our lives.
Similarly, Marriage Psychology is also an important manifestation of the way of thinking in the relationship between the two genders. Whether or not you know how to use psychology can show a big difference in marriage.
Women who do not understand marriage psychology will make their lives worse and worse, and their husbands and wives will become messy and riddled with each other;
Women who understand marriage psychology will make their lives better and better, and their husbands and wives will be in harmony, and their relationship will be together and grow old together.
So, how can men love themselves so much that they can’t extricate themselves? Women who understand marriage psychology will do this, and you will understand after reading it.
1. Keeping distance is the relationship between husband and wife knows
In the variety show " Gold Medal Mediation ", there are many couples who come to seek help because of their disagreement. They still want to live their lives, but they don’t know what to do, so they found the program team.
There are many people coming and going. Most couples who have emotional crises are mostly because the distance between them is not controlled well. They are either too strong or feel fearless.
Regarding this, mediator Hu Jianyun said: "Traditional families seem to have a privileged misunderstanding. Everyone will unconsciously think that you are mine because they live together for a long time. I want to possess you more and control you."
Marriage is a community, but husband and wife are two individuals that depend on each other but are independent of each other, which means that they cannot blur the boundaries when they get along with each other.
cannot rely on the other party to love himself and throw all the bad emotions to the other party;
cannot force the other party to do things that he doesn't like at all under the banner of love;
cannot feel that "I'm all for your own good", but will wantonly invade the other party's private space, leaving no freedom to the other party. The processing method of
or above will only wipe out the relationship between husband and wife. What we need to do is to understand what love is in marriage.
is respect, maintaining a suitable distance, allowing two people to experience a sense of comfort and freedom, being one and one but at the same time, being independent of each other. Marriages like
are what we should have.
2. If you have anything to say, don’t let the other party guess
Netizens say that their husband is a straight man. He used to tell him that he had a period of menstruation, and he would only say that he drank more hot water in . The netizen was very angry, but the other party was rumored and said that this was what the doctor told him. Although
is so reasonable, netizens still hope that her husband will care more about herself, rather than a simple saying "drink more hot water".
Later, netizens realized that it was not a solution to continue this, so she changed her method.
When she has her period, she will say, "Honey, I feel uncomfortable, so just cook me a cup of brown sugar water with ginger."
Then, her husband will bring a cup of steaming brown sugar water with .
Sometimes, we always feel that if the other person loves us, we will understand what we want, and even if we don’t say it, we should know it immediately.
In fact, parents may not be able to understand some things clearly, so how can husbands do it?
likes McDull’s sentence: “There is something to be said. Don’t wait for the other party to understand it, because the other party is not you and doesn’t know what you want. In the end, you can only be sad and disappointed, especially feelings.”
There is not much barrier between husband and wife. Hiding it adds a lot of habit and will also cause us to have many unnecessary negative emotions.
Without hurting each other's feelings, you might as well say anything directly. A straight-ball marriage can add a lot of fun.
3. Smart women will know how to praise men
There is an Pygmalion effect in psychology, which refers to what we finally get, which is what we expected at the beginning, that is, we can get what we expect.
For example, the teacher praises a child with mediocre qualifications from time to time as a good seedling. As time goes by, students will continue to work in this direction to achieve the teacher's wishes, and finally become a good student.
The same goes for marriage.
We hope that our husband will take care of the family, so we need to give affirmation when he does housework and tutor the children;
We hope that our husband will be considerate, so we need to praise the delicious food he cooks when he prepares the meal for himself.
Montaigne in the book "Essay Collection" said: "Language is just a tool, through which our will and thoughts are communicated. It is the interpreter of our soul."
people are like this. After getting praise from others, they will have positive psychological hints, so they want to do something more. Therefore, praising men more is of great benefit to us in running a marriage.
