Encountering an extramarital affair, the original wife must have the means to fight psychologically with the mistress rather than hand-to-hand combat.
Use appropriate methods to achieve your goals without harming your own interests.
instead of ignoring the consequences, hurting the enemy by one thousand and losing 800, and still failing to achieve the goal!
All mistresses have weaknesses. What the original wife has to do is do whatever the mistress is afraid of!
This extramarital affair case is a case that Lan Fang had just successfully resolved a few days ago.
The original wife, Ms. Qian, and her husband have been married for eleven years. The two met through blind dates.
are all civil servants. One child has just entered elementary school and has no conflicts between husband and wife. He has been living a good life.
Ms. Qian can’t figure out why her husband cheated. The mistress is still a married woman with children.
The mistress is a few years older than Ms. Qian and her husband, and the child is also several grades older than Ms. Qian’s child.
The mistress’s husband works in other places all year round. The mistress takes care of her children by herself. She is near the school and comes to pick up and drop off the children every day.
Ms. Qian's home is a little far from the school, and most of the time she is her parents-in-law helping to pick up and drop off the children.
Because Ms. Qian’s husband and sister’s child were sick, her parents-in-law helped her take care of the child for a while.
So Ms. Qian and her husband took turns picking up and dropping off the child. When they picked up the child, her husband and mistress developed an extramarital affair.
After the extramarital affair was discovered, the cheating man and Ms. Qian showed up, and the situation was said.
One day when I was picking up the child, it suddenly rained. The mistress didn't bring an umbrella and stood next to the cheating man's car.
The cheating man kindly asked the mistress to come up to shelter from the rain, and the two chatted for a while. When I saw
again, the mistress took the initiative to say hello and gradually got to know each other.
After the weather became cold, the mistress came early every time she picked up her child and went to the car to cheat on the man.
Two people added friends and would chat a few times when they were fine.
Until Ms. Qian’s parents-in-law came back to help take care of the child. In more than a month,
The two actually developed an extramarital affair, and the mistress took advantage of the time when the child was in school to make an appointment with a cheating man.
The cheating man also asked for leave, or secretly ran out of the unit for a while and dated a mistress.
Because the mistress lives with the child, her husband is not at home, and the mistress has never been discovered.
The cheating man went to and from get off work on time and did not talk too much with his mistress after he got home.
So Ms. Qian didn't notice that the extramarital affair lasted for more than half a year.
is Ms. Qian's colleague. She accidentally ran into a cheating man and mistress going to a hotel, and the extramarital affair was exposed.
Ms. Qian asked the man who cheated on him and the mistress to break off his relationship, and the man who cheated on him verbally agreed.
But I still secretly went to find the mistress and said that it would take time to break up when I was discovered.
Ms. Qian also went to find the mistress and was threatened. The mistress was also very scared.
said he didn't dare to find a cheating man anymore, but he would still have a secret meeting.
Ms. Qian really has no choice but to make a big difference in extramarital affair.
She doesn't want to get divorced, so she came to the Blue Party and asked if there is any solution, and it can be solved without making a big mistake.
Blue party helped Ms. Qian develop an exclusive separation plan based on what Ms. Qian said and the mistress. The focus of this plan is to fight a psychological battle with the mistress.
First, analyze the points of fear of two people.
Let me talk first, the place where a cheating man will be afraid.
On the one hand, the man cheated on him is a civil servant, so he is afraid that things will make a big deal and his career will be affected.
So the cheating man is afraid of his original wife making trouble regardless of the matter, and is afraid that the original wife will report his cheating.
On the other hand, the mistress is a housewife, the original wife has a job, and the conditions are better.
And the mistress is married and has children, so a cheating man will not think about marrying the mistress.
A cheating man doesn't want to marry a mistress, so he won't have the intention to divorce, so he is also afraid of divorce.
After all, losing a marriage for the mistress and losing a better original wife is not in the interests of a cheating man.
Let me talk about it again, mistresses will be afraid.
On the one hand, the mistress cares a lot about his children.
Housewives like this all give up their careers for their children and give too much money on their children.
They will be empty and lonely and cheat on men because their husbands are not around.
But compared to cheating men and husbands, children are more important to them.
So the mistress must be afraid that the original wife will look for the child, that the child will know the truth and hate her, or that there will be psychological problems.
On the other hand, the mistress is afraid of being known to her husband and is afraid of being divorced.
Because a cheating man will not divorce and marry a mistress, does the mistress have financial income?
She relies entirely on her husband financially, so she will be afraid that her husband will know and that she will be afraid of divorce.
The reason why the mistress has a broken relationship with a cheating man is because her husband is not at home now.
She felt that Ms. Qian could not find her husband, and her husband would not know.
Secondly, based on the fear of cheating men and mistresses, they are fighting psychological warfare.
First fight with the mistress. Compared to directly attacking the mistress's weaknesses, the original wife always attacks, and the mistress's psychological pressure will be greater.
For example, Lan Fang asked Ms. Qian to appear in the position of picking up the child in the senior grade every day after her parents-in-law picked up the child.
is near the mistress, and she looks like she wants to chat with the mistress while the mistress is not there.
The mistress took the child home, and Ms. Qian followed behind, just to scare the mistress and put psychological pressure on the mistress.
For example, Lan Fang asked Ms. Qian to find a way to get various numbers for her mistress’s husband.
Then send a MMS message to the mistress every day, and the content will be to the mistress’s husband and send screenshots of the details of the mistress’ cheating.
is to make the mistress afraid. Ms. Qian obviously didn't do it, but she put enough pressure on the mistress.
In less than a month, the mistress couldn't bear it anymore and decisively broke up with the man who cheated on her.
Then Ms. Qian also has to solve the problem of cheating on the man.
Infidelity is not the responsibility of the mistress alone, and a man who cheats infidelity needs to pay the main responsibility.
and others completely separated the mistress, and the original wife also needed to teach some lessons to the cheating man.
The original wife first brought a bunch of evidence of the man's cheating and went to the man's unit to find him.
presented the evidence in his office and asked the cheating man, and took these things to find the leader immediately. What would happen to the cheating man?
After being stopped by the cheating man, tell the cheating man that he will not tell the cheating man again next time.
makes the cheating man feel scared, which is the best punishment for him.
Then you have to consult a lawyer to act like you really want to sue for divorce.
allows the cheating man to negotiate terms without divorce in order to save Ms. Qian.
Ms. Qian is in charge of the economy and transfers all the property she can get to her name.
Let the cheating man sign an agreement, write a guarantee letter and confession letter, and must be punished in place to avoid re-offending.
In the end, many people may question why it is just a threat and not to do it directly.
For example, just look for the mistress’s husband and tell him that the mistress has cheated on him and ask her husband to deal with the mistress?
Because of this case, Ms. Qian did not retaliate against the mistress, but separated the mistress on the basis of not getting divorced or making a big deal.
If you tell your mistress directly, your mistress may go to a cheating man’s unit to make trouble.
may divorce the mistress. If the mistress is not bound by marriage, she will always be entangled with the cheating man and even encourage the cheating man to divorce. The effect of
doing this is completely opposite to the result that Ms. Qian wants.
So compared to telling the mistress directly, it is still impossible to solve the problem if you make a fuss.
is worse than to grasp the fear of the mistress, constantly create fear in the heart, and make the mistress collapse and voluntarily withdraw. This is the better way.
In extramarital affairs, you can fight psychologically, and there is no need to fight with each other. Injuring an enemy with one thousand and hurting one hundred is not a good way to hurt yourself.
If you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow the Blue Party and send a private message to talk about your situation.
I am Lan Fang, an emotional mentor who tells the truth and does practical things.
